Am I over reacting?

Amazing_Egg · 2023-07-30T11:55:08+00:00

Dude, if she offered to show you their convo without you even asking there is nothing to worry about.

thetonybvd · 2023-07-30T10:42:07+00:00

Imo she cares for you and she is loyal, because she wanted to show you all the messages quickly to reassure you. Most of the cheaters are very aggressive and don't show or give their phones at all. Some of them lock themselves in the bathroom to delete all the messages.

The guy is probably desesperate and still want to bang your gf since the 1st date. But your girlfriend isn't interested but still want to sell some phones... because money is important.

You shouldn't be insecure like that, have some options but stay loyal bro

Woujo · 2023-07-30T07:18:13+00:00

Dude you are Hella insecure. You freaked out because she searched another guy's name on Facebook? How will you ever function in a relationship? You realize that women will hang out with other guys, work with other guys, etc. If you freak out every time a woman interacts with another guy your relationship will be hell.

You should assume she likes you and will be loyal until strong evidence shows otherwise. Otherwise your insecurity will constantly find reasons to freak out.

Who cares if the guy is attractive? You should assume you are better than him.

Also if you're gonna freak out, you should take her up on her offer and read the messages. Otherwise, you are putting her in a tough spot. You are suspicious of her but there is nothing she can do to redeem herself. Putting somebody in that predicament is something a woman would do.

never_nic · 2023-07-30T07:12:01+00:00

I wasn’t there with you but from what you’ve said, her story sounds pretty believable. I genuinely think she’s not interested in fucking him.

What I’d be more worried about is that now she knows that this other guy makes you feel jealous. That’s cracking at your frame and that’s not good. If you had backup pussy prepared, you wouldn’t have these feelings and women pick up on this.

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2023-07-30T17:45:37+00:00

Hahahah you got insecure about a guy messaging her, she wanted to show you the messages to alleviate your insecurity, you said no and still want to hold it against her? Wow.

She looked at another guy’s profile and you feel betrayed. She obviously didn’t do anything untoward cuz she’s willing to show you the messages to prove everything’s on the up and up but you declined. So you just want her to live in some little bubble where she never gets exposure to anyone else for fear of exacerbating your insecurities?

You’re being irrational

videogames_ · 2023-07-30T14:23:37+00:00

Very irrational. she was going to show you messages to prove her statement and you refused cause you overreacted. You’re the type of insecure guy that will lose the rare decent woman at this rate with these actions.

PiperBigBell · 2023-07-30T12:08:04+00:00

I don't believe men are truly protective when it comes to other men. Men are simply easily jealous and label it under the guise of being protective and territorial. They're afraid of losing out on their investment since men tend to over invest on the front end. And when men think the worst of other men, they're really speaking for the things they themselves would do but would never admit to. Every man likes to claim innocence and superiority yet somehow they understand other men. You can't really understand what you are not in a sense.

BigNoseMcGhee · 2023-07-30T17:51:07+00:00

Lmfao dude you folded like a lawn chair. You need to read some sidebar.

llowrider · 2023-07-30T08:23:16+00:00

They already went on a date before you. She said she doesnt want to see him in that light. You know him and even you dont like him.

Now they have contact, supposedly because he wants to buy a phone from her. Okidoki. Man I aint buying a phone from a girl who supposedly ditched me. Whats so special about the phone she has lol. Something is off.

I dont know who these people are commenting that you are paranoia, blaming it all on you.

Go by your guts. If it doesnt feel right. It probably aint right.

Longjumping-Search42 · 2023-07-30T08:51:10+00:00

My dude, I believe you might be overreacting. Also, don’ feel bad for checking her phone, specially if she offers. Never forget the best way to get frame is not to be an insecure fuck. Easier said than done but the less insecure I’ve become in my relationships, the happier I’ve been.

izzyinjurious · 2023-07-30T18:53:35+00:00

Time to work on them insecurities and build the dgaf attitude.

Also, pick up a second chick just in case or to help your idgaf

Critical-Guava4012 · 2023-07-30T16:24:20+00:00

From my life experiences... Your gut feelings are always right in these situations.

4ktx · 2023-07-30T16:44:03+00:00

Breaking frame over nothing, is she was talking to another guy you would never find out anyways.

ImReflexess · 2023-07-30T19:09:17+00:00

Who the fuck cares man imo it’s just insecurity. It’s never your time it’s your turn just remember that. You won’t be the first and definitely not the last to be with her just enjoy the moment.

maherrera1 · 2023-07-30T10:38:55+00:00

Always trust your gut instinct. That's social media for you. All you can do is try to be the best you as in work out and make as much money as you can. You obviously feel threatened. I would randomly check her phone when she's sleeping in a couple weeks and if she's cheating on you move on, don't hit her up, don't take her back, just do you. She chose you at one point in her life so hopefully this helps.

tropicsGold · 2023-07-30T14:45:08+00:00

If you were properly focused on your grind, getting rich, getting ripped, you would not even notice a little shit stain like this lurking in her DM’s.

If your girl is hot OF COURSE she is going to have lurkers trying to meet her. It is to be expected. You don’t blame a woman for men pursuing her, or for her feminine nature. That is weak beta energy.

The way you maintain a proper masculine confident frame is to be grinding to be so good you no longer fear the competition. You should be laughing at that poor tool, literally buying a phone from her just to get a moment of her time. Pathetic.

Now get back on your grind. All day, all night.

Fearless-Telephone49 · 2023-07-30T18:28:02+00:00

You sound paranoid as fuck dude, but I don't blame you, any guy who has enough experience with girls have fucked multiple married girls and girls with boyfriends, so that cannot be unseen, it's part of being in the game.

Heroinka · 2023-07-30T18:35:35+00:00

Was she using the phone before? Maybe he wants to recover some nudes of her, it's possible with the old phones with no encryption :P

kclanton80 · 2023-07-30T13:35:40+00:00

I don't think you are overeacting at all. Your gut feeling tells you when something is not right.

Women are liars And the truth about any situation is dictated by how they feel about it in that very moment. She went on a date with the guy previously, and she knew it was a date. He is still pursuing her and she is allowing the pursuit.

Yer she FEELS like it wasn't a date. So now supposedly it wasn't a date.... Because it makes her look better in your eyes.

A woman knows how to cut a person from their life that they want cut from their life. She looked up his page because hypergamy....." Let me test the waters and see if his life looks better than what I'm experiencing right now"

You calling him a charmer means that you are insecure because he is more attractive than you and sleeps with a lot of women. I say this not to insult you. He isn't a charmer, he is a Chad.

Let's sum this up... A guy she went on a date with messaged her to come see her. Under the guise of buying a phone. She accepted even though she fully knows that he wants to see her because he still wants to sleep with her.

They exchange secret messages on social media and she doesn't tell you until you randomly discover it.

No you are not overreacting. I'm not saying she's going to sleep with him.... But it should be a concerning behavior. Especially since she now knows you're insecure about it. You're insecurity tells her that you think he is a better option than you. Which in turn helps her to think the exact same way.

ambivalent-- · 2023-07-30T06:44:26+00:00

I believe in a certain level of privacy for both parties.

Why explain yourself to us?

He’s just a shit bird charmer

How is this relevant? How is your opinion of him in any way relevant? Facts, not opinions.

I just refused cause I don’t play that whole game

Yeah but if you DID look, rather than be stubborn, you'd have had more information on which to base a decision with.

I was gonna let it slide but now that she sucked it out of me I’m left just feeling betrayed.

I won't comment on whether you should or should not feel betrayed, but, betrayal is not an emotion to simply ignore.

Either speak to her until you get all the facts to conclude, or simply way away.

It's dangerous to be with a woman you don't feel you can trust.

Marcozy14 · 2023-07-30T18:23:22+00:00

This made you look weak. IMO, it’s over. She now sees you. It’ll last a little while longer, maybe months, maybe a year or two. But yea, don’t do what you did. Cut your losses, and learn from it.

Sea_Role7295 · 2023-07-30T20:14:01+00:00

articulate your way of writing, " the vibe " ... " i didn't bite that " .. " my energy changed " sounds like a 18 years old .. anyways, pay attention to your social media too.

Western-Bed6412 · 2023-07-30T23:57:07+00:00

Yes you are overreacting. Whenever my ex girls tried jealously I remained indifferent and dread game tf outta them for lols.

Sympraxis · 2023-07-31T02:43:58+00:00

If you have a competitor that just means one thing: the girl is worth it.

Don't talk about the competitor, it just makes you look insecure. If he is fucking her, it is not your business. Your job is to make you want to fuck you, not him. Let him be the jealous loser, not you.

Focus on being the guy that is worth it. If you do that, then it will make her feel like a slut every time she fucks him, and that's what you want. When she sees you as the guy she wants to fuck, the guy she truly respects, then you have won.

-ThePathIsTheGoal- · 2023-07-31T07:29:41+00:00

This is a very interesting scenario and both sides of the argument here in the comments have valid points.

You very well could be overreacting since she offered to show you the texts right away, however the bad gut feeling cannot be ignored, especially since the guy was interested in her, and she did indeed accept his invite to go out before.

It sounds like she wasn’t into him, but she obviously found him attractive enough at one point to accept that invite out.

Please keep us updated on what happens here.

Opening_Tell9388 · 2023-07-31T16:34:46+00:00

She is definitely fucking duke bro. Anyone she searches on Facebook is probably going to tag it.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2023-08-01T10:40:53+00:00

Jesus, stop being such a fucking weakling. You bit on the “why are you looking at this guy’s profile?” part, but then you won’t look at the messages or go through her phone like she offered to let you, you just want to be unhappy.

Insecurity is not a good look. If a girl is cheating on you, your remedies to go get other girls. I haven’t had to do this in a while, but let’s say I’m at a party with a girl who is an attention seeker. I don’t get all defensive over it, I simply go chat up the hottest girl at the party who isn’t her. Invariably, guess who shows up looking for me trying to defend her territory?

Stop trying to be a “victim” and start being a man.

TheLegendaryEddy · 2023-08-01T15:11:45+00:00

Man I remember when this sub Reddit had actual content and not these guys spergging out over the smallest things

MattyAnon · 2023-08-04T19:39:27+00:00

Am I being irrational?

You're right to be suspicious, but this might actually be fairly innocent. This time.

Title	Am I over reacting?
Author	ImpressiveAnswer8854
Upvotes	46
Comments	88
Date	July 30, 2023 6:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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