So I haven't seen anything talking about one of, if not the most, important part of raising your SMV. Get fit. When you approach someone, if the first thing they notice about you is your protruding gut, you need to lose weight. You can't demand respect if you don't respect yourself. So I've put together a little something on how to lose that weight or gain it. This is intended for people who don't work out or who don't really know what they're doing.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a personal trainer or a nutritionist. This is a primer for you to start learning and point you in the right direction.

First

CALORIES IN vs. CALORIES OUT

There is a concept called BMR or basal metabolic rate. Along with that is your TDEE (Total daily energy expenditure). Its how many calories a day you burn. BMR is the amount you would burn if you literally did nothing all day. TDEE is how much you burn doing basic things like walking and moving. Find your TDEE and BMR here: http://iifym.com/tdee-calculator/

TO LOSE WEIGHT:

If TDEE > CALORIES IN you lose weight. Its that simple. Anything talking about "healthy eating" usually boils down to eating less calorie dense foods. So if you've got some chub, eat less. Track your calories. Run more. 1 LB of fat is about 3500 calories. So if you eat 500 calories less than you burn, you will lose 1 lb per week of fat.

TO BUILD MUSCLE:

If TDEE < CALORIES IN you gain weight. This is less simple, Your body will handle burning fat for you. But if you want to put on some muscle, you need to start working out. If you don't have a caloric excess, you won't see very good gains. You might at first, but it will end quickly. Your body needs energy to build muscle fibers. If it doesn't have that extra energy, it can't burn it to make new tissue. However, if you're not working out, you won't see the muscles build. Working out tells your body how to spend the calories. Eat more. Work out more. But remember, you will be gaining fat at the same time. This is why many body builders work in bulk/cut cycles. Where they bulk during the winter and cut during the summer.

WORKING OUT:

For both sets of people I recommend http://stronglifts.com/5x5/ is a great workout and it will get you on track to building lots of muscles. Its slow, and steady, and after about a year you'll start looking much better. Read /r/fitness FAQ for MUCH more info about working out and getting in shape. But the gist of it is, free weights and bodyweight exercises will build you muscle, Machines and cardio wont. You need to be doing this.

MUSCLE DEFINITION:

*6 PACK ABS ARE A DIRECT FUNCTION OF YOUR BODY FAT PERCENTAGE *. No amount of crunches or pushups will get you 6 packs. Same goes for the other muscles. If your flabby, lose weight. Until you're down to about 10-15% body fat you won't see muscle definition in the way you want it. I've heard that you need to be under 10% body fat to get visible abs. YMMV. Also, remember that your body burns the fat for you. Which means that you're not going to get rid of a beer gut from crunches. You need to lose all around body fat which is done by dieting. However, if there is no muscle to begin with, you won't see anything either. Build some muscle. Girls like muscle, guys like muscle.

NUTRITION:

Getting the right stuff in you is important, the /r/fitness faq is has a bunch of great stuff about what you should eat and in what portions. The general idea is that you should be eating a certain amount of fat, carbs, and protein a day. The amounts differ based on your goals. But From my personal discoveries, Chicken, Turkey, Tuna are magical meats with loads of protein and healthy fats. Eat those more. For people losing weight, be sure to work out and keep your protein high, this diminishes muscle loss while dieting. For people trying to gain muscle, eat more protein anyways.

Finally, but to really be taken seriously, you need to look serious. Being fluffy (read: fat) looks like you can't control your intake and makes people think your a glutton. We won't baby you into getting fit and healthy, This isn't a hug box philosophy like the rest of them. But I realize some guys don't know where to start. So There you go, if you don't know what something is, google it. Or ask on /r/fitness or here. Get fit. Get buff, get healthy. Remember, girls don't care why you're fat. They only care that you're hot. So no excuses.