If you aren't regularly approaching new women with sexual intent on a daily basis, you've been throwing in the towel as a heterosexual male.
You know that sinking feeling in your gut when you are considering making an approach? "Approach anxiety" as it's called in the PUA community is an all too common phenomenon. Mystery theorized that this instinctive response is grounded in our evolutionary roots when humans existed as small hunter gatherer tribes instead of large agriculturalized civilizations. In a tribe of a few dozen, there may be only a handful of fertile and attractive females, so the risks of approaching are amplified, particularly for the beta males of the tribe. Not only do you risk violent retribution from an alpha male, but the social consequences of a harsh reaction are amplified: if there are only 3 or 4 hotties and you strike out with one, she will likely tell the others. With preselection working against you, this could mean a lifetime of celibacy and the end of the line for your genes as well.
We don't live in that world any more, but good luck convincing yourself not to feel approach anxiety. The only way to conquer AA is to constantly approach in spite of the fear response. Yes, you're going to look and sound like a creeper when you approach a girl in this condition, but you have to do it anyway. The same way skydivers can eventually jump from a plane without feeling nervous any more, you too can condition away your natural fear response by constantly facing your fears.
Just remember that it's "use it or lose it." If you stop approaching for a few weeks, usually due to the onset of one-itis/LTR, the fear response WILL return. You may even rationalize it as a sign of your relationship's development. But you do yourself a disservice, because if and when you find yourself single again you will be back to square one, when you should have an address book full of prospective new plates.
Picking up strange women is not unlike heavy lifting or HIIT. You can achieve great things, but you must keep it up or before you know it you'll be right back where you started.
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