I don't get it

yaboitinky · 2016-10-02T05:02:54+00:00

There are a lot of men out there who aren't getting shit. Or maybe they got laid once with a fat chick or something. They go unnoticed and no one cares.

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bones_and_love · 2016-10-02T07:34:48+00:00

It just depends on what bar of activity you are judging against. TRP tends to want to be the guy who can get a 1 night stand whenever and who has a bunch of women he's casually fucking on and off in his friends group. That's definitely not the norm. The norm is probably closer to getting in and out of relationships every now and then, having an occasional one night stand, etc. But yeah, the majority of people have sex. It's just not unlimited and with whoever.

Jakx118 · 2016-10-02T05:02:11+00:00

People are different and have different experiences. There yah go. I know people in real life who lost it at 13, then I have friends who are still virgins after the age of 21. It's rare, but they're out there. To be honest though, I don't know a single girl in real life that was a virgin after the age of 16.

Guess it depends on what circles you run in.

CovenantoftheSun · 2016-10-02T07:07:52+00:00

Time and again in different economical, cultural, whatever its the same thing. The same few guys are banging most of the chicks, and the chicks are clueless as to why they can't seem to lock them down.

There's just a weird thing where there's this oft repeated dynamic from the attractive males and the rest of the crowd. Lots of girls want them, and they're happy to fuck them. Girls are surprised that guy fucks other girls. Calls him "douchebag" and "player" and "fuckboi" and proceeds to continue sleeping with his type still wondering why she's being laughed at behind her back and slut shamed. Because even unattractive girls have almost no trouble getting banged by a hot guy, things get lopsided.

Most girls have no use for a below average or even most average dudes in terms of sexual desirability.

Despite the lack of sex, average/below average guys have a high sex drive, try to figure out what the hell is happening and how do they get in on this.

Girls insist that its just for pleasure to try to not scare away guys who really do just want to have fun and "not stick their dick in crazy".

Secretly, the girl feels so charmed and really wants to be the mate and lock down a guy. I have yet to meet a slut who insists its just free love or whatever who didn't go guns blazing trying to lock down an attractive guy that fucked her. It almost never happens. Its a shit sexual strategy, and sure it can catch some unsuspecting chads especially a few good natured ones for a while or worse if they get themselves pregnant, but...

If you aren't one of the attractive guys, you still have a really high sex drive, but you aren't getting laid. So? What do you do?

One of two things; One, bitch about being an incel or; Two, literally reverse engineer and try to emulate the aspects of sexual desirability; Hit the gym, improve hair/clothes, have resources or the appearance of resources... Get laid.

Sluts have 0% trouble getting laid, even if they take shit care of their health really the only thing a girl has to worry about is not being super fat. If she isn't obese, she can bang hot guys. If she's obese, she can bang average guys. Its not hard, there's no victory there unless she locks his commitment down. Girls are crying and complaining all the time about being pumped and dumped.

MisgenderedCactus · 2016-10-02T08:39:21+00:00

Depends on your social circle, I think.

I shared my consensual virginity at 22, which is the oldest age in my immediate friends circle. All of them had girlfriends in high school and college, so they shared their virginities between the ages of 17-20. None of them have Ns over 10, most have 4-5, and all are from LTRs. My N is 1, but I'm really hoping to make it 2 in 2017. We are all geeks, nerds, computer techs, or engineers, so hardly the type of people you'd find out clubbing or whatever. But none of us are virgins, either so take that as you will.

Lonny_zone · 2016-10-02T05:40:22+00:00

I think most people can only get relationship sex. Most people are 5s.

Most people who can get casual sex are above average, 6+, so casual sex is rare.

Look at the places people go to find partners for casual sex (like dating sites, bars, clubs, and parties) and you will see that most people there are 6+ or shit out of luck.

Entropy-7 · 2016-10-02T09:00:20+00:00

Something like half of guys get laid at least once before they are 18 and a few more get blown.

By the time they are in their 20s, about 1-in-7 are still virgins and another 1-in-5 will have had one partner. On the other hand, half have had 4+ partners.

MarriedLifter · 2016-10-02T10:04:06+00:00

But on the other hand, sex seems impossible to get when I hear people talking about it.

Nah. Don't believe losers who spend all their time on Reddit.

When I was in college, I hung out with a pretty geeky group. Pretty much everybody who had the slightest interest in having sex managed to do so, though some took longer than others. And the overwhelming majority of women I knew were generally decent human beings. Furthermore, most of my girlfriends over the years approached me, and all I had to do was realize it. (I was clueless at first, and women tend to be more subtle initially.) I've been offered one night stands and politely declined.

I'm a STEMlord geek, and not some hot jock. I was overweight for most of college, though I tended to have better luck romantically when I kept in better shape.

I mean, I believe the dating scene might be very different elsewhere. But in the long run, you choose your friends and where you live. And I also believe that many geek guys are making simple, easily preventable errors, like not showering, not socializing regularly in mixed gender groups, or not recognizing when women are interested (and getting all stressed and freaked out that a women is speaking to them, thereby convincing her that her attentions are unwelcome).

[deleted] · 2016-10-02T08:59:07+00:00

Because the guys complaining about how it's very hard to get girlfriends or casual sex are below average in some way. Either they are ugly, socially awkward, have no interesting or desirable personality traits or hobbies, or some mixture of the three.

The vast majority of guys quite obviously has no problem. The CDC can even confirm this nicely. 97% of men have sex, read it and weep.

Ignore the guys who sit and whine about this. There's a reason they just sit there pitying themselves all day, and it's not because they're attractive and normal...

Jakx118 · 2016-10-02T04:55:07+00:00

shockingly low virginity levels.

I don't think they are shockingly low. 1 in 4 college seniors are still virgins

Also, your comparing across genders, a useless concept.

For women, sex is extremely, extremely easy to get. Most so for casual sex. They just have to walk into any frathouse or club party and pick out a guy they like.

For men, it goes like this:

Sex in relationships is not difficult to get.
Casual sex with average women is somewhat difficult to get.
Consistent, frequent casual sex with different women is extremely hard.

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lbspredh · 2016-10-02T06:39:57+00:00

if you're attractive and play it right, or just want any sex with whoever it's not hard to find sex

also people lie on the internet, it's totally a thing

alreadyredschool · 2016-10-02T10:52:07+00:00

Everybody has sex, give 1 million people each a lifetime to get sex and they will manage it.

Now tell them that they have to get laid this Saturday and suddenly much less men manage it, most probably with uglier chicks than normally etc.

It's about consistency, cost benefit analysis and the quality of these girls. Some meth junky showed me her pussy after I saved her life, she looked good but no thanks. I want normal (in terms of character), good looking women. Just sex is easy to get, quality sex is hard to get. And I want that at least twice a week except for a in a relationship or a/several FWB situations.

It's pathetic to see guys going out twice a week, flirting all night and then going home alone for more than a year.

DynamicLoser · 2016-10-02T07:41:24+00:00

Most men out there are not getting casual sex. They aren't getting ONS or FWBS and most men are continuously rejected when they approach women even if they approach women in their smv league or lower.

There are indeed men who have a ton of partners and women usually report lower numbers than men, but that's because girls are having casual sex with the same guys.

Todd, Brad And Chad.

Todd is a 8/10 Brad is 9/10 and Chad is 10/10 the ultimate chad. Its impossible to compete with those guys.

Title	I don't get it
Author	Lukkazx
Upvotes	5
Comments	32
Date	October 2, 2016 4:37 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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