Simple Questions

Trauma_Burn_RN · 2016-10-08T23:36:03+00:00

Do any of you do chore charts or chore splitting with your SO? Or do you all just handle to housework yourselves because it's not man's work? I was raised to believe that all the housework is women's work, and all the lawn work is man's work.

Now, this was taught by my mother who was a SAHM, and my father built a business and ran it and worked long hours, so this made sense. I have a high-stress career job (cardio-thoracic surgical nurse), as does my husband (research and development engineering). We are both exhausted when we get home, but thus far, pretty much everything regarding the household has fallen on me.

I'm not trying to whine, I just genuinely want to know how other women here that have full time jobs sort everything out! My man is also the kind that does not take kindly to being bossed or told what to do!

bakebynumbers · 2016-10-09T02:20:44+00:00

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, and I was hoping someone has an answer to this question, though I'm not quite sure how to word it:

(To preface the following, I am single and interact mostly with other single people who are around my age and religion (large religious college) so the situation is in regards to dating I guess? )

Basically, I've found that I'm very relictant to let men do nice gestures, like give me their coat or carry heavy things or anything along those lines, because I feel so guilty when it happens. Like I'm taking advantage or something. Everyone is so nice, and I feel like they would offer even if it was a really big inconvenience for them, and even when I try to be chill about it it makes me so anxious and I dont know what to do. And things like carrying heavy things, I'm never sure where the line is, like what is okay and what makes me seem lazy? I dont know if this makes any sense. Its a very service oriented community, also, so guys have been taught since they were little to offer that kind of thing so letting them isnt always a "let them flirt with/impress you" thing, theyll help everyone which is awesome but...

Im not articulating very well, but when it come dowm to it Im asking for advice on how to let men be kind without feeling so much guilt?

Its probably a biproduct of the whole "strong independent woman" thing society pushes so hard but i feel like its a hinder on my dating life haha

Completely unrelated and again coming from someone not super experienced with dating but Im a little taller than average for a woman where i live (im 5'8, most girls are 5'2-5'6. My height isnt super unusual but its not the norm either. Live in a predominatly white area in the US) and therfore weigh a little more (Im like 140 lbs, which is about 10 more than I'd ultinately like but still realtively slender on my frame. Like Im skinny but not fit? Sorry if this is TMI!) And in the past guys have never seemed to have a problem picking me up... but is that heavy for the average guy to lift? Showing my insecurity but no one would say if it was to my face and I know that guys are stronger than girls, but by that much? Basically am I too heavy?

Edit: this reads like an insecure teenager and Im really sorry about that! I'll admit Im a little naive when it comes to these things. These kinds of questions are okay right?

Sunhappy_DC · 2016-10-10T00:30:00+00:00

we're all about the IOIs!!! What's your personal fav when flirting? :D

RedPillRhonda · 2016-10-09T12:26:35+00:00

What are your phone privacy rules? Have you let your partner know your passcode? Do you know theirs? Do they openly look through/use your phone in your presence?

My boyfriend and I don't know each other's passcodes and I think it's better that way. I have nothing to hide but I'd rather him not see the 50+ selfies I've yet to sift through (oops) or the hidden 'Fitspo' folder on my Pinterest or the strange Google search from yesterday. How open is too open, and how closed is too closed?

Lin333 · 2016-10-10T02:27:15+00:00

How does one walk properly. (many many years back 5+ , i was really fat and waddle) still waddle these days after loosing a lot of weight. who has tips to finally make me walk right!

RPW88121 · 2016-10-11T04:09:08+00:00

Not sure if it's too late to post (if so I'll re-post next week!), but what do you ladies think about men who say they're looking for an "ambitious" girl? That seems to be on every dating profile that I look at.

I have a good job, but if possible would prefer to be a SAHM in the future. Should I be passing on men who say they want a girl who's ambitious?

softleather · 2016-10-12T07:11:04+00:00

A little off topic, but, those of you who support Trump, what do you think of how he conducts himself? He seems to make a fool out of himself everyday. I get that this may not be his real persona, just what he shows to the public, but it boggles my mind that people still like him. I don't think his political stance is all that bad but he certainly does not act like a president. I am asking because it seems like some prominent users here support him and I'm wondering if they are just overlooking all the ridiculous things he says and focusing on his political viewpoints.

sthutton · 2016-10-13T14:47:24+00:00

I'm late to this discussion (as always), but I was wondering your opinions about lighting in your home. There's always talk of a soft place to land for your man, and lighting always pops into my head with this topic. Do you guys think bright/energy or warm/soft/relaxing? I can see pros for both options. Just wondering what you ladies think.

Title	Simple Questions
Author	RPWives
Upvotes	10
Comments	30
Date	October 8, 2016 8:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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