In my opinion, theres two kinds of long term boyfriends/husbands:

masculine providers and beta providers.

This is going to be a short post differentiating the two, which I think is important since they are similar in theory but very different in practice, and not knowing the difference leads many men into being the latter and leading a dissatisfying life.

This post is inspired by the movies Fight Club, American Beauty, and also inspired by my own parents relationship.

A masculine provider is a man who earns enough money to provide his woman with a good life. Good living situation, good car to drive. He has strong investment holdings and the ability to go on vacations and buy nice things. He has no worries about the next meal or the next bill or any problems like that, basically a successful man who is paying for all the big expenses in life.

A masculine provider is the leader in the relationship. Yes, he takes his woman’s opinion and consideration on things, and if she as a better view on about a particular topic he will yield to her, but both he and the woman know he is the leader and he runs the relationship.

A beta provider is a man who also earns enough money to provide his woman with a good life. He can also provide a good living situation and good car to drive.He also has strong investment holdings and the ability to go on vacations and buy nice things. He doesn’t have any worries about the next meal or the next bill either. He’s also basically a successful man who is paying for all the big expenses in life.

So far, identical to the masculine provider.

But the similarities end there since the beta provider is NOT the leader of the relationship.

He may earn the money and because of that he is TECHNICALLY the “head of the household” or whatever term people wanna use, but everyone involved in the relationship, the man, the woman, the friends, even the kids if they are old enough, know that the WOMAN RUNS THE SHOW.

The beta provider believes in the phrase “happy wife happy life”

He is non confrontational, and will do/say whatever needs to be done/said to avoid conflict or a contest of ideas. He will answer to his woman’s every beck and call, and he will never tell her no because he has no boundaries.

Wife wants a Chanel bag after already getting a Hermes bag and Louis Vuitton bag? He will say yes and buy it for her anyway.

Wife wants him to keep an ugly ass piece of furniture when he wants to throw it away? He will keep the furniture anyway.

Wife wants a bigger house or better car to keep up with the Joneses, but the husband is not too hot on the idea? He will go to the bank and get the financing anyway.

He thinks he is being a good husband, and by the modern blue pill big government standards, he is.

But he is miserable and powerless. He is failing every single shit test because he doesn’t know the term or the concept of one. He will go through life thinking he's doing what he's supposed to do but wondering why he isn't happy.

He either gets no sex, and frankly he probably doesn’t even want it because who wants to have sex with a nagging fat woman ? I can't tell whats worse, not getting sex or not wanting sex.

He gets no recognition, barely any, but he is expected to keep slaving away for his woman

He can’t divorce her since she will take half of everything, not to mention he is out of shape and uncharismatic.

People in society look at their marriage and praise its loyalty and success, but let’s be real. Loyalty out of necessity is not loyalty, it’s slavery.

Moral of the story: if you’re going to be in a long term relationship or marriage, you need to be the masculine provider, not the beta provider