All of us carry around various defence mechanisms and automatic programs from our youth. These can range from "No-one ever listens to me," which can lead talking more as an adult to try and be heard to "I don't have enough," which can lead to obsessive workaholism, impulsive spending, and gambling addiction.

I've been diving deeper into my hidden beliefs lately and recently discovered a very deep belief I carry from childhood - "I believe I am weak". I comprehended that many of the defence mechanisms I've been carrying around stem from this belief, and actually my whole perspective on life was built on this very foundation. I believe a lot of men on The Red Pill may also be carrying around this belief, but strongly in denial about it.

To explain further, the entire perspective of women being "bad" comes from this belief. When we have our heart broken by our oneitis, we cast ourselves as the innocent character - the "victim". The truth is that there is no such thing as a perpetrator or a victim in this scenario - both parties are equally responsible for what happened. Casting ourselves as a victim not only denies us of responsibility but also gives away all of our power to the woman who committed this "offence".

Casting myself as a victim is a defence mechanism that I employed numerous times throughout my life in order to protect me from the "bad" world. It served to make my "perpetrators" feel guilty (although in reality this rarely worked!) in order to absolve me of any responsibility, and to allow me to go through life in a dependent state. I felt this was necessary as deep down I believed that I was week and needed protecting.

If any of this rings any bells, I would suggest the following exercise. Say out loud to yourself "I am weak". Say it clearly and from the heart. Then pay attention to how you feel. You don't have to do anything else - don't judge or reason with yourself.

If reading this makes you think "This doesn't apply to me, I'm not going to do this" I would recommend that you look deeply into the reason why. If you don't believe that you are weak, what possible harm could saying "I am weak" out loud do?

The purpose of this is to bring the lie that we have been unconsciously carrying around into conscious awareness, in order to open up the possibility of the truth. When we unconsciously carry around a lie, we view reality through this lens, meaning the truth is unable to show itself.

I'd be interested to know how you all get on.