Need help with self-esteem

Zoe_Rae · 2025-08-16T06:56:08+00:00

To answer your question. You will always be young to someone. If you are 40, there are 45-55 year old men who find you attractive and don’t want to date a college student

More importantly, I feel you need to take time off the internet and build/live your real life. Some things are said on the internet over and over but reality is completely different

The internet isn’t going to build your self esteem, especially not toxic redpill men.

You need to live your life, get hobbies, friends who adore you, look after your body, accomplish things, see a therapist and journal.

It is your parents job to build a self esteem for you but you can do it yourself at any age

Goodluck

fashoclock · 2025-08-16T05:04:27+00:00

I'm 26 and life is great. I (and many women) will look pretty damn good for years to come. Get help my guy.

funeralb1tch · 2025-08-16T03:32:36+00:00

24 is old.... ??! What in the nine hells?

Who the fuck said my value lowers as I age? That is a retarded mindset. The only thing that is really limited would be your years to bear a child. Other than that, we should be constantly improving ourselves, which is what I do. Constantly learning new things and skills, improving my art, finding fun ways to work out and just generally taking care of myself physically and mentally. Isn't that the whole point?

Dionne005 · 2025-08-16T02:38:07+00:00

Please get self help and encouragement. It’s not that wise to date as a minor and woman’s peak isn’t 23

maidentootsies · 2025-08-16T17:37:19+00:00

You have built this up in your mind into something it’s not. The world is not black and white. You are not over the hill just because you were not a teen bride. It’s not exactly redpill theory that’s making you miserable (although I would steer clear of the men’s groups, tbh, they’re harsh and often more male fantasy/theory than reality), but rather your catastrophic thinking surrounding it. 24 is plenty young. I’m not sure where you’re based, but the average female marriage age in the U.S. is 29. You are still well ahead of the game. What you really need to work on is your mindset. Humans age, that’s how the world works. You will be an old lady someday. Does that mean you’ll be “worthless?” Of course not! Be brave, keep your chin up, and work on being the best you can be. That’s all anybody can do. And start dating if you aren’t already! You are a VERY desirable age, especially in the western world. Early to mid twenties is actually considered prime marriageable age by most people in the West because you have had time to develop a good balance of maturity and youthfulness. DO NOT waste these prime years lamenting the fact that you’re not a teenager anymore. This is your time. Abandon this hole you’ve buried yourself in and feel the sun!

CountTheBees · 2025-08-16T03:25:54+00:00

Have you read the pinned post at the top of the subreddit on the subject of the wall?

giozimmer · 2025-08-16T13:09:44+00:00

Girllll, you're only 24!

Royal_System_3496 · 2025-08-16T03:17:38+00:00

you’re so real for this i’ve had many of these thoughts as well and the only secret is it is hard and you need to extricate yourself self worth from male approval your life can’t hinge on when a man will rescue you because exactly what if it never happens

AutoModerator · 2025-08-16T02:27:27+00:00

Title: Need help with self-esteem

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Full text: I believe in the redpill and honestly it’s been negatively effecting my self-esteem massively. I just feel worthless and like I can’t win in life or be happy because of the fact that I am aging. I don’t feel comfortable getting into a relationship with a man because I don’t want to be second choice which will eventually happen because I’m turning 24 and don‘t have much youth left. I don’t feel comfortable getting naked in front of men because of how I look. I see how a lot of men talk about women online and feel like I’ll never measure up to what men want. I want to be truly desired by a man for a long time. I don‘t even know if it’s possible for a man to truly desire a woman in her 40‘s or even 50‘s. I want a man to be excited to see me naked even when I turn 40.

Unfortunately, I was on medication that destroyed my sexual desire from 16 to 23, peek time for women to be desired. Have I missed my time? I’m scared that if I get older, 30ish I will be unable to get a man who will get wife goggles and he‘ll be unsatisfied with me.

So, women who believe in redpill how do you deal with your lowering value as you age? Especially ones who didn’t get into relationships when they were very young? I’m still a virgin for example. I worry that discovering redpill and how men actually think of women have put a wrench in dating because of how low my self-esteem is.

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Direct-Ad-5394 · 2025-08-16T12:58:19+00:00

Who said that you lose your value when you're age? Is that kind of things that they teach here?

ApartConstruction147 · 2025-08-16T12:49:34+00:00

24 isn’t old. The guys who say that use red pill to justify their predatory beliefs, destroying what red pill truly is. The true red pill isn’t about preying on naive girls, it’s about men stepping into masculine strength with women who can actually match them. Plenty of men bond deeply and desire their wives well into their 40s, 50s, and beyond. that’s where real loyalty and love show up, not just “youthful” looks.

18 isn’t prime time . Most studies show that fertility peaks in the early to mid-20s. After around 30, fertility slowly begins to decline, and after 35 the decline becomes steeper, but that’s still nowhere near “too old.”

These days men are loving “milfs” to someone you’ll always be attractive, don’t let one bad apple stop you from finding your mate!

forestdaydream · 2025-08-16T03:26:56+00:00

i’ve been in a similar mindset before and you need to separate yourself from the male red pill spaces online. don’t read them, they are not for you. they are mostly full of men who have been deeply hurt by a woman and are angry about it. while it carries some truth, the tone and content will be upsetting for us to read. focus on this subreddit’s advice and resources only because they are specifically for a female audience.

aging is scary as a woman but it happens to every single one. focus on what you can control. eat healthy, exercise, focus on what makes you happy.

for what it’s worth i met my fiance when i was 21. we’re now in our late twenties he told me recently i have only gotten more attractive throughout our relationship, and it’s not just his love goggles talking - i started lifting weights seriously when we began dating and it’s done wonders for my physique, posture, and overall health, i am objectively more attractive than i was back then, and still get mistaken for being in my early 20s.

you need to stop pedastalizing men as a conglomerate and take care of yourself, your health, and focus on what makes you happy. a good man will recognize that in you and seek you out (as long as you put yourself out into social situations)

Ok-Transportation744 · 2025-09-12T11:51:28+00:00

for a red-pill guy yes, you are too old and expired

for someone who doesn't care about red pill, you are valuable because you are seen as human, not just as someone who is valued for her ability to have a uterus to birth children, develop your CHARACTER GIRL, and focus on your well-being & mental health <3

Sufficient_Land4717 · 2025-08-16T15:18:33+00:00

Check out @the.refresher on Instagram asap. She also does 1:1 coaching. I have been seeing her for over a year and she’s transformed everything for me 🤍

Title	Need help with self-esteem
Author	Character-Fill8171
Upvotes	11
Comments	39
Date	August 16, 2025 2:27 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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for a red-pill guy yes, you are too old and expired