Beating down the doubt and taking the risk! 47M

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-10-16T04:05:23+00:00

48 checking in. Red pill basically my whole life (i.e. before we called it 'red pill' and before there was an internet to speak of)

Here's some advice for your current situation.

Leave all the Bad Shit behind you. You can't get years back, etc. Eyes forward, focused on the future.
Do everything you can to improve your fitness level. Get back into the House of Iron. Do this for yourself. Coincidentally, it will help with women, but more important for you.
Figure out where you want to be. Set goals. Design a plan around getting from A (where you are) to B (where you want to be).
Believe in yourself. One of my plates is a 19 y.o. HB8.5. You know why I can have a plate 29 years younger than me? Because I don't have a cuntrag 48 y.o. wife telling me I cant. Like I tell the guys here, there's nothing special about me and you can do what I do.

Don't lose hope, don't moan about the past, DO read the side bar, and DO stick around.

Good luck!

RedPillJax · 2015-10-16T00:34:23+00:00

Glad you found us.

Best advice: Read. Read the sidebar. Read posts. Read comments. Hold off on posting for a bit. Right now you need to be a sponge and absorb as much as you can. When you internalize a bit more, then you can start wringing back out the knowledge onto others.

Best of luck, friend.

smQQkin · 2015-10-16T03:42:02+00:00

Hey there, I'm 46 and swallowed the pill about a 1.5 years ago. Get in shape and learn how to dress (also study, study, study) and you can be banging 25-year-olds. I've seen me do it. Don't expect great changes overnight, but it'll come... it'll come.

Lifting is great therapy for what ails you. So is hanging out with single friends, and chatting up random women.

I went through bankruptcy, divorce, and foreclosure. For a time, I had to make a positive decision not to kill myself every single day. But once your legal shit is done, life's pretty good!

jimjackjoe · 2015-10-16T03:19:41+00:00

more 47 year olds is exactly what trp needs, welcome.

HS-Thompson · 2015-10-16T03:40:34+00:00

I am close to your age.

Step up motherfucker, you are only as close to death as you act.

ComradeCynic · 2015-10-16T01:19:37+00:00

Welcome, I was 40 when I started to wake up from the BP brainwashing. You can still make a huge difference in your life, and, in the life of those around you!

smQQkin · 2015-10-16T04:35:25+00:00

Stay strong brother. 43 yr old here. Do for self first, aside from your fatherly duties. Getting out of our own heads is one of the hardest but crucial things to do. I've recommended it before, good read on mindset is Mike Cernovichs "Gorilla Mindset".

ransay3277 · 2015-10-16T06:40:31+00:00

I'm a few years older than you. Glad your back. A few quick suggestions. Take them for what they are worth.

Mentally: As most guys say here, read for at least a half hour a day. Start with the sidebar.

Physically: workout but don't try to keep up with the young bucks here. 47 isn't 25. If you are near a "Planet fitness", they are cheap and have a 30 minute circuit routine that is excellent for beginners. Do the circuit as it is intended. Start off 3x a week and in a few months you will be amazed.

Eat right: go on that "just stop stuffing my fat face diet". Eat a balanced diet. (You can do the research.) Drop soda and sugar. Drink plenty of water.

Financially: get you house in order. Check out Dave Ramsey's 7 baby steps. Real simple and some very good advice. (He's on you tube.) Also check out "AaronClary". Also on you tube.

Get a hobby: something you enjoy or always wanted to do. Recreation can be a great outlet. It's your life: enjoy it!

Finally, enjoy the ride. In few short months you will naturally gain frame. You will also be amazed at the number of women who are truly out there. (Take the advice of you tube's Tom Leykis and never spend more than $40 - $50 per date. See Leykis 101)

I wish you the best of luck my man. But if you take the good advice of this group, you won't need luck!

htbf · 2015-10-16T10:30:13+00:00

Mark Manson posted this on Facebook a few days ago.

This weekend a friend told me a story about his grandmother. She was 60 when her husband died. As part of dealing with his death, she started taking piano lessons and practicing every day. People thought it was kind of sad and pitied her. Now she's 90 and she is a fantastic piano player. People who hear her play regularly assume that she used to be a professional musician and that she has been playing her whole life. It's funny, she told him, that when she started playing at 60, people thought it was stupid, a waste of time, that there was no point because her life was essentially already over. People don't realize, she said, that if you start learning something at 60, and you practice it until you're 90, you've actually been doing it much longer than most professionals have.

You're not too old.

TeflonDon3000 · 2015-10-16T03:59:22+00:00

I didn't find TRP until this year, 25.

I often beat myself up for not being Alpha the last 10 years of my life, wishing I had found TRP before my two LTRs.

Then I read your story. Two marriages and divorces, kids, child support, 47 years of BP lifestyle. And I thank myself for finding TRP at 25.

I know this doesn't apply to your story, but I want to give you insight into how reading stories like yours helps me solidify even more my lifestyle, my goals, and my standards.

Thank you OP for being so open and honest, with us, and with yourself.

monsieurhire2 · 2015-10-16T06:50:22+00:00

Better late than never. Your feelings are just feelings. I read people on here asking if it's too late if they are 25. It's never too late until your dead. You could live another 47 years, and that half of your life would be TRP, so look at the glass half full.

RedPope · 2015-10-16T06:59:34+00:00

I'm in my 40s. Before TRP, I had some happiness, some fulfillment, some action. I was above-average. A 70th percentile male. Good enough to have some fun, but still below the bar. I was foolish and got married. Became comfortable and lazy. The divorce was predictable and expensive.

After embracing TRP, it's a night and day difference. I am much happier, much more fulfilled, and having much more sex. I may not be top 20% compared to all these young studs, but measured against other guys in our age group, I'm a fucking silverback gorilla.

I get plenty of attractive girls between the ages of 27 and 30. They're easy. But, being completely honest: under 25 is very rare. I'm not good enough to pull girls who are both young and attractive.

As a 40-something man, you're likely at the peak of your career. If you're like me, you're probably also more heavily invested in your community. On top of that, I'm also a father. I don't have time to spin plates. (I tried.) As a result, switched my personal strategy to focus on short-term relationships.

As I've said a dozen times on these forums: Everyone knows the first 6-12 months are the best part of any relationship. So that's what I want, and that's all I want. Once the initial excitement fades, I start shopping for her replacement.

The result is frequent and regular sex from 1-2 girlfriends a year, plus a couple hookups while auditioning for the next girlfriend, and the occasional and brief FWB visits from last year's girls. Maximum fun per minimum time invested. It works for me. I think it's a realistic and sustainable model for RP men in their 40s and 50s.

smQQkin · 2015-10-16T15:40:15+00:00

I'm 45 and I've lost 45 pounds in the last 3 months. In a couple of more months, I'm going to be the leanest I've ever been. I'm owning my shit and becoming the leader my family needs, and it's working. Stay after it, brother.

GuidoBandito · 2015-10-16T01:21:15+00:00

51 and feel some of the same things you are. It's just that after a year of swallowing this bitter but useful pill, I've gotten myself into the frame of mind of "I don't give a fuck".

That doesn't mean I don't care, it just means that I only worry about the things I have some semblance of control over and let go of the anger and frustration of the "wasted" years attempting to please others.

As far as getting laid goes, I'm good with getting some or not. Of course, I'd prefer to get as much as I can. But reality is reality and when I feel the time is right for me to delve into the game, I will.

But as one other has stated, read. Read, hit the gym or do BWF. Get yourself mentally and physically prepared for the new world of TRP.

CopperFox3c · 2015-10-16T02:41:27+00:00

All of us have obstacles we must overcome. For some it may be age. For others it may be motivation. For still others it may be a poor physique. But we all have something. You are no different than any of us in that. Embrace the struggle. That is the way of men. That is the way of TRP.

The impediment to action advances action ... that which is in the way becomes the way. - Marcus Aurelius

projectself · 2015-10-16T05:48:36+00:00

after two failed marriages, a "man sale", five kids, 30k in in child support debt

step 1 is getting the vasectomy scheduled.

step 2 is making your needs important to you.

.. worry about step 3 later..

penworth · 2015-10-16T09:15:24+00:00

Welcome to the fold, friend. Welcome to the future.

I guarantee you it will be better that you found about TRP now than later. You still have things to do.

[deleted] · 2015-10-16T11:57:24+00:00

42 here and from a similar blue-pill background.

Make the most of it, and also getting older, I've now developed an IDGAF attitude.

Good luck!

edwardhwhite · 2015-10-16T17:29:06+00:00

I am only 10 months ahead of you in terms of finding this place and I am also 47. Its been the best 10 months of my life. Read the sidebar and stick with it.

smQQkin · 2015-10-16T15:43:59+00:00

Take a look at this guy:

http://i.huffpost.com/gen/1000303/thumbs/o-60YEARS-OLD-570.jpg?6

What's your excuse again?

[deleted] · 2015-10-16T16:17:48+00:00

" It is no longer my responsibility to take care of someone else,"

When was it ever your responsibility? That's the biggest brainwash job ever did on us. To convince us that we need to be responsible for others. My brother lives that mindset and he has a dead bedroom with 3 kids. Sure buddy. Keep patting your own back. The white man in the clouds will give you front row tickets to Heaven's Ball.

My motto: If someone is broken, don't fix them. If they are causing you the slightest pain, leave them.

RedLavaLamp · 2015-10-16T18:09:30+00:00

43 YO checking in. Took the pill 2 years ago. Trust me bro, it will only get better from here. And despite some of the opinions from the crowd here, there's nothing wrong with banging women your own age that have kept themselves up. But you should certainly shoot lower too :) Have fun

htbf · 2015-10-16T10:22:37+00:00

ITT : People twice my age all over the place.

SkorchZang · 2015-10-16T09:28:22+00:00

It's almost like there is a red pill for the process of taking the red pill.

Keep in mind that you're taking yours the blue pill way, for now. Why - because that's the only way you have. It'll do just fine, and in time you'll take the red pill the red pill way and these "I am fucked, I am fucked" concerns that seem incredibly real at the moment will disappear by themselves and no longer block you, because you're focused on more real things and no longer on yourself or on self-pitying self-burying emotions.

It's fucking good to be a man, a woman at 47 has no shot at anything like this, try as she might. No introspection, no ability for sustained self-rebuilding effort under adverse emotional conditions...

Kolbath · 2015-10-16T13:32:01+00:00

Welcome to the jungle. We've got fun and games.

I'll be honest, a lot of what you're going to go through is going to suck. You're going to hate it. It would be easier to go back to the Homer Simpson lifestyle.

Don't. You're my future self. I'm 41. While I've had a Red Pill attitude for a while, I just discovered this reality in its entirety about two months ago. This subreddit has changed everything. It will change you. There are guys here that are going to drop one sentence of wisdom that will make you think for three days. There are men here that you will hate but always respect.

I'm glad we found you.

[deleted] · 2015-10-18T00:07:24+00:00

As a mid-30s guy, seeing older guys on here is one of the best things about the place. Their life experience and perspective is really appreciated, and it's inspirational to see people still vitalised to better themselves at that age.

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Title	Beating down the doubt and taking the risk! 47M
Author	smQQkin
Upvotes	56
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Date	October 16, 2015 12:14 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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