Hi Everyone! Female here who I guess has taken the red pill? After reading The Rational Male and subscribed to a few "Red Pill" YouTube channels, I have changed my perspective on many things. I've noticed things about my past behavior that have made me go wow I can't believe I did that. So after reading and watching it definitely has made me more aware of how I communicate, how I behave, dress, etc. It has also changed the way I behave in my relationship.

I've been in a relationship with this man for about 9 months. As any couple, we go through our ups and downs. He comes from the country where the man is the dominant one in the relationship, which I like and prefer. I want him to lead this relationship. I want him to pursue his dreams and whatever he is passionate about. I try and try to be the best gf to him. If he can't answer his phone because he's busy working then I let it go. If he's hurt about something then I want to listen and understand why. At the end of the day, I want him to be himself and to not think he has to cater to me and my needs because society and our culture has told him this is something he should do.

He made it very clear early on in this relationship that there are to be no male friends, how he would like his gf to dress (nice but not too sexy so other men are looking unless i'm with him), and to understand that he is the man in this relationship. I was on board with all of this and still am. The problem I am having is that there seems to be some miscommunication. I say something and somehow it gets blown way out of proportion. He blows up and says some of the most outlandish things a person has ever said to me.

Last night is an example. Last night he was supposed to come see me. He was helping a friend and it ended up going longer than he had expected. They were working approx 40 minutes from my home, and his friend lived approx another 50 min from my home. So I thought it's late, they've been working, they will both have to drive here and then the friend will have to drive home. Or my bf will have to drive him home and then come here. It may feel like a lot after working and maybe they are both tired. It was close to midnight when he responded, I 'm thinking its still late, crazy people on the road (could be drunk drivers) plus this area has so many deer. I'd like to see him but him and his friend, who I thought may be tired would like to go home, relax. Plus I was concerned for their safety driving so late especially in this area. Keep in mind that they were also doing physical labor, which can be tiring after many hours.

He did not take it this way at all. I didn't mention anything about me sleeping being the reason not seeing him but he said that I was being selfish and all I thought about was me getting my beauty rest. He said I had refused him. Really my concern was more a safety issue and I thought that we could also see each other the next day hopefully. So it turned into me being selfish, I refused him, and that he would rather get hit by a deer than spend another minute talking to me or being with me. And said that this is not working for him. Usually I read about women being BP. I don't know what to make of this situation at all.