Hey guys!

So here’s the scoop. I’ve noticed the monkey branch pattern in most women I’ve dated in the past. One of which left me practically living on the street because while I was aware at the time of women’s behaviours, I had not had an escape plan set up which was totally my fault. I trusted my ex and got fucked over.

Now since then I have worked a lot on inner game, self confidence and the like. I had a lot of women since then and sometimes even 3 a day. I went full whore mode, became preselected and worked on my game.

I met a girl last year, we are super compatible and she’s super beautiful. She treats me like absolute gold and we’ve been dating exclusively for about 9 months. She had previously been a part of my rotation.

We want to move in together and I have a rule now that I need to date someone for at least a year before I do that. She hasn’t given me any reason to not trust her but…

The traumas of my last few relationships are creating a negative thought loop in my brain. I always just imagine moving in and having her start to play those games. I just feel like I haven’t had any experiences that ended well in terms of being in a committed relationship.

I’m aware that these obsessions are not based on the reality of the situation and it’s unfair to her to have me question her loyalty when she hasn’t done anything wrong.

My questions are

1) how can I ease these obsessions and have a more grounded outlook after these traumas?

2) is it worth it to place trust in my partners again? Should I trust women enough to have another legit relationship?

3) what are some safety measures I can take to ensure I don’t end up losing my frame when becoming more serious?

4) what would your back up plan entail in case things go south?