Two Questions. Applying the Red Pill to my relationship of one year and Why does it have to be like this?

Pattheboss56 · 2014-06-02T04:30:58+00:00

I know it seems like women should be the go-to for emotional advice, but this is bullshit. Try venting to any girl you know about an issue and you'll either get, "wow that sucks" and no actual advice, or she will make it about HER and say "well this other thing similar (spoiler: it won't be similar at all) happened to ME and its so much worse feel bad for me"

If you want to do any kind of venting or get advice, talk to your bros. No one is gonna understand you better. It may seem weird to be emotional with a guy friend, but I mean that's the kind of stuff that boosts friendships. A woman will say, eww he's weak and emotional, but you friend will say hmm This is a new side to my friend, he is a very rational and deep person.

Woman won't do shit for you in this regard. Find a guy friend to vent to

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xwm · 2014-06-02T04:31:29+00:00

It's not about just not venting your emotions or not crying, you aren't supposed to repress your own emotions at the risk of your own internal health just because of some bitch. It's about how you do it. The difference between seeming sensitive and deep versus seeming like a whiny bitch is a very thin line that has to be approached with care. Same with venting, you could twist it to portray an aura of control and confidence. That way, you can still mostly relay your emotions with little negative impact on yourself, and based on which girl you're with, could be able to get a few bonus points.

Sufferix · 2014-06-02T03:59:12+00:00

For us to give appropriate advice on how to apply it in your relationship, we have to know the problems you are facing, or just what changes you want made in your relationship.

However, your second question makes me think you're running into the same things that I recently ran into. You want your girlfriend to be like you and she won't be. I'll elaborate if you give any related examples.

formerbptherapist · 2014-06-02T12:54:20+00:00

When my car needs repairs, I don't take it to a dentist. I take it to a mechanic.

When I need lifting advice, I talk to a trainer, not a McDonalds manager.

If you want to take your problems to your woman, be my guest. If you want to solve your problems and feel better, you're going to have to take them to people (men) who can actually help you get where you want to go. Complaining is pointless.

laere · 2014-06-02T03:34:11+00:00

I want to be able to vent to my girlfriend or cry to her once in a while. I want to be able to express my emotions but RP tells me otherwise.

As a man you're supposed to be in control of your own emotions. You're supposed to be the rock in her emotional storms, not vise versa. If you need to express emotions, express them to close male friends. If you ever put emotional baggage on her she's going to lose respect for you.

6TLaRm4g · 2014-06-02T14:41:10+00:00

If you cry when someone dies it's nothing wrong imo. It's when you cry because your boss was mean to you is bad.

rredfox · 2014-06-04T12:50:10+00:00

TRP will tell you not to express emotions. That is wrong. They don't want a man to express weakness. Weakness is unattractive, weakness is not productive. However, being emotionally honest and open with your girlfriend builds trust and makes you closer.

A lot of the stuff on TRP is good, but remember you will find men here also saying that their woman is a child, that she is their possession, that her only purpose is to please him, etc. Don't believe everything you read here and use your judgment.

TRP men want to give you advice so you can "protect" yourself from a woman's manipulation. Showing emotions isnt a bad thing when done to a woman who isnt manipulative. In a LTR you need to be able to discern if she has gained your trust. Don't be open and honest with a plate or a woman you only started dating a few months ago. But be open to a woman who has proved to you she is worthy of your trust.

SkorchZang · 2014-06-02T05:05:12+00:00

I want to be able to vent to my girlfriend or cry to her once in a while. I want to be able to express my emotions

I think we want all of that because none of us were brought up right. Realize that. We're not supposed to want any of that, as none of our ancestors (some of whom were real men) actually wanted it.

Whenever you want her to be your Mommy, that's a huge turn off for her.

spicy_fries · 2014-06-02T14:30:31+00:00

Why does it have to be like this?

Because you have penis instead of a vagina.

Accept it. Move on.

Teollisuus · 2014-06-02T05:04:24+00:00

Vent your emotions to your girlfriend if you want to stay with her. All this bullshit about bottling it up and being a big tough manly man is just pseudo-psychology to give you a good ego. When it comes down to it, you'll live a fuller life if you just let it out. She won't lose respect for you - she'll gain it. From someone who's been with my fiancee for five years, just build your own relationship based on how you feel, not on pre-defined structures of what you, as a man, should be.

juicy_truth · 2014-06-02T13:49:05+00:00

I can whole heartedly recommend you buy the Married Man's Sex Life Primer 2011 on Amazon for your kindle.

kempff · 2014-06-02T15:32:56+00:00

I want to be able to vent to my girlfriend or cry to her once in a while.

The fact you bring this up, implies it happens often. Do you see where I'm going with this?

MikeyCSGO · 2014-06-02T18:16:12+00:00

I think it goes without saying, don't show her this subreddit.

ygbs · 2014-06-02T15:58:33+00:00

You don't have to repress yourself, you have to also make male friends, you can vent and cry to them all you want (if they are your real friends), and they will give you all the support and advise you need. It's the same with women, they need to have female friends to whom they can complain about all the 'abuse' they have to endure in their daily life, and they will give her the kind of support and validation she needs. The problems start when you try to force/fill roles on your partner that don't really belong to them.

Newbosterone · 2014-06-03T01:13:11+00:00

Athol Kay Married Man Sex Life - applying TRP to LTR and marriage.

Billieliebe · 2014-06-02T17:30:42+00:00

...fuck what these guys are saying. Go ahead and cry on your girlfriends shoulder, she'll feel closer to you and there is a good chance you'll get a blow job afterwards.

Title	Two Questions. Applying the Red Pill to my relationship of one year and Why does it have to be like this?
Author	DrKing_Schultz_
Upvotes	9
Comments	74
Date	June 2, 2014 3:28 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/272z85/two_questions_applying_the_red_pill_to_my/
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