Feeling, sexually inadequate.

Rispy_Girl · 2021-05-10T07:31:08+00:00

Sounds like he needs to stop fapping to reset.

indefenseoftyegenre · 2021-05-10T13:15:16+00:00

Update: talk occurred, and it was very difficult for me to get the words out at first, but I told him exactly what was bothering me, why it was bothering me, and how long it had been an issue, the entire time he stared me in the eyes with a gentle smile, occasionally rubbing my leg as I struggled to keep my voice from cracking, came over and held me for a moment and i continued. He told me as of late he'd been coming to the same conclusion about how his frequent masturbation was hindering our sex life and has no problem on cutting down on it to make this better with each other, and that the porn consumption will deplete as well. He told me that everything I said was rational and it is understandable that I was having insecurities. I feel a huge weight off my chest that I was able to sit down and express every feeling in detail, and I was met with nothing but a smile and love.

Rejoice7 · 2021-05-10T08:00:57+00:00

Before going all the way - I would ask him hey, can we take a 1-2 week break from porn/toys? See how he reacts, it will tell you a lot without causing a huge fight. Simple request, if he says no, dont argue about it, just say ok, then you know - if 1-2 weeks is too much to ask game over.

I would start very small like this, because while it will be difficult for him, you arent asking him to give up his world yet.

If he is unwilling to even start with this small gesture, I would say he’s addicted. And that is now a different problem because he may either not think he’s addicted or be perfectly fine with the thought (most guys).

If he cannot give these up for you (eventually for good) - then I would not stick around. At 20 you have basically unlimited options, he does not. Find someone who values sex accordingly.

I hate to be so blunt, but sex is not a game in a LTR, its heart and soul.

cartmaninfit · 2021-05-10T11:10:50+00:00

Did anything about you change/did you do anything that could impact his attraction to you?

seeingred81 · 2021-05-10T18:30:37+00:00

sooner or later the porn will break his brain and his dick. It is socially acceptable these days to watch a ton of porn and jack off all the time but that doesn't mean it is healthy or functional. That said, it is very addictive and I'm not sure how you could successfully change his behavior. He has to want to do that himself. That said, you could communicate in a non-nagging, non-judgemental way about how you are feeling and how you miss having great sex with him. Ultimately though, he has to want to change and it is up to you how patient you can be.

dachengchuan · 2021-05-11T16:40:55+00:00

toys are a bad idea ... never buy or use some. they make you skip and forget the other person(s). it is one more way to separate men and women, one more way to kill the genuine need for your lover. if you are alone, toys will prevent you to really search a lover and do real efforts for your relationship. toys were created to destroy real desire between lovers. toys are one of best scam ever done on earth.

Title	Feeling, sexually inadequate.
Author	indefenseoftyegenre
Upvotes	24
Comments	38
Date	May 10, 2021 7:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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