High partner count and pair bonding

lurfly · 2015-08-03T06:01:21+00:00

I don't have a study to support your ideas, but IMO casual sex doesn't alter or affect ones emotional well-being. I think casual sex can be a symptom of emotional problems and intimacy issues, but I don't believe that it causes them.

Not only that, but I agree that love/human connection is not a finite resource. People never run out of love to give. No matter how many people you have loved in the past, you are still capable of loving more people.

In my personal experience, my love has only grown stronger over the years.

jaredschaffer27 · 2015-08-02T16:26:59+00:00

http://s3.amazonaws.com/thf_media/2003/pdf/Bookofcharts.pdf

Is this the study you are referring to? It was sponsored and funded by the CDC and The Department of Health and Human Services. Sample size is about 10,000 women (men were not studied) ages 15-44. It is a sobering study, it shows a clear correlation between sexual partner count for women and nearly any bad LTR/marriage outcome you could imagine. The more interesting question is whether the high count/early sex age CAUSES an inability to pair bond or the inability to pair bond (from early neglect, abuse, genetics, etc) causes these behaviors. Either way, the distinction is irrelevant from a practical point of view because I don't care if the chicken or the egg came first, I just care about the poor outcomes.

DevilishRogue · 2015-08-02T12:07:51+00:00

the fact that women tend to "explore their sexuality" in their 20s has much more weight in TRP than hard evidence supporting it.

No, e.g.:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2540009/Women-sleep-university-likely-depressed.html

http://public.psych.iastate.edu/ccutrona/psych592a/articles/Sexual%20infidelity%20in%20women.pdf

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2733220/Women-don-t-sleep-wedding-happier-marriages-men-play-field-without-worry-study-finds.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sex-murder-and-the-meaning-life/201401/how-many-premarital-sex-partners-should-you-have

http://i.imgur.com/rrLe319.jpg

http://www.statisticbrain.com/percent-of-female-infidelity-based-on-number-of-premarital-partners/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201304/the-lingering-psychological-effects-multiple-sex-partners

JeanValjean197o · 2015-08-02T12:43:06+00:00

For starters there are the existential problems of fertility which are created by a high partner count and the myriad of STD's that women can pick up which often go undetected and destroy her fertility.

Then there are the multiple abortions. All that uterus scraping makes it a lot harder to conceive down the road.

Then there is the fact that women are most fertile in their early 20's, but often don't get married until they're in their 30's and 40's. At that point women experience the highest likelihood of producing a Down Syndrome baby.

All these complications can put stress on a marriage. Realizing your woman has so fucked up her body and then signed a long term contract of monogamy with you is enough to make any man feel like a sucker.

Then there are all the hot men she wanted to stick around but didn't. All that pumping and dumping tends to make a woman bitter. Just read the threads from women who couldn't hang on to that alpha cock to see how angry (and non-accountable) they are. All that bitterness will surface with her new BB husband. That's a lot of baggage to heap onto a marriage.

Then there is the fact that women who like a lot of cock aren't exactly going to lose their taste for it. Imagine eating at all the best restaurants and then suddenly deciding you are only going to eat at home for the rest of your life. Only, at home they don't make that extra large Cannoli. And women who are used to being offered that Cannoli and accepting that offer aren't going to suddenly not be interested in it.

Then there is the fact that women who have been living for themselves for most of their adult life aren't exactly suited for living with a spouse and children. How exactly does riding the cock carousel prepare a woman to be a wife and mother? Does learning how to turn down men, shit test them, comfort test them, shit test some more, anti-slut defense, etc. make them a better partner to live with? You can guarantee it doesn't. All that hen pecking will wear a man down and while she's getting exactly what she wants once she gets it she won't want him anymore.

Since women are so used to controlling men or at least feeling like they have power over them because of sex then they are going to want to continue that power during marriage. Marriage is an institution which completely disempowers men and empowers women. As we all know, women despise weak men and marriage, being female oriented, denies men any leverage in marriage (aside from bluffing and bluster).

GridReXX · 2015-08-02T13:55:33+00:00

I agree from my observations in the wild that casual sex doesn't seem to affect people's ability to "pair bond."

I've seen men and women who I know get around or got around, fall madly in love and blissfully married off.

Their past sexcapades didn't seem to affect how affectionate they were to their partner or how much they adored their partner.

If anything I see them act more affectionate towards the LTR than they did anyone casually. This goes for the man and the woman.

Plugawy_Nedznik · 2015-08-03T06:02:18+00:00

Take this away and the remaining correlation is even less than what common sense would dictate: sluts make worse wives.

But why? Do you have an explanation, other than "a lot of different partners makes pair bonding with future partners harder"?

Title	High partner count and pair bonding
Author	riverraider69
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Date	August 2, 2015 7:23 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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