I'm grateful for the internet to be able to share knowledge like this to men all around the world. Let's begin.

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Women

u/VasiliyZaitzev said it best: Think horizontally, not vertically.

I was always a vertical thinker. I'd get a crush on a girl and obsess over her, literally thinking about her day and night, cuddling my pillow thinking about her lol.

Do you think that got me the girl?

When I started implementing this advice and spreading my attention out to many different women at once, I learnt that for men it's always a numbers game.

If you're not putting yourself out there in front of 5+ girls at once, you're on a dangerous path to short-term oneitis.

It was a hard pill to swallow but lets be honest...

Girls are the masters at this.

It's almost like they don't even realise they are doing it, but glance over at her whilst she goes onto any social media and you'll see an entire screen of unopened messages from guys.

When I started speaking to more girls at once I felt like I was way more desired. And as soon as it didn't work out with one, no worries, I have another couple that I'm interested in.

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Women distracting me from my mission was a big mistake, but it's not their fault.

It's mine.

I'd get the girl and then get comfortable.

"No need to be shredded anymore right?" I'd think whilst eating junk food with her.

"Going out clubbing and pulling girls isn't that fun anymore" Whilst we'd stay in and watch shitty movies all night.

It took me far too long to realise that overinvesting your time in her actually makes her less attracted to you and of course, you worsen things for your Future Self.

And here's the thing... If you're spending all your time with her, you're obviously doing things that normal girls do. Which usually means staying in, eating junk, watching shit on the tv and scrolling through your phone.

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Not sexualising her was a big mistake that I made. I stopped making this mistake and this one change alone started my casual sex lifestyle.

Guess who she's having sex with? The guy who sexualises her.

And so I'd believe that good girl stereotype and frame the girl in that way. Obviously that didn't work. I thank the red pill and all the posters and commenters who normalized this new mindset.

It's literally common sense - If you want to have sex with a woman, act like it. Stop speaking to her like she's your friend, dumbass.

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Finally the big mistake I've made with women is not walking away when the time was right. I've always been pretty bad at rejecting others. With every girl I dated, there was a point where I knew that it would be best to end things. But I didn't act on that. I stayed with her, perhaps out of scarcity, perhaps out of the fear of that breakup feeling that hurts.

I wasted years of life like this. Please do not make this mistake. When you know it's time, take action and leave. There is going to be a Day 1 of moving on. Day 1 could be today, or it could be in 9 months from now. Don't make your Future Self go through that shit just because you don't want to experience the breakup today.

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Drugs

I began smoking weed everyday at the start of 2019 and didn't stop until May 2020. What a waste of time. Looking back I'm grateful for this because I've been able to learn from it and help others in the same situation. But the amount of negative thoughts I went through, feeling like a loser, binge eating when I had the munchies and ruining my physique... It's a dangerous drug that slowly fucks your life and worse of all weed is deemed as a very safe, no consequences drug. It's so widely available.

B-b-b-b-but I know this one guy who's ultra productive and makes $20,000 per month and he smokes all the time!!!

Shut up dumbass

When you smoke weed you're taking your Future Self's fulfilment for your instant gratification. A terrible investment.

If you're reading this right now and thinking "Fuck this guys talking about me, I think weed's ruining my life" The best advice is that you have to completely change your environment. Trying to make a significant change in your life without changing your environment will likely not result in any positive changes and you'll just get fed up. Your environment and especially who you spend time with is influencing your smoking habits. Make drastic changes if you want drastic results.

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I've done some stupid, risky shit on drugs. I almost got sent to a Croatian prison lol.

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Video games

I spent thousands of hours levelling up in the virtual world, even making money in the virtual world. It's insane that I didn't invest that time in real life. Real life achievements feel 100x better than anything in a game, it's just that it's uncomfortable to delay gratification. It's tough to work hard in real life because you feel the burn of the muscle soreness, or the fatigue of your fried brain cells after working on your business. But avoiding this discomfort is the plague for young men.

Video games manipulate men. They simulate the same kind of achievements, brotherhood and ranks that we wish to acquire in real life.

Video games are insanely similar to drugs. You build up a tolerance. You literally get withdrawal symptoms. Your friends who share the substance with you are not really your friends - As soon as the substance is gone, they aren't around.

When you quit video games you barely speak to the same people anymore, just like when you quit the drug you used to take together.

When I quit video games I became instantly more lonely. There's a transition period where you really have to grind in real life to make it worth it. All the time you spent levelling up in video games made real life worse. Now you must endure the trials and tribulations of facing your lack of success IRL without the comfort of being behind a screen. It's worth it.

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Health

I'm a dumbass.

I listened to the advice the fitness Youtubers kept giving me - "All calories are the same bro just eat whatever you want, as long as you're at the right calories you're ok!"

And so I ate junk food everyday. I binge ate very often.

But when you're getting most of your calories from processed junk you're messing up your health and you won't feel it until it's too late.

Your lifts in the gym won't progress as much when you're eating for pleasure compared to eating for nutrition.

One of the best changes I ever made was eating for nutrition. I haven't binge ate in over 9 months which is a unreal achievement for me.

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My mental health was always pretty bad. I've had anxiety for a long time without even knowing. It was such a suboptimal way to live.

Eventually I did something great - I sat down and researched my mental health symptoms. Now I knew what I was dealing with. Then I learnt how to reduce anxiety - Mostly meditation. And so I started meditating every day since May 2020. I've missed just a handful of days from then, my anxiety has dropped considerably and my happiness has skyrocketed.

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I hope you boys can avoid the mistakes I made.

If you would prefer to watch rather than read, here's a 50+ minute video of me explaining all these mistakes and a few more about money and self improvement (as well as telling you the Croatia drug story). Watch with this link now: https://youtu.be/sJ_EnQVEelc