Summary:

Redditor discovers TRP truths. Comes to the realization his wife of 18 years has been engaging in the AF/BB dynamic, and that he's the beta.

BP redditors shame him and hamster away his wife's behavior.

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I’ve been married to my wife for 18 years. We came into the marriage with polar opposite sexual backgrounds. I had 1 previous sexual partner who I dated for 6 years and she had around 40 sexual partners from age 18-23. I knew she had been promiscuous before we met, but had no idea how promiscuous until after we got married. Our sex has been plain vanilla for the past 18 years. Not as frequent or kinky as I thought sex would be like in a committed relationship, but I always thought this was because sex was associated with a dark time in her past, which I assumed was not a fulfilling part of her life.

He was a simple guy who didn't get much action during his twenties. Meanwhile his wife-to-be was riding the cock carousel at full steam.

He knew she had been promiscuous, but she didn't let on just how promiscuous she has (and probably still hasn't fully) until she locked him down. 40 guys, that he knows of.

Despite her promiscuity, this poor guy who bought the cow, only got boring vanilla sex for 18 years.

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Over the past few months, she has really opened up sexually and we have had some out of this world sex. I mean absolutely spectacular. We have done things she was previously uncomfortable with (cunnilingus, dirty talk, toys), and the sex has been more frequent - sometimes as often as 4-5 times per week, and filled with multiple orgasms for her and an intense level of satisfaction for me. We have connected on a new level both physically and emotionally. We finally have the type of intimate relationship I always dreamed of. So what could I possibly have to complain about?

Now I'm not sure if OP is leaving out some sort of big change that he made to his life - losing weight, building muscle etc.

But OP's wife suddenly has a change of heart and her promiscuity is back. Would be interesting to hear opinions on what may have caused this change.

What's so sad about this part is his "vanilla sex" was so vanilla, it's downright heartbreaking. Not even toys or dirty talk...

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Over the past 18 years, in my naive mind, I thought that the reason our sex was so infrequent and traditional was because my wife just wasn’t an overly erotic woman. I thought that the meaningless sex she had with men who meant nothing to her was void of the type of passion we are now experiencing. What I’ve come to realize as we have been exploring new things together is that she is rediscovering the sexual passion she had before we met. Her past sexual experiences (at least some of them) were in fact very erotic. I’m coming to grips with the fact that the type of eroticism I yearned for as an inexperienced newly wed is something she gave freely to men who didn’t deserve it, but was incapable of giving to me.

OP's BP conditioning led him to convince himself that the dull, vanilla sex he was getting from his wife was in fact top tier passionate sex.

Now he's realizing that the shitty vanilla sex he was getting was just that, shitty vanilla sex. He comes to realize that the sex she gave away freely to alphas in her youth was actually more passionate than any sex she's ever had with him.

The last line of this quote I've bolded, because credit to OP, he has stumbled across an TRP truth in raw form.

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So I have been struggling to overcome the idea that the euphoric passion we are experiencing, which I had no idea even existed or was humanly possible, is something that isn’t new to her, and that I had to wait 18 years to discover. Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful we are here now, and I fully understand (and she demonstrates to me) that what we have is next level, better than anything she has ever had because of the love that we share. This is what has helped me get through each day, but something sent me over the edge...

Poor, poor OP. He comes to this realization, only for his wife to quickly realize that the mask is slipping, so she engages full on damage control hamster mode to reel him back in. And he fell for it.

I'm sorry OP, but what you have isn't "next level". You got the last dregs.

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As we have been talking more openly about exploring our sexual fantasies, she asked me how I felt about ass play. It’s not something I have previously dared to bring up to her, given our plain vanilla sex life. In fact, on occasions when I have even grazed it, I have felt her discomfort so I thought it was something she disapproved of. The fact that she would bring it up really spiked my curiosity and desire to try it out. After talking about it a few times, we ended up going to an adult store together and got some anal beads so that we could do some exploring. As we were talking about how we would use the beads, it became clear that this is something she has done before. I’ve always viewed the ass as off-limits and felt like we were going into territory that was new for both of us. Now that I know she has done this before, I keep thinking about random dudes having anal sex with my wife and I can’t handle it.

OP finds out that chad after chad has been pounding his wife's chocolate escalator while he's been left with missionary for the past 18 years - and he just can't handle it.

The image of his perfect unicorn wife has been shattered into a million pieces by the unforgiving TRP truth bomb.

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Moral of the story: Alpha fux, Beta bux. Don't be the dutiful beta who begs for the scraps.

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Comments:

I couldn't finish this post without touching on the cesspool of blue-pill hamstering that this poor guy received in response to his post.

I'll leave some of the highlights here for your amusement

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Honestly, you are assuming that her prior experiences were full of the same kind of passion, but it’s far more likely that she’s been avoiding this kind of sex for 18 whole years because those experiences were inherently traumatic.

But now, now she’s worked through whatever issues she’s had with her past, and she’s finally accepting that she can enjoy sex with this person she loves so much without feeling the shame, guilt, self-hatred, or trauma that was holding her back.

Your jealousy about what you imagine her past is like is going to destroy this for both of you if you don’t get a handle on it. Go to therapy if you really can’t get over it.

Get back on the plantation Beta! How dare you question your wife's sexual history. Don't you know that this could mess up her beta bux meal ticket!?

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Just a few things...

Your wife is married to you, and has stayed married to you. People don't stay married to people who they don't love.

Reading what you've written makes me think that perhaps you were very uptight when you two got together, and perhaps the reason that you didn't enjoy anything wild was your reaction to it.

It's been 18 years. Eighteen. Eight teen. It's history that is long, long gone. Be filled with joy that your wife loves you and wants you to be part of her life.

Don't you see OP, it's all your fault? She loves you, no need to trouble yourself thinking about all that alpha sex she had in her past.

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You are ruining the present because you are jealous of something happened in the past. Stop it. Do not think at your newly discovered sexual activities as some kind of re-enactment of her past: it is the present and you are shaping it now. And please stop judging how someone have sex, even if he/she goes with one million partner.

You're just jealous OP. It's all you're fault. Also how dare you judge her by her n count.

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I very much doubt she was like this with any of her previous partner's

Yeah, she fucked them wild on the first night.