Doing things by yourself is good

JayViceroy · 2015-06-19T23:46:56+00:00

One of my plates recently told me about how her brother got a pretty cute girlfriend and that their family was a bit surprised because he was always so picky he never really brought girls home. Anyways about 6 months into the relationship they planned a trip to Europe together for two weeks. The days leading up to the trip, she broke up with him and he was devastated. My plate says "I can't believe that bitch would do that!" I responded with "at least she didn't use him for the trip and then break up with him immediately after. Thats an expensive trip." She was a bit shocked. Then the kicker was I told her he should have went by himself. She said he was too hurt, but he would never go to Europe by himself, especially the first time.

And this is the fundamental difference between the red pill man and the non RP man. I take trips across the globe all the time and show up with no car rental, no hotel reservation and sometimes no plan where I'm going. I have some of the most awesome stories of my life on trips like these. Go places and do things by yourself. And when opportunity presents itself, fuck it, say yes and run with it.

my_redpill_account · 2015-06-20T02:20:40+00:00

I actually started going to my local bar down the street by myself. I just chat up with randoms, they have a horror movie on at all times so if you don't wanna chat and just chill, just watch the movie.

I have a vape, so instead of being a douche and blowing clouds all up on everyone i head outside to the smokers area, great place to chat people up as well.

I'll talk to girls, not try to toss game or anything but just to talk to girls. Its easy to talk to other dudes, but when you chat up the ladies you will start to see a pattern between them, get more comfortable talking to them, etc. It is a great exercise for me, since I'm still working on myself.

Honestly, my friends are a little more beta. They won't just do something by themselves, then whine like a woman and go on facebook to post a passive aggressive status about how their friends are lame and never wanna do anything. I'll ask a friend, they say no, then fine. I'll do it myself. (if i can even get honest replies outta my friends, no matter how many times i say "look dude if you don't/can't do something just say no and its fine i don't care". They just come up with shit excuses or ignore)

cheers everyone.

silvertongue35 · 2015-06-20T01:37:46+00:00

Great post. Since finding TRP 2 months ago, I have done a much better job of not being tethered to others or dependent on others to do things.

Now I hit the theater by myself, I eat out at sit down restaurants alone. I head to the mall alone and browse. It doesn't matter what the activity is, I am fine with doing it alone.

The thing is that even before all this, being alone didn't bother me if I was in my house doing shit, but I was a homebody. The difference now is I have no problem going out and about and doing shit alone.

phatalac · 2015-06-20T02:29:55+00:00

I'll make this quick i was turning 23 and wanted to skydive i had some friends lined up to join me one by one they flaked, i work my ass up on my 23rd birthday drove 2 and half hours and did a solo skydive this was the second time i had done it, bottom line is i felt bad ass and realized i didn't need anyone to make my fun happen i did it on my own.

Polaris382 · 2015-06-20T04:01:48+00:00

Of course it is. Im a "loner" type though and its strange how people can get so drawn into that. I like to do my own thing and be left the fuck alone a lot of times, and yet...women dig that. Make of that what you will, seriously though it isnt that important.

If you are unfulfilled now, pussy wont fill that void.

JeanValjean197o · 2015-06-20T02:33:31+00:00

If I ever waited for someone to go with me before I went traveling then I'd never have gone anywhere.

Instead, I've lived in the Arctic Circle for 6 months, hitch hiked across the United States, and traveled overland as far south as Guatemala City, Guatemala. All this before the age of 22.

If only they had selfy sticks back then (1992).

deadstick_it · 2015-06-20T03:45:05+00:00

In the past, I realized that some of the best times I've had were when I just struck out on my own and did whatever. Seemed like fun just fell into my lap.

This thought came into play when I was looking for someone to come out to a four day biker rally last week. I finally decided that I will go and see what happens. Packed the bike and hauled ass to Austin.

While looking for a decent spot to pitch my tent some random dude saw me and asked me what I was doing. When I told him I was trying to decide on a camp spot he said to just put my stuff there with them. The other guy he was with helped me get my tent up, tossed me a beer and we got sauced up before the first concern started. A couple more showed up and we had a five man crew for the weekend. Might have been the best weekend of my life...top five for sure.

I suspect that had I gone with somebody we would have set up by ourselves, not really met anyone and it may not have been what it was because I went alone.

The moral is, just go and do shit by yourself and don't have any expectations. Just see what falls in your lap. If you take a trip, like I did, don't have a set plan. Semper Gumby (stay flexible). You may end up having the time of your life and have a solid group that returns every year like we are planning to do.

RoadToOneFifty · 2015-06-20T19:11:21+00:00

A man only finds true peace once solitude becomes a virtue, not a fear.

Iplaychesssometimes · 2015-06-20T04:43:11+00:00

Introduction

I read the above post

Analysis

I concur

Conclusion

I read the above post and I concur.

Ryohazukisan · 2015-06-20T06:03:31+00:00

I have always been scared and felt too awkward to do this. But every male in my life is a beta, and I can't let it hold me back any longer. I am going to start doing things alone. Thank you for this post.

Day_man2020 · 2015-06-21T03:41:06+00:00

Rolling solo gets a bad rap for no good reason. The reality is people are everywhere and you're way more likely to make new connections or just conversations when you aren't dragging around your friends.

I like solo camping trips because I can really Zen out, wake up with the sun rise take my sweet ass time or hit the ground running. I've found that doing more solo stuff has made me feel a lot more self possessed in general, I guess when you hike and camp by yourself you get to know you a lot better.

Tidbitter · 2015-06-20T10:22:49+00:00

It's a cliche, but it fits this thread, "Being alone does not mean being lonely".

I'll go a step further and suggest that a man's serenity is not measured by how many people attend his funeral.

Maaahoney · 2015-06-20T20:15:51+00:00

Learning to go solo is critical especially in western culture where flakiness is a common trait. I left facebook, but even now I hear people talking at meetups where they joke about how 30 people say their going. Which means 3 might show up. If you plan on avoiding marriage like me, and you see how people try to shame you for being a single man, it's critical that I don't let it bother me. For myself, I force myself to meditate daily. Even just 10 minutes. I look back on those "rough days" that I have every now and then, and it's usually the days i skip meditation and remind myself of my completeness.

fingerbangbng · 2015-06-20T21:06:12+00:00

A great way to kinda force yourself to go out by yourself is to buy a motorcycle. Solo seat, phone in your pocket, no GPS. Just go cruise, get lost, stop and ask people for directions, or hang out in a bar/restaurant/gas station for awhile coolin off and drinkin some water or gatorade and makin small talk with the staff. See a cool place go ahead and check it out.

Quick story, bikers as a whole are not at all what I thought they would be before I started riding. Just the other day I ended up behind a guy on his bike right outside where I live and while we were stopped at a red light I saw him look back at me in his mirror and I have him the "thumb and pinky out" sign and he nodded at me. So I ended up ahead of him a few lights up and he pulled up next to me and asked he if I was headed somewhere or just ridin and I told him I was goin down to the beach to check it out and he was like, "Cool, I'll ride with you." So we ended up chillin at the beach talkin for like a half hour until his wife called and ripped him a new one for bein gone so long, traded numbers and I made a new friend just from goin for a ride with no destination in mind.

kalstate · 2015-06-20T01:18:54+00:00

Inspired by /u/BurgundyCarpet 's post, "How To Talk To Everyone You See", I started going out around town by myself over this past week. Funny thing, this post totally reminded me of my fantastic travels and experiences on other continents. Goal for today/tonight: put your planner down (and do what's written in it, if it's awesome), throw out that half-baked pizza and lifestyle, get outside, know your value, and share it with whomever is receptive to you--It doesn't matter if it's in your home neighborhood or overseas--the effect is the same. Pretend you are in an exotic place and act as if it's your last day of freedom before you have to go back to [insert boring, shitty, passive lifestyle here]. Writing this, I realize I almost fucked up my chance to be awesome today--I'm sick of looking at this blue screen--I'm going outside and pretending I'm in Tehran and it's the last day before the Apocalypse..

Booksarefun666 · 2015-06-20T02:46:29+00:00

If you want anything done you can only rely on yourself if it's not in a professional setting where people are making money.

People are way too fickle imo.

Bakkie · 2015-06-20T03:39:01+00:00

Very true. Also traveling solo makes you appear more accessible to people

RP_Vergil · 2015-06-20T05:19:33+00:00

This is the discipline I drove into myself when I decided to hit the gym.

Not waiting for some friends to "join" them as I'll just wind up skipping it if they don't turn up.

Once you are comfortable doing things by yourself, you stop to notice the difficulty in attempting other things because you only need to do it. You don't need others approval.

soccerplusaviation · 2015-06-20T11:49:24+00:00

So true. This even applies to work. I am a new grad and right now in am in the learning phase and dependent on the senior guys. Sometimes I do things that I don't know wtf to do and the guys I need help from are not there or are very busy.
So I go ahead and go as far as I can until I got no moves left, then I go back to them tell em my progress and results and there are always happy to drop what there doing and help. On the other hand I watched some interns ask for help at the first sign of trouble and you can see the flash of annoyance and sometimes they can be dismissive.

So yeah, in any atmosphere, if you tackle something on your own and you come back with a great story to tell, people will love to join you.

yizolo · 2015-06-21T00:26:27+00:00

I like to frame dates like this. Then I get there a little early to buy my own drink. This works in two ways.

First, it sets up the fact that this is not something special I am doing for her.

Second, I pay for my own before she gets there, which means she will be paying for hers.

avatar_juan · 2015-06-20T05:37:40+00:00

If you're doing it by yourself don't forget to floss.

nodiggity9721 · 2015-06-20T10:30:55+00:00

I plan to fly with my friend for a trip abroad, but he's unsure. I told him I'll be going regardless, and it's true. If I want to travel I will travel.

paleoman1992 · 2015-06-20T21:13:25+00:00

ok my young friends,i hope this entry will help: At 51,have learned to do many hobbies alone or otherwise that gave me great satisfaction in my life. Im into working on hotrods,bowhunting,mad free weights, reading,eating out alone,welding,music….I could go on. And no I'm not some cellar troll. Got lots buds,good family life, hot little 35yo g/f. At any given time i can pull the chutes on a vanilla night or boring situation and go into my mind laboratory and be totally content. guys-always keep that cherry lifesaver in your pocket. and learn this young. good luck.

RXRob · 2015-06-21T11:24:25+00:00

I've been planning to travel around Scotland for my birthday week and climb Ben Nevis on my birthday. Alone.

This week my brother and his friend asked if they could join me. Lead, and people will follow

didaskalos · 2015-06-21T13:16:10+00:00

I like this post a lot. Short, but straight to the point. I was BP for many, many years, which included a fear of going out by myself or even being by myself. As I began to take responsibility for myself instead of feeling affirmed by others, part of that responsibility meant becoming comfortable with myself. Going out by yourself is a huge step in this way. I especially like the idea of being the one to make a plan--others can tag along if they want to, but you don't need them to.

quaglandx3 · 2015-06-22T12:58:58+00:00

I got back 2 weeks ago from a solo trip to Europe. Two weeks, 4 countries, all by myself. I'm normally a shy person, and this got me out of that. Each night I met a new couple or two or groups of people and would party until 4am like we were life long best friends.

Title	Doing things by yourself is good
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Date	June 19, 2015 10:59 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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