Key lessons are in bold.

We matched on Tinder. Fortunately I subscribe to Tinder Plus and use its boost feature around 9:45 pm, which is how we matched. Scouring her bio, I found some material I could use for my opener. I sent her a witty line she appreciated. We had a few back and forths, where she referenced the 2 truths 1 lie in my bio (I highly recommend putting this in yours, they almost always ask about it) which led to her saying how she liked dogs. I said this was my #1 criteria in someone (thus having her qualify herself to me) then asked for her number. She gave some bullshit resistance asking me a few questions before finally giving me her number.

My first text consists of the following: my name, that I'm from Tinder, and a cute/witty line referencing our conversation on the app. I did some cold reading based on what she tells me, and she is shocked at how accurately I predicted her. We have a few back and forths and I refrain from taking the conversation sexual so that she feels comfortable, not pressured, and safe enough to meet up. but not that many until I ask for the phone call. I recommend giving her a phone call (or better FaceTime) for the following reasons:

  1. It separates you from the crowd. No one these days calls.

  2. She puts a face to the name. You just aren't some contact in her phone she can delete at whim. You are now a human being with a voice.

  3. You share a stronger connection. You get to know each other better, faster, and on a deeper level on the phone over texting.

  4. Texting is fluff. Talking is comfort building (this I will attest to in the rest of the report).

  5. Related to comfort building women have a fear that you will leave them after sex. By calling them before you even have sex with them, you establish you are a guy with her feelings in mind.

I make sure she agrees to the phone call. Cold calling her may freak her out and will make you look like a weirdo. But once she agrees to one, it is perfectly ok to call. So I call her and give her an emphatic hello. I compliment her voice and say we are off to a great start. There is a myth out there that it is bad to call because you will run out of things to say on the date. Conversation topics are not a scarce resource, new events happen every single day, there is and will be always things to talk about.

Texting and via conversation I tease her. For example, Finding Dory was recently added to Netflix and I have never seen it. I told her this and she said she cried in the first five minutes. Instead of agreeing or consoling her, I called her a wuss. We had a playful fight back and forth before switching to other topics.

I asked her for a pic I can use for her profile on my messages app and she sends me a selfie. She then asks for one from me and I send her one that was professionally done. I do this because once we are sharing pictures it adds a more personalized level to the conversation. Plus this has the potential of opening up the floodgates to more erotic photos from her.

In fact later that week she asks ME if she can call me to vent. I know at this point I have secured a perfect threshold of comfort with her. At the end of this call I secure a date with her for that weekend. We set it at a restaurant near her place.

The day before we are planned to meet she calls me for our third phone call. We talk, and I ask her if we can reschedule for earlier that day because I have a networking conference later that night. She says that would be perfect. In fact, because she has an injury she doesn't want to go out and would rather just meet at her place. (!!!)

Logistics are the most important thing in terms of getting laid, second only to maybe comfort. Because I built enough comfort with her over the phone, she was more than willing, even offering, to just meet at her place, thus giving me perfect logistics.

I'm an hour and twenty minute drive from her place. Fortunately it is all highway. But I know that every date I've had that has started at her house has ended with me getting laid. So I take the drive and park near her house. We meet and greet, and I ask if I can charge my phone in her room. She says fine and that I should join her in the living room. We're talking, we order a pizza, I give her a token offer to pay for it, but she pays because she recognizes how far I drove.

Throughout the interaction, I am pummeling with my kino. Putting my hand around her shoulder, leaning in for the kiss, pulling back when she doesn't comply, all without saying a word. In the first hour, she is a little standoffish, even going so far as to saying she is a sloth when it comes to relationships. But I neither force myself on her nor give up. I smile and am encouraged by the challenge. We play a board game and talk some more before her roommate comes in through the door. After shaking her roommate's hand, the roommate leaves, and my date asks me if we should go into her room for more privacy. I say sure and we are in her room and on her bed.

The setting is perfect. But still she is a little uneasy. Nevertheless, I don't try to coerce or convince her. I know I've got this in the bag, so I let nature take its course. And pretty soon we are making out. I take off my shirt and attempt to take off hers. But she pushes my hand back. So we continue to make out. I still keep my pants on because I know there is a turn taking method I use. I take off one piece of clothing, she takes off one piece of clothing, then my turn, then her turn, and so on and so forth.

At this point there happens to be a beautiful accident: I have to drive back home to get to my networking conference, so it is time for me to go. I stop kissing her and tell her this. She laments and complains and tells me she wants me to stay. I tell her I've already committed to this so I have to go. She then tells me what if we go further. At this point my interest is piqued. We take off her shirt and her bra and she is now topless. I kiss her chest and makeout with her some more before going for her pants. She blocks me once again. I say this has been great but I'm going to be late for this conference. Not wanting me to go, she complies and takes her pants and underwear off. She is completely naked at this point, so I take off my pants to be naked with her. Have the ability to walk away. Give her a roller coaster of emotions, making her beg for the good feelings to keep coming.

We end up fucking in missionary, doggy, and her on top. It was great, and ended a dry spell for me from when I slept with the last woman. I guess I'll never know what happened in that conference.

Epilogue

After an hour of recharging, we fuck a second time. I can tell she wants me to sleep over but her mother will be there in the morning so she agrees to me departing. Here's where I get caught though: she tells me to text her immediately when I get home to know I am safe. While driving she ends up texting me twice saying she had a great time. When I get home I text her that I made it. She says that's great and goodnight. And now she calls me every day, excited for the next time she will see me. At first I texted her during the day but then I realized I need to portray myself as a busy man with a life so even if she texted me I ceased responding until my set hours during the day to text.

The biggest lesson I can impart: call your women in order to build comfort. Once comfort is established, it is a quick jump to perfect logistics, just like I had.

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