Regarding making love, I consider it to be a deep spiritual connection that you achieve with another human being. It's "sensual" rather than just fun. It's like a gourmet meal versus fast food, maybe.

Or maybe there's (1) fast/"hot" sex and then (2) slow/"sensual" sex and then (3) "spiritual" making love is a third category.

(I'm listening to "Stars of the Lid And Their Refinement of the Decline" right now and it's putting me in the mood for some #3 lol.)