Burning through 3 women in 2 weeks... venting

swoleo_dicaprio · 2015-03-19T19:29:01+00:00

First, this is a good sign: it means you know what you want, and you know when you're being played. At first, honest nexting can feel abrupt, but do everything you can to laugh them off. Like those bitches could actually get the drop on you!

Also, feel some empathy: this is the woman's social world with guys. For any chick over HB6, it's a constant carousel of these stunted social interactions. Trying to manipulate guys, or being manipulated. Never wonder why the wall hurts them so much; they have to tolerate all these gritty, jading mini-confrontations, testing the power of their attractiveness. Your 33 year old HB8 is losing her shit because she's seeing evidence that her maximum leverage point is in the past, and she is now going to be on the losing end of these mini-confrontations more and more.

callmebrick · 2015-03-19T20:12:22+00:00

Easy come, easy go.

Abundance mentality.

R1fle · 2015-03-19T20:17:30+00:00

Just some touches I have:

I have a great time and after that two times she wants me to come over. Two times we have some dinner, a good talk, no intimacy whatsoever, although there is some flirting.

Did you not like her or something? Fucking destroy that LMR. I wouldn't last 2 hours on a first date without making out with a girl. Unless she's like Aphrodite, I'd either fade after 2 hours of no intimacy, or I was never into her to begin with. Girls are generally already super into me before we even meet.

second date we decided to grab a bite, go out to a bowling centre (because, fuck it, it's just fun to do once in a while)

Technically speaking you can go on a date absolutely anywhere. Feel free to challenge yourself with this. Fun is where you are, not where anyone else is. You can take a girl behind McDonalds dumpster on a first date, or even spend like 30 minutes in a convenience store talking about whats the craziest thing she's ever done and if making out in the chip aisle was one of them - then make out with her in the chip aisle. If you're Alpha enough she won't give a fuck. She's still going to be locked with your eyes begging you to just make a move already.

aka, there is nothing wrong w/ taking a girl bowling.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-03-19T19:32:49+00:00

I am sorry dude, I thing most people in here can relate to some pieces of your story, and I am sorry if I was smiling as I was reading some. You should print this and frame it, because in a few years, you'll be laughing at it too.

This is why TRP exists, and this is why TRP gives me, and I hope to you as well, answers to the hundreds of questions that we have when stuff like this happens to us to to some on our friends.

Looking at the bright side, you are here. This is a good place to be and to start building a better self.

BadCopWithDonut · 2015-03-20T00:19:13+00:00

If you don't fuck them they are not plates.

loin_fruit · 2015-03-19T20:13:23+00:00

In the same boat man. Burned through 2 plates. Have one left. One of them was great sex. She was married and I had to figure out if it was all worth it still or not. She flaked too much and last time I told her to come hangout she took too long to reply (12 hours) and then ignored me. So I called her out on it and told her my time was too valuable and I was done.

You have to look at what your time is worth and if it's worth dealing with some of the bullshit just for sex. I'm worth more than being flaked on and I need to be respected more than being straight up ignored.

So I moved on. There will be more plates. More fun. Remember the times you've had with other girls. You went through that and thought it sucked, now you look back at it and it's fucking nothing. The same will be with this time. It'll be nothing to you at some point.

benzamtrp · 2015-03-19T22:23:25+00:00

Man you shouldn't be angry about them but about yourself. You've been accepting LJBF offers (woman #1), helping them with stuff (#1), being their listener (#1), getting butthurt and loosing frame (#1,2,3), letting them guide when and where to catch up (#1,3). Looks like you could with more side-bar reading.

Don't vent about their behaviour. Just remember that AWALT, and smile when you realise that TRP gives you the knowledge and tools to handle these situations. Above all, KEEP THAT FUCKING FRAME SOLID!

MattyAnon · 2015-03-19T20:57:39+00:00

Woman 3: she's fucked up, but you need to treat her better as you leave to avoid false rape charges.

Woman 1 and 2 do not count as "burning through 3 women". You slept with neither of them. Both of them wanted to use you. Not even BB use you - just use you. They are not "soft nexted" because there is nothing to next. Either give freely or don't give. Never, ever give-and-hope-to-get. Especially for women asking favours which they will do shamelessly.

The way you talk and the response of these women screams beta. You are trying to be friends, you are not making your intentions clear, you are not generating attraction, you are moving too slowly, you are not screening them for availability/logistics through escalation.

Seriously man... drop the ego... this is not burning through three women. This is meeting three variously-fucked-up single-for-a-reason women and not figuring out what they're like quick enough, while they are straight onto you as a source of fixing, help, validation, bad sex and someone to be indignant towards.

BowlOfCandy · 2015-03-19T21:34:13+00:00

I predict 2 of these 3 will be interested in sleeping with you in the future. Let them feel it out for a while, they'll be back.

IMessedUpReadBad · 2015-03-19T20:13:21+00:00

Awesome read, keep up the work. Getting into TRP mentality happen overnight, it takes some effort to realize the truth.

brokenshelf · 2015-03-19T20:50:44+00:00

Sounds like you just had a run of bad luck. Happens to everyone here and there. I'd take a little time off from the ladies, work on yourself a bit.

Soriq · 2015-03-19T23:30:20+00:00

You lost frame with #1 as soon as you felt that feeling you were being used (Learning experience, you will respond to this reflex better), but it was probably inevitable since she was a one-itis to you.

2 was never a plate

You need to simply talk to more women, and need to continue to do so even when you have plates. Spinning 3 (that you are actually fucking) at a time is the minimum. There are girls out there that are looking for the same thing you are looking for (someone to call up and fuck), some girls aren't, and most don't know what they want. What you want must be most important to you. Nexting is the right thing to do.

Science_isthenewcool · 2015-03-20T15:55:19+00:00

I allow 2 flakes, a third and then they get dropped. It's a 3 strike system for me.

hiphoprising · 2015-03-20T06:13:42+00:00

This was written like someone in elementary school. The way the author describes the girls he's surrounded with its like he disdains every interaction but is asking for support in his wrong decision.

thenarrrowpath · 2015-03-19T23:11:27+00:00

Peaks and valleys man, peaks and valleys. At least with #1 you realized what was happening and hard next her. #2, you shouldn't have mentioned the whole "lets date", just keep texting for logistics, don't establish what you are with a woman, let them do it. #3, yea she just seemed crazy, but I hear that's common for women in their early 30s (the wall is closing in, oh no!).

cover20 · 2015-03-20T01:11:24+00:00

Seems to me you did OK on all 3. 2 was certainly done correctly. I don't have that experience, but I guess plates drop.

Well done on not being dragged into orbit.

Booksarefun666 · 2015-03-20T06:15:17+00:00

At least you didn't spend two weeks with the first woman after knowing all that.

Some guys spend years.

Spitfire6 · 2015-03-20T19:27:10+00:00

You gentlemen need to understand something, falling in love needs to be initiated by that some one who thinks flowers kitties and other shit is cute and fluffy, our job is to provide, once those facts are knocked deep into your brain, you can still fall in love you just cant be hurt any more.

Another very important VERY big mistake young men make, is to ask only females regarding girl advice, an older male (straight and right in the head) can usually talk to a girl for 15-20 min and tell you more about her then she knows about herself.

There is an old Russian saying: A smart calf sucks from 2 titties.

yummyluckycharms · 2015-03-20T19:52:17+00:00

Chin up - harem collapses are normal

If I could offer any advice, I would work on your pre-screening a bit better. When a woman likes you, she doesnt beat around the bush, so when you see a plate go cold turkey for 2 weeks - that means you arent a contender and you should drop her. Same thing with woman 2, she kept you in orbit for weeks for emotional chit chat, but made no effort to fuck you. Unsurprisingly, she had no gina tingles and you bombed when you asked her to hang out wiht you.

A general rule of thumb is what I call the 3 text rule which is a corollary of the 3 date rule. Basically, 1st text is say hi and establish contact, 2nd txt should be about establishing comfort and setting up a date, and then 3rd text should be setting it up for 2nd date if the first went well. All of this should happen within a week, if it doesnt I bail.

These are just my guidelines and they are there to ensure I dont waste my time and energy. Sure some good ones fall through the cracks, but its saved me a lot from the bad ones.

disniggatrollin · 2015-03-19T21:07:18+00:00

Don't date chicks older than 24 or 26. And never date a chick older than you if you can help it. Shit never works well.

SoldierGenerale · 2015-03-19T19:55:35+00:00

You seem a little bit needy and horny. Get more girls and you'll be too busy to post long rants.

TekkomanKingz · 2015-03-20T01:02:44+00:00

You need to constantly be recruiting. In all honesty 3 isn't enough you should have 10 reliables in your rotation at once if you are in a big city and 5 if you are in a mid-sized city. 3 is only allowed if your town population is like 100,000 or below within 25 mile radius.

Title	Burning through 3 women in 2 weeks... venting
Author	BlueEyezzz
Upvotes	48
Comments	68
Date	March 19, 2015 7:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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