On of the biggest lessons learned from dating my very first last girlfriend was to never exclusively give myself to a single woman. It's probably one of the healthiest choices I've made for maintaining successful LTPs. Sounds counter productive if you're trying to build intimacy but the possibility you may potentially be seeing talking to another woman is enough to driver her up the wall and out the door on a long enough timeline. You know the honeymoon phase is over once they've become comfortable/confident enough to ask:

  • What are we?

We're friends.

  • What are we doing?

We're hanging out.

  • Who is she?

She's one of my girl (emphasize the space) friends.

She might even question your answers. Question her questions; but aren't we friends sweetie? It doesn't matter how the conversation goes, it always ends the same. Either her putting up with the facts of my relationships or her leaving. There is no room for negotiation because a woman always gets worse, not better once you're exclusively committed to her.

When you're not and she knows it, the hamster spins trying to figure out what this all means. Questions are going to pop in her head like; Who? How many? Where? She'll always wonder, What is he actually up to? Most importantly she'll question, Why does he need other woman? Why am I not enough? What you're instilling in her is dread that she's actually what all woman are; replaceable.

You have to be committed to this attitude to righteously execute it. I do not lie to hide the facts because I'm willing to take the L. It's a hell of a lot easier, to let a bitch go, knowing you have other girls on the roster. The fact game is like musical talent, either use it or loose it, is another reason not to give up your ability to freely practice. Losing your ability to pick up chicks is going to kill lust your girls have for you; woman want a man, who other woman want. This is why she's more willing to stick around if other girls are sticking around too. Other women's interest in you, validate her thought that he's something special. Women want to be your choice, not your only option.

On top of this fact, ever woman is arrogant and cocky enough to whole heartedly believe, I'm going to change this man. My pussy don't stink and I'm something better different than the rest of his hos. It's what they do. Slowly, naturally with ease, eroding their man's frame. Virtually unnoticeable in the moment but over time, making their man unidentifiable compared with the individual they fell in love with. By not committing out the gate, offers them a target of change to focus their conscious and unconscious energies on. It becomes their only mission: making me commit. It's the only way they can win the game they're playing. The fact I'll never commit, mean I can never really lose to these women. Only end my turn with them.

That idea of hers, that I'm going to change this man. Actually does more to change her behaviors than yours. She want's so desperately to become something special by being the one to change you. That thinking combined with the notion she's not only competing with me but other woman as well, keeps her doing things she normally never does for a man. She's trying to stand out from the crowd. Keeping her more submissive and less abrasive knowing you have options. By not knowing how your other girls options behave, her hamster is constantly filling in missing information from your story line with the most exaggerated events. Competition keeps the passion alive longer. Knowing you have options keeps your actions steady and smooth, authentically. It's a lot easier to act with abundance mentality, when you actually posses abundance. By dating just one woman, you're throwing this line of thought completely out the window. She knows it and so do you.

As the gatekeeper of relationships, I barred entrance. There's zero desire to submit my freedoms to a girl. You do not need to sacrifice your ability to roam, to keep a good girl at home. I have lived with a few different plates, while never having the title boyfriend and girlfriend. From the get go these woman knew my stance; no dating until I'm at least 35. Take it or leave and believe me, they definitely do leave. Leaving upset, respecting my unwavering will, with a bruised ego. Realizing, I'm really not that special. By refusing to change my ways, I'm staying true to myself. Which is a desirable trait in and of itself.