Why is it that whenever I express vulnerability to a feminist their instant response is to attack me? It's always angry and dismissive. Sometimes I do want to just talk. Also, they dislike it when men get educated. They dislike facts. Why does a man's personal struggle become a gender issue?

Frird2008 · 2023-11-25T22:57:36+00:00

I hate to be the bearer of bad news my friend, but you have ZERO muthafvckin control over how a person chooses to respond to your setbacks.

However, by choosing to be honest & transparent with someone about your setbacks, you are doing two things simultaneously.

You are preserving your own character
You are exposing their character

Being honest about your negative emotions is the strongest & best thing you can possibly do, for two reasons:

It will expose who the person you're with truly is, giving you the information you need to decide whether you want to continue associating with that kind of person or not.
It will reinforce how strong of a person you are not to give into fear but instead lean into curiosity.

They say vulnerability is a weakness, but in reality, it takes a very strong mind to risk being vulnerable with someone even at the near certain expense of your relationship falling apart.

Like I say. Your partner can claim that they are so strong, but if their mindset about you depends on how strong you APPEAR to be (keyword: APPEAR to be, not in reality) & it's quick to change like the switch of a button, it goes to show that THEY are in fact the weak ones & that their claim was fabricated from the beginning.

Keep in mind that there is a possibility that everything I'm saying in this comment could be wrong. In that case, I invite a discussion in the replies to discuss these talking points even further.

Being vulnerable is only weak to a person with a weak mindset.

So to iterate,

Whether your vulnerability is a strength or a weakness depends ENTIRELY on the mindset of the person you're being vulnerable to.

Start being vulnerable more often with the women in your life. Weed out the ones who perceive it to be weak & by the time you're finished, youll know who the REAL women are. Vibe with those women & focus on attracting as many of those types of women into your life as possible.

Your life as a man is already fvckin hard enough when the people around you have a POSITIVE MINDSET when you share your struggles. Adopt a zero tolerance policy towards people who have a negative (or worse, dependent) mindset towards your inner state, vet people the FVCK OUT & watch the quality of the women you're with increase over time as you begin getting stricter with what you will & won't tolerate.

If they get offended at your standards, that's an EASY disqualifier right there.

Rod_Stiffwood · 2023-11-25T23:44:19+00:00

Because it's not about them.

PrivilegedWhiteGuy64 · 2023-11-25T23:47:30+00:00

Because a lot of those feminists are garbage. If u ask the average person what do they think about feminists, most of them would hold a negative view. Nobody likes them, not even normal women and other feminists, at least here in America. These days they’re just women who hate men and use equality as an excuse to hate us. They don’t actually care about equality. The only people that like them are misandrists which is themselves. They don’t care about our rights and as soon as we bring up intelligent arguments they will get offended and attack us and accuse us of being misogynistic. That’s their defense for everything. This is why nobody likes them and they’re irrelevant. If u live in America go out in real life and ask 10 regular people what they think about feminists and you’ll see how irrelevant they are because they are just a bunch of men haters

Illustrious_Bus9486 · 2023-11-25T22:34:14+00:00

A man should never show any sign of weakness to a woman. It will be weaponized against him at some point in the future.

Longjumping-Cut180 · 2023-11-25T22:03:33+00:00

Can't negotiate with terrorists. It's not in a feminists interest to be solution based or care about male problems. Your weakness is repulsive to them.

Contranovae · 2023-11-25T23:56:58+00:00

Feminists largely hold no empathy for men, and given the normal female responses to vulnerability in men is repulsion then they are showing you who they really are.

Kir141 · 2023-11-25T21:31:00+00:00

This is not adequate behavior, not consistent with normal human logic. I think that they are mentally ill people and it is high time to call the disease a disease.

Drougent · 2023-11-26T03:26:48+00:00

Feminists love to be empowered when it fits them and then play suffering Olympics if men try and express any of their grievances.

Saerain · 2023-11-26T04:46:47+00:00

I haven't yet dared to try opening up to my own mother because of watching her do this to every other male in her life since I was a kid.

Hell, several years ago, her new best guy friend shot himself in the head on her front porch, in the immediate wake of her usual exploitative behavior, and it's only gotten worse. Trying to comfort her, but every single time it's "Why would he do this to me?" and "At least women give birth, what excuse do men have for depression? No one's a real man anymore," and shit, I can only take so much.

coolblue38 · 2023-11-25T21:32:30+00:00

If someone can't have an open conversation, then don't give them the time. Saying "they" this or that also is situational, maybe that's your experience, but not everyone is like that. A man's personal struggle is personal it becomes a gender issue when you let it become that way.

MrMelbourne · 2023-11-26T08:31:36+00:00

Because feminists are solipsistic c××ts

silviurodrigo · 2023-11-26T05:37:50+00:00

They are demons that feed on your negative emotions

mrkpxx · 2023-11-26T08:28:08+00:00

They angry whatever you do. Your existence makes them angry.

Dashing2025 · 2023-11-26T15:30:59+00:00

Because according to feminists, you are allowed to express vulnerability only on politically correct topics.

Ok-Assistant-1220 · 2023-11-26T15:58:09+00:00

They are Not emphatetic

Glittering_Worker793 · 2023-11-25T22:44:32+00:00

My guess is they don't know what to say about what was said, so rehearsed rhetoric kicks in. They are human too. While they may be unable to recognize the human in you, you can recognize the human in them. They attack, in this case, because they are struggling with their own ideas of gender and are unable to recognize their ignorance in the moment...the same way you might.

In a way, it's like when a cop gets scared and opens fire since they stop thinking and training kicks in. They are doing what they practiced since the situation is too panicked.

From my experience, some feminists are as ignorant as the men they are angry at, but in their mind, it's better to be a feminist than a man. They can't see past their own hate because they can't recognize their hate since they learned that their hate is justified. Those are the type of feminist that feminists are ashamed of. Yet, those feminists may be ashamed of the feminists that are ashamed of them. With all that drama, they can't be expected to truly concern themselves with gender equality.

So, don't expect them to know best and you won't be disappointed.

Stunning_Memory8347 · 2023-11-26T01:57:32+00:00

Because feminists don't like you. They are gender bigots who play the victim to justify their bad behavior.

Mous3_ · 2023-11-26T09:10:59+00:00

Because they're entitled angsty Cunts. They've never wanted equal rights they want all the rights and none of the responsibility. They expect men to behave like pets or simps that will always give them whatever they want.

adam-l · 2023-11-26T02:50:33+00:00

It's evolutionary.

Weak males couldn't offer protection, and weren't reliable providers of resources, but could very well impregnate females back a few millions years ago. So females evolved aversive emotions against them.

Stand_kicker · 2023-11-26T04:45:47+00:00

Also, they dislike it when men get educated.

And this is where a possible decent post lost its way.

zoxzoxzo · 2023-11-26T02:29:42+00:00

Because they don't like you. Some may even hate you. You'll have a hard time arguing with them because you're their "oppressor".

Ok_freedom_0 · 2023-11-26T13:28:03+00:00

whenever I express vulnerability to a feminist

Why on Earth would you do that ?

NetworkWonderful857 · 2023-11-27T23:55:48+00:00

Because you’re expressing yourself/emotions on your own terms rather being the person they’re trying to program you to be.

Facts are dangerous to people whose entire ideology is built on lies.

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