Do you believe in soulmates?

40Watts · 2015-03-25T04:19:38+00:00

I believe in multiple soulmates. I call them soulplates.

exit_sandman · 2015-03-25T11:13:35+00:00

I'm not going through the "7 billion people"-stuff - there simply are people who are supremely compatible to you and with whom genuine mutual attraction exists (unless you suck).

BUT the whole soulmate-ideal implies that there's only one souch person (I've never heard of multiple soulmates), and apart from that it's also the ultimate expression of scarcity mentality: the idea of the soulmate implies that only this particular person will ever be enough to make you happy, and if you fall for it it automatically impairs your judgment, your autonomy and also your ability to act out of self-interest. Being a soulmate only works in a perfectly symmetrical relationship where both partners feel exactly the same towards each other. If that isn't a given, trouble is bound to happen.

That said, it's better to think of others as "great matches/catches" than of "soulmates".

PollaTronante · 2015-03-25T05:12:42+00:00

Or do you think there are degrees of compatibility, where some people will be happier together than others?

I believe this. I find the idea of soulmates illogical and romanticized.

CursedLemon · 2015-03-25T04:22:04+00:00

No. I believe in people who are good for each other.

SweetiePieJonas · 2015-03-25T07:09:24+00:00

This about sums up my thoughts on the matter.

hatredsplurge · 2015-03-25T05:22:29+00:00

Nope. I love my partners 100% and am super happy with then, but I know there are other people who i'd be just as happy to date

Scarecrow1779 · 2015-03-25T05:23:29+00:00

totally relevant

Reginleifer · 2015-03-25T04:36:59+00:00

I sure hope not. I don't feel like combing through 3 billion women.

Katniss_Granger · 2015-03-25T08:17:54+00:00

I dont really believe it in the strictest sense but obvously there are some people out there better suited to you than others, and in that group of people some better suited still I like to think it follows that out of all the people you meet one or a few of them of them are surely better matched to you than all others but I have no doubt that there's probably better matches all over the world and you'll never meet them, or that person that you make eye contact with on the train and never see again.

I don't really get the " with 7 billion people even if you did have a soulmate you'd never find them" The fact that you'd find them is part of what makes them your soulmate sigh end sloppy romantic dribble.

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throwinout · 2015-03-25T05:49:31+00:00

No.

I think work has to be put in to make people suitable mates. No one is born with another soulmate somewhere in the world. Anybody could be someone else's mate. Of course, most people would like to find someone they like and are compatible with.

Bakerofpie · 2015-03-25T17:54:49+00:00

My husband and I are the male and female versions of each other. The chances we would have met are unbelievably slim. While this sometimes feels like "soulmate", I know it isnt, but just luck

VarsitySlutTeamCpt · 2015-03-25T04:28:23+00:00

No, people that are divorced believed in soulmates.

wombatinaburrow · 2015-03-25T04:17:26+00:00

For some people, sure. Others may be happy to love the one they can get.

Phokus1983 · 2015-03-25T04:24:20+00:00

No, women/feminism ruined romance.

ShitfacedBatman · 2015-03-25T05:13:06+00:00

Not... really. Or let's just say I do but it's classist and elitist. I'm of the persuasion that heterosexuality is based on female biological imperatives. Heterosexual soulmatehood can only be dreamt about until a man learns to navigate women. Once he learns, then he can act on it and soulmatehood can happen. Women are in the position of waiting for men to figure it out.

I theorize overpopulation, feminism, and the fat-epidemic have all conspired to quieten both male and female biological imperatives. Too many people = no need to make so many more people. Feminism = complicated family dynamics. Fatness = people are getting uglier. There aren't enough natural incentives to go around that'll turn the gears for everyone. It's like a drought.

If there were fewer people, no feminism, and people were more attractive, all this would be based on common sense. So now, it's up to men to get on the ball to figure it out. The fewer men that figure it out, the fewer heterosexual soulmate bonds there will be. Sometimes a woman will figure it out and won't wait around, although that's incredibly rare.

Plugawy_Nedznik · 2015-03-25T06:49:28+00:00

Logically, every man/woman/gendercreature in the world has a match that they would be the most happy with in a relationship.

Unfurtunately, this is completely meaningless because the world is so big that the chance of meeting them are astronomically low.

trp132 · 2015-03-25T08:04:52+00:00

Soulmates are a statistically ludicrous proposition.

Considering that there are 7 billion people in the world, and you only get to see like maybe a few hundred thousand of them in your lifetime, and you only get to meet like maybe 10 thousand, and you only get to date less than 100, if there was exactly one person out there for you the chance that you ever even saw them in a crowd over the course of your whole life is on the order of 1/100000.

Xipe_T0tec · 2015-03-25T08:15:46+00:00

Do you believe in soulmates?

no.

29384752-324-59 · 2015-03-25T11:37:02+00:00

No. I believe there are people who you find easier to tolerate.

adrixshadow · 2015-03-25T12:15:51+00:00

Are you religious?

InformalCriticism · 2015-03-25T15:07:59+00:00

Only one? Absolutely not.

no_respond_to_stupid · 2015-03-25T15:32:14+00:00

The myth of "soulmates" is incredibly harmful.

thereddespair · 2015-03-26T15:35:24+00:00

no. due to unlimited potential. people can change and do, a person can give you the greatest happiness today but 10 years down the line, it can degrade. creating a circumstance where you can actually be happier with another person.

now if its just a state of being happy enough, you don't need something like a soul mate for that.

refutesstupidnotions · 2015-03-25T07:30:19+00:00

My cat is my soulmate. I just fuck women.

gavinok · 2015-03-25T05:01:44+00:00

Nope,

Given that humans can attain only temporary attributes, people might not always be able to uphold their best selves for something like a soulmate relationship. By temporary, I mean sudden events can change those attributes.

Example: Joe is a rising MLB slugger who marries Jill. Joe and Jill are soulmates. Joe suddenly gets his arm bit off by a shark. Joe loses MLB job. Joe and Jill no longer soul mates.

Title	Do you believe in soulmates?
Author	LamiaQueen
Upvotes	6
Comments	49
Date	March 25, 2015 4:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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