I cannot be a true RPW

rainyweathergirl · 2017-01-16T15:04:09+00:00

Red pill is about understanding truths, whether they are politically correct or not. You can be red pill and not follow any of the advice, just understand where that will lead you and don't lie to yourself.

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2017-01-16T15:40:20+00:00

You sound close minded and set in your ways, both as it regards RP and men in general.

Must be of the same faith
Must be alpha
Must be OK with military spouse
Must....
Must....

I don't think you really tried, at all. RP is a state of mind, not a state of affairs. You are using career and family obligations to justify not trying.

I am not stunning in looks or grace, but certainly not ugly

With all of your constraints, you've basically priced yourself out of the market.

Consider:

common values are more important than common faith
having a job does not mean not being RPW and having a beta husband
if you aren't a super model, you already have to work a little harder to get attention

On a personal note, I grew up poor and I have 2 autistic brothers that need extreme care. I plated and then passed up a lot of 8s and 9s because I knew, long term, they would not be able to support me or help me as these women tend to be a little more self-centered and would find my family obligations annoying. I picked up a girl from a different faith with strong values and who loves helping disabled and unfortunate people. As far as looks go, she is not even close to my top 10. So your situation is not alien to me.

dottywine · 2017-01-16T18:26:04+00:00

You can still be RPW. I don't think there is a set number of rules to follow... RPW doesn't mean hunting for a husband in order to become a house wife.

Littlewifey · 2017-01-16T16:23:38+00:00

You refer to your disabled sibling and father to take care of. Not sure if this is viable but can't you get a live-in housemaid to take care of them at least part-time?

Why can't you work and be married at the same time? You might have a job as a military, but you can and must separate work and your personal life. Your masculine personality and habits are on you and you alone, only you can change them if you want with dedication.

You can find a great captain who is a mix of beta and alpha, but RPW is about changing yourself and not settling down.

I think you haven't tried hard enough. There is a lot you can work on to be more feminine and suiting for a long term partnership while keeping your job and caring for your family. You can take on as much as you're willing to and in no way are you forced to be a SAHW/M to be a RPW.

A RPW is not an illusion, it's a constant battle with self-improvement.

On the other hand, RPW is not for everyone, and some people will do better with some parts of it. Use this as a tool to become a better person, not to directly attract a man, and you will unknowingly become more attractive. Things will fall into place.

It's all up to you to embrace your nature and do what you can with what you have.

I'm sure you will succeed in whatever you wish to achieve :)

SouthernAthena · 2017-01-16T19:41:11+00:00

TRP in no way states that you must sacrifice a career to be a stay at home mom. It does say that many women find this option more fulfilling, but it's not a hard and fast rule. To be a RPW you don't have to follow a formula for how your life should go. TRP is about understanding the truth of male/female relationships, not providing a step by step list of how to live your life.

MsSadieDunham · 2017-01-16T21:24:52+00:00

Set aside any notion of being an RP woman or not for a moment. After reading your post and your comments, I would say that your number one problem is that you feel a certain level of obligation to your family that is unhealthy. To be 100 percent clear on this, it's not that you feel like you should take care of these family members that is unhealthy but the idea that you have to do it personally because that would be their preference.

You seem to have very weak boundaries in that particular area, and perhaps you are compensating with creating artificial/inflated boundaries with your 1000-point checklist about what a man would have to be for you. This checklist is a very, very common type of defensive mechanism women use to keep you from overextending yourself due to having so much time and resources tied up as a result of the weak boundaries with your family (ie: you overcompensate with super strong boundaries for dating that keep all men away from you).

A few other less important points:

Nothing about RPW says that a woman can't focus on a career.
Nothing about RPW says that a woman must want and have kids.
Nothing in your situation other than your weak boundaries with your family will keep you from being a feminine partner to a masculine man.
Nothing in your situation would require you to be the breadwinner for a partner.

Best of luck.

SexistFlyingPig · 2017-01-16T21:45:08+00:00

You're in your mid 20's. You said you won't be available to settle down and start a family for at least 7 more years.

So, no kids for you, then?

Willow-girl · 2017-01-17T06:22:12+00:00

No one else will care for them, the obligation has fallen on me and I do not expect any man to take this on.

I didn't think any man would be brave enough to take on a woman whose time and money go to running a large-animal sanctuary, but whaddaya know!

So don't sell yourself short. Let the men you date decide whether your situation is a dealbreaker. You might find one who surprises you.

Also, regarding your family members' insistence that you do all the caregiving: as Dear Abby used to say, no one can take advantage of you unless you let them.

Title	I cannot be a true RPW
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Upvotes	29
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Date	January 16, 2017 2:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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