It sounds like there is an issue of "once a ___ always a ___" - You can fill that in to whatever fits your desires.

Men on here forget that humans live through lived experiences that allow them to grow as a person. Holding someone's past against them (whatever it is - within reason) you are just showing that you within yourself don't understand that personal growth can actually happen - maybe because you yourself don't believe you can change.

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Most men on RP are upset that they cannot easily change and then be accepted into that new role like a woman could. If he was a "Loser, never got girls, couldn't speak to women and below average" there is absolutely nothing he can easily do to stop that vibe from following him around, even well into adulthood. That is why you can still find many grown ass men online who are single and having a hard time finding someone to even look at them for sexual desire. The realty for these men is that in their mind they might still be that guy who was bullied in elementary to high school and still that guy who would stare awkwardly at the girl in class then watch the high school jock flirt with her then many others at the same time. I guess its hard to reinvent in yourself when you are constantly reminded how low on the totem poll you are - and I assume that creates resentment for 1. Good looking men 2. Women.

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They have problems with women who can do this with ease. They stick women "who have done __" into one category because they cannot possibly understand how someone can be fluid and move through roles so easily without their past following them around (like them). Maybe, women are more fluid in terms of social expectations therefore they can fit into the expected role very easily. This can be backed up with the notion that most women are more easily agreeable/passive than men - meaning that they can bend their personalities to be what is needed at the time. Men have much of a harder time doing this and it could just be that need for dominance factor/ego is more present. So they are more ridged to sticking into "who they are" and that is what it is.

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The women who can sleep around then also be a great wife, doesn't seem realistic for them. Majority of these men if they were losers (I use this term very loosely) for 25 years of their life there is no way to instantly turn that off and act like a hot shot. For women who have slept around or did whatever all they really have to do is stop seeing other men. I do not believe in that pair bonding nonsense - so you can save it.