Don’t Worry About Losing Her

reluctantly_red · 2018-04-29T19:09:40+00:00

If you’re high value, you always have indirect abundance,

This is a hard lesson to learn but a very important one. Women want you to breakdown and curl up in the fetal position at the mere thought of her leaving. Don't let her have that power. Even if it takes a few months (or even a year or two) she can be replaced.

ThreeTierTiger · 2018-04-29T22:14:38+00:00

Fear of losing her ruined my last relationship and sent me into a spiral of misery that ultimately led me here. I thought I had done a lot of work to improve myself (had a good job, was working out, had lots of women interested, etc.) but all that was useless because I had done all of it to impress her.

When shit got complicated or she treated me without respect, I didn't summon all that hard work to stand my ground and demonstrate abundance, I fell apart and became the dude I had been desperately trying to escape. And, of course, she left.

LightSkinKen · 2018-04-29T19:19:56+00:00

dudes over analyze. Sometimes you have to shoot your shot. If you miss. Keep shooting. Jordan missed so can you.

danoranika · 2018-04-30T00:53:37+00:00

Goes back to Patrice O'Neal's time hoe concept. Black Phillip niggas represent!

Scheme00 · 2018-04-30T02:56:36+00:00

An amazing quote I saw on TRP:

“Pussy ain’t water, I don’t need it to survive.”

tonikroosofficial · 2018-04-29T23:58:40+00:00

Really needed this right now. Broke up because I simply can't trust her anymore.

thunderbeyond · 2018-04-30T11:10:23+00:00

This should be daily reading.

magx01 · 2018-04-30T02:48:56+00:00

The problem though, is that reality conforms to the 80/20 rule. "You're the prize" advice is like the "you go girl" stuff that is rampant. It's all nice in theory but it does not reflect the true reality and thus leads (most) people nowhere.

0wnieee · 2018-04-29T19:40:20+00:00

Good stuff, I was the looser doing things for her, she would mention sex after I did things but not end up following through. Onto the next one I go, lesson learnt.

Overkillengine · 2018-05-01T04:35:29+00:00

And for fuck's sake, don't sign lopsided contracts with biased terms and enforcement (AKA modern marriage).

It does nothing to enforce quality as a partner or parent on her part (in fact, it does the opposite), so it is just a reliable increase in risk with no reliable increase in potential reward.

In other words, a real fucking bad deal.

Cohabit and form a stable domestic partnership if you must in order to raise successful offspring, but allowing 3rd parties (be it via apathy or blind faith) anymore influence over it than absolutely necessary is absolutely stupid, considering those 3rd parties sole real interest is keeping you financially on the hook no matter what.

And if you are not high enough value to be able to dictate your terms, you now know what your first task is.

SexdictatorLucifer · 2018-05-01T06:39:45+00:00

Great post and insight. One thing you just brushed over simplistically but can be expanded: Emotional attachment. If you want an LTR you have to cede emotional attachment to a degree. It's the only thing that makes a LTR different than spinning plates; which is both parties giving more. But you can expand your posts mentality into this and ask can you give emotional attachment and still have confidence in your indirect abundance (I liked that term btw). That's why LTR is RP hard mode. The stakes are higher. Are you good enough to resist transforming into a beta relationship? And if that happens, are you good enough to end it once you understand happened? Are you good enough to not delude yourself when it happens?

Beerbeer007 · 2018-04-30T19:24:52+00:00

This should be in every Big Brother to Little Brother talk; and to any man entering the realm of social interaction with women & the purpose of skills & career. (If only someone had told me about this sooner, i'd be more skillful, and satisfied with my purpose in life)

engine1321 · 2018-05-01T03:20:58+00:00

I've been threatened by a woman with her leaving several times. After I caved that one time when I was married she thought it was a viable tactic in her overall strategy. The second time I told her I was going to help her pack. She backed down immediately, and so have all the others since.

I don't negotiate with terrorists, and neither should you. Kick her to the curb and go find her replacement THAT NIGHT.

Code-Purple · 2018-05-01T14:21:12+00:00

Post like these come up exactly when I need them the most. I've been softening up my behavior to this one girl and I've been spending too much valuable time on her lately, thanks for the wake-up call.

h4nkz · 2018-05-02T14:05:22+00:00

if your steak is burned at a restaurant, don't start to hate steak. It can happen anywhere. You have money (value) and there are many restaurants (options). Just enjoy it somewhere else.

casemodz · 2018-04-30T14:26:43+00:00

This is actually useful, thanks.

Title	Don’t Worry About Losing Her
Author	RedPilledRoaster
Upvotes	274
Comments	34
Date	April 29, 2018 5:21 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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