Trying to understand my girlfriend

redpillschool · 2017-06-05T14:08:09+00:00

Time to read the sidebar.

MattyAnon · 2017-06-05T13:56:38+00:00

I know she loves me

She doesn't love you in the same way as you love her - she is not capable of it.

Love does not underpin a relationship, sexual attraction does. All your thinking about love is wrong and is fundamentally designed by women to suit their own purposes.

like "look how cute he is" while grabbing my face.

You don't want to be cute, you want to be hot.

She calls other guys "babe"

This is bad. She does it for attention - theirs.

She's also quite controlling, doesn't like me being away from her and doesn't like me hanging out with friends when she's not there.

She sounds deeply emotionally needy (hence the controlling) rather than loving.

she enjoys attention a bit too much and would be willing to jump at any opportunity to be be given it.

In a relationship this is kinda scary to think about.

Being in a relationship doesn't change a woman's feelings at all, or her behaviour much.

It's a title. Doesn't change how she feels about you or anyone else. And being female she'll act according to how she feels with little to no loyalty.

Would anyone have any insight as to what personality traits go along with this and what to expect down the track from a girl like this?

Sure.

You will try and make it work, and eventually you'll hear "I love you buy I am not in love with you", as she gets bored of you and figures out she has more exciting options elsewhere.

What's making her stick around is the NEEDS your security. Sadly this is putting you in the beta security provider position rather than hot alpha position. She'll try and cement your agreement to this as part of her plan to fuck other guys in the medium term.

Ostradamus · 2017-06-05T13:44:42+00:00

You mentioned you are around the same size....Are you just small, or is she overweight? This is not meant to be derogatory, I am just curious because if the latter is true there are probably much better women out there for you and an LTR is not what is optimal. Also, how often are you fucking?

PillTheRed · 2017-06-05T16:24:51+00:00

She calls other guys babe, because she likes to flirt and get the attention that goes with it. Watch her actions not her words. Have you not even peeked at the Sidebar? This girl is plate material at best. You said you are about the same size. So, either she is fat, major red flag for both for you. Or you are not hitting the gym like you should. You are looking for an easy magic bullet here, that simply doesn't exist. If you're dating a ham beast, you're self esteem is fucked and have much bigger problems than this relationship. She is most likely cheating on you btw. If chad gives her the attention she wants on the right day, she is taking that dick, that's if, and a huge if at that, she hasn't already fucked chad because he gave her attention she craves so badly.

makethemwant · 2017-06-05T15:01:21+00:00

As redpillschool suggests, read the sidebar. This is textbook beta-provider placement. That should make you mad. Use that anger to give her less emotional access. You're letting yourself be used as an emotional validation whore and she is losing respect for you by the day. The more she can control you, the more it seems she wants you, but really, she's likely to be primarily wanting you as her Beta provider bitch.

Mangoinhand · 2017-06-06T03:22:15+00:00

Graba your face?

Dominance play right there.

The only time a woman can touch my face is when my dick is inside her.

clint_bronson · 2017-06-05T16:55:15+00:00

What exactly did she do in the "customer service industry"?

SkorchZang · 2017-06-06T03:12:12+00:00

Well that's a perfect example of how a post that started out as something adorably cute ("Love me!", "hold me!") has taken the downward spiral ride down into a totally unenviable and uncute situation for the man. In just a few sentences it unfortunately screeched down into a total trainwreck.

The problem is that your GF has the reigns of the relationshit. She knows you need her more than she needs you. A woman who feels above you for any reason, will always have troubles being aroused by you. Even if she wants to really bad to be aroused and loves you to bits, she just won't be. You're in "I don't knowwww how I feel" land from there, very frustrating place to be. She will be getting some on the side, whether you know about it or not. At the very least, she'll be cultivating armies of "babes" who are ready and willing, and exciting to have "as a naughty possibility".

She won't magically unfuck this situation up for you. So you better get thinking and get reading on TRP core theory.

cashmoney_x · 2017-06-06T13:57:09+00:00

Hey, listen to me kid: Humans, especially women, are not monogamous. She is wired to fuck multiple guys. Have fun but know it will end.

fenghsui · 2017-06-06T18:20:55+00:00

"I know she loves me"

Famous last words bro. You know how you know she loves you? When she flips out cuz another girl is texting your phone, or when she cries herself to sleep cuz you're not responding and she doesn't know where you are. Does she snuggle up to you unbidden? Pick a smudge off your clothes in public? Wear slutty outfits when you ask her to? Cook dinner, clean, and show genuine concern for your time and the shit you've gotta do? How about anal?

Now, if that's all a yes, then I'd agree, she loves you. And it will last precisely as long as she looks up to you.

kagetsuki23 · 2017-06-08T09:05:16+00:00

she is trying to weaken you, which is a form of manipulation.

one day she will ask you to marry her and your hell will start. next.

Tylerjjs · 2017-06-07T17:22:30+00:00

Your girl calling other guys babe is already crossing the line but,

I'm 100% sure that when a girl can't trust you around people when she's not there, you should not trust her when you're not there. She's probably already cheated.

shredzro · 2017-06-05T12:59:41+00:00

There was an old post you can search for that says if a woman acts like a child she is happy. I think everything is pretty much okay except she doesn't want you to hang out with friends. Maintain frame and you'll be fine. She's just being a child.

Title	Trying to understand my girlfriend
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Date	June 5, 2017 12:44 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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