I am a 33 year old man from Northern Europe. I have my masters degree, i have a job and about 3 years ago i was married to a woman. We have a child that i now, after the divorce, see still often. I have a close and good relationship with my child.

Since the divorce i have spinned plates and had a good sexlife. The plates always want more, and as I am an honest person, i tell them that I dont want anything beyond casual. That is usually where things end.

I have started to find that I no longer have the energy to pursue new women or even spin my remaining plates. I dont care about how they feel, what they are doing. I wont respond to their messages unless it seems that my lack of attention is starting to aggrevate them into not giving me sex. Or rarely if they have something amusing to say to me.

I know that women love differently from men. I understand why evolution has made it this way. But goddamit it feels hollow. And dont get me wrong, i know blue pill does not give any more than a mirage that hides the same truth with lies of happy companionship.

I have my bros, i use my hoes but i feel like there should be more. I have the basics under control, but i am lacking a direction when it comes to women. How do you handle the great narrative about family life, love and women being bullshit? As I see it, there is nowhere to go anymore in this part of my life. Do i try to accept this directionless wandering with stoicism or try to find something new, that most likely does not exist?