What motivates you?

Red_Invictus · 2015-01-09T17:46:33+00:00

Fuck motivation. Yes, seriously. Now, with that out of the way, the real question we should be asking, (for those who aren't there yet) is "how do I cultivate a rock solid foundation of Discipline?"

Motivation is a fickle bitch that comes and goes. If you are running on it, no matter how good of a fuel it is right now, it's going to be inconsistent, because life happens. This is why you want discipline. Discipline is much harder to cultivate, and takes a lot more time and gradual here and there efforts. But in the end, the biggest thing is, Motivation and Discipline are two entirely separate beasts.

Motivation is completely OUTSIDE of a man's control. Discipline is completely WITHIN a man's control. Discipline is what gets shit done when you really don't want to. Discipline is what makes shit get done when other shit gets in the way. Discipline is what makes you keep going, after the dopamine fueled motivational new years spell has worn off.

The only times motivation really serves to benefit you is when your motivation is that strong enough; IE deeply 100% rooted in the cause/goal you're working towards. Not all of us can have that, some of our goals are just goals we're going to have to genuinely work our asses off for. And straight up delayed gratification, hard work, and sacrifice will be paid for it. Having that kind of "magical motivation" in my experience, only helps by "numbing" some of the hard work and pain - again, if your motivation is strong enough (which is outside of your control) it can aid your efforts. On the other hand, your accomplishments with sheer Discipline will feel far more rewarding, especially pushing past when "I don't feel like it" creeps in.

To this end, I say discipline is your best friend, and it will create it's own momentum the more you use it.

tits_out_forTheBoys · 2015-01-09T15:36:54+00:00

OP, read the post I submitted called "The Process Is The Goal." I think you'd find it useful.

TrainingTheBrain · 2015-01-09T15:49:22+00:00

"Do what others won't so you can do what others can't"

I find motivation in everything. It sounds like a blanket statement, but it's true. I am writing a book, working out, searching for the right grad school program, house hunting, and part time physical training. I say this not as a braggart but to illustrate the point that we can all do much more than we think. It comes down to time management and focus.

I see my kids and think that I would never want them to sit idle when they could be living more, so I live to the max.
I see my parents and how out of shape they've gotten (not obese, but not very active) and I take it on as my challenge to get them keeping up with my kids (5 & 2)
I see myself as this ever improving dude. I can get my master's with my G I Bill so I will, I have a lot to say so I'm writing a book, and I want to be as mobile and strong as possible so I can live my life in the most effective and efficient manner.
I see my wife and she motivates me to improve myself aesthetically and I'm always reading up on getting better with sex, foreplay, understanding her fucking hamster ass mind.

My self realization moment about what I want to do with my life came when I joined the Navy. I decided then and there that I wanted to live the fuck out of every moment. I live life sort of like a dog, I'm in each moment.

I set goals, have plans, but I appreciate the moments, even the one spent typing this out as these moments are what makes up life.

It's hard to explain, but my motivation is drawn from everywhere and everything. I refuse to be confined to the expectations and I loathe the conformist attitude of the 'men' around me.

Break the mold and find comfort in the discomfort of living the life of hardship and self improvement.

Axotl · 2015-01-09T16:45:30+00:00

The only motivator in my life is the stone cold fact that there are others who are happier, more respected, have more friends and more sex. When I first unplugged, there was an intense feeling that the world isn't fair and I was hard done by. It's not so bad nowadays, but just knowing that others get what I want with ease is a powerful motivator that fuels my drive to be the best I can be in all aspects of my life.

Jehosh · 2015-01-09T18:08:09+00:00

I was that friend growing up. You all have had that friend before. You know, the nice guy that would help you move if you had some really heavy shit you needed to get in the truck. I was the guy with tons of female friends that would give you the real lowdown on what they liked, and I'd tell you if I thought you'd make a good couple. I was the one that got friend zoned for years on end, and took it because when I was much younger, I got picked on a lot and didn't have any friends. I was big, not obese but definitely overweight, and had a ton of potential if I'd only apply myself.

At the turn of the last year, I realized I'd turned into a machine. I'd go to work, come home, maybe go to church, sleep, and start all over. I had practically no social life, and I was good but not remarkable at my job. I got tired of that shit though, and at the beginning of this year I decided that I'm not gonna coast through my life anymore. I'm gonna fucking reforge myself into the guy I want to be, and it's gonna be fucking glorious. That's what gets me out of bed at 6 in the morning to go to the gym. That's what gets me to drink my coffee black. That's what gets me to read an actual god damn book. No more half measures, I'm gonna be the guy other guys aspire to be.

And it all started by swallowing the pill.

szylmek · 2015-01-09T16:48:02+00:00

I'm looking to start a career in the oil and gas industry. I know I'll have to prove myself day in and day out and work in the field with real men so I can't come into this job like a beta bitch.

I've been hitting the gym harder than ever and focusing on my diet while at the same time researching and reading as much as I can about the job.

Thanks to this sub I now find true happiness in my own successes and not in some chick.

FateBender · 2015-01-09T17:13:45+00:00

I want to finish this retarded time-wasting activity called "studying" in university, start taking courses in website managment and start learning internet marketing, having a full-time job in the process. When I have enough funds, I'll take everything I have and leave my shithole of a country, go to some big and diverse country, like USA and pursue my dreams (skydiving;wingsuit flying, traveling, pick-up, trying out new things, basically doing whatever I'm scared of and whatever puts me out of my comfort zone; growing as much as humanly possible as a person). and then I'll come back to my Country and have kids. That's my dream life journey and that's what keeps me going through metric ton of bullshit that's happening in my life right now.

abdada · 2015-01-09T16:38:33+00:00

The most motivational thing I've ever had in my life is spending time with old people and seeing how their lives are, and what they did to get there.

It's amazing what a fire gets lit under your ass when you spend time with an 83 year old who still goes sailing and plays tennis and the next weekend you hang out with a 66 year old who sits on the couch and watches TV.

TheBadGod · 2015-01-09T16:21:46+00:00

Not being beaten up by bigger, stronger, smarter guys motivates me to be bigger, stronger, and smarter every day.

I've got a kid, his mom, my woman, and my friends to think of. If I'm in the world with them, I need to know they're safe and secure with me watching over them.

[deleted] · 2015-01-09T17:24:35+00:00

I have a white board on the wall in my room. On it I have written all my goals, short term and long term, my weekly schedule, my daily tasks, and then in one corner, I have written my successes and failures in life in a T chart. My failures far outnumber my successes. And when I say failures, I mean goals I've failed to achieve. And beneath my goals, I have my idols/motivators names: Hulse, Rogan, my dad/brothers. And on the other side I have the names of people I want to be better than. Most are my friends, some enemies, and one is my most recent ex.

I look at it every morning. I think about what it is I want in life, and how badly I want to be the best I can be. I want to show all this people, and most importantly myself, that I am great.

Then I turn on my hype music playlist, eat a quick breakfast and go to the gym.

Music that hypes me up: Murda something- A$ap Ferg. Wale: Ambition, Legendary, No days off. Kanye: Black Skinhead, New Slaves. Meek Mill: Dreams and Nightmares, Chiraq, Levels.

I can give you some more but those get me going the most.

IDGAFN7 · 2015-01-09T18:02:19+00:00

I don't want to die forgotten, another useless and insignificant individual and with nothing to offer for the future generations, like the overwhelming majority of the people out there. I don't want to die a sheep, but remembered as a wolf. I know what I am capable of and I will be the best at the things I want to. Time. All I need.

vengefully_yours · 2015-01-09T21:32:36+00:00

What motivates me? In all honesty, fun. I do what I have to so I can have fun. I learn how to do things myself rather than paying someone to do it, because money is what lets me have fun. Spending money on others for shit I can do limits my fun.

I learned how to machine, rebuild, refinish, or replace everything on cars and light trucks. Then put countless hours into old cars so I can feel more than 500ftlbs of grunt shoving me forward. I learned how to produce fuel for my cars because $4 gas limited my fun and I can make vastly more power on ethanol than gasoline for a fraction of the cost, a tenth to be exact.

The added benefit is now I produce food, hot water, electrical power, and improve my soil quality from what I learned about making fuel. That means the cabin I'm building will be largely off grid, my heating and energy costs will be minimal, and my grocery bill shrinks every year.

I can make extra money by selling cars, parts, or the green energy processes and systems I have adapted to work for me. That means more fun.

Learning, doing this kind of work, and building shit is fun to me. Improving things and making them more efficient and thus cheaper to operate while making more power means I can have more fun for less money.

Learning as much as possible as enabled me to do all these things and more. I took risks that yielded a great return on my investment, saved as well as invested my resources, and now I can do things most think is impossible. It's just another day to me.

Fun is my motivation, but what is fun to me is work to others. The return on my investment is worth the effort I put in, so I make sure my effort isn't wasted by only doing the bare minimum. I strive to not only succeed but to exceed most others. I do it better, faster, smarter, more efficiently, and for less money than others can. Money isn't my motivation, it's just a tool I use to do what I want. I want to have fun. The maximum amount I can for the least amount of money.

gekkozorz · 2015-01-09T15:38:33+00:00

Life is the greatest gift that God gave us. I owe it to the big man upstairs to do as much with it as I possibly can before I take my dirt nap.

"Many people die at twenty five and aren't buried until they are seventy five." - Ben Franklin

blacwidonsfw · 2015-01-09T17:34:18+00:00

I used to have goals( college job car girls money blah blah) and was motivated by the achievement of those goals. Now that I have achieved my goals, I am motivated by momentary feelings. The feeling of the cold air on a run. The point of exhaustion in that last rep of squats. The moment when I am working and all the dots connect in my brain. The feeling of someone enjoying something you created or said. The feeling of recognizing and demolishing a shit test.

Its the little things

Dev_on · 2015-01-09T15:22:32+00:00

Staving off boredom, with a healthy side of risk aversion.

My female friend always used to shit on me for it to, saying I strived for a life that was above average.

This is the year of my retirement though, the next career should be more interesting

mypenisislarge123 · 2015-01-09T16:04:52+00:00

well i just got off a almost 4 year relationship so this is my motivation to work on myself and keep moving

Unsounds · 2015-01-09T16:17:38+00:00

What motivates me is wanting to achieve my personal image of success. Sure, it's mostly lifestyle or material based, but they're really just the tangible results of self improvement.

Regardless, I have too much (fleeting) motivation and not enough discipline to change many of my bad habits.

thereddespair · 2015-01-09T16:42:40+00:00

Finding the things that I really enjoy in life. Wanting more, to be able to enjoy them in their fullness and break walls that limit me in doing so. Accepting that time is finite, and I would rather use what I have, enjoying it.

In my case its more of an issue of me loving too many things.

I have a degree already, economics. Now I contemplate on pursuing what I really loved which is programming,maybe some artificial intelligence idk. Talking about it, I am thankful for this place as it really helped push me. Im working on trying to get into a university now and pursue it finally.

I already mentioned dancing before. Then just self improvement. Knowing how different things affect one another I believe helps in motivation. Perceiving something as having no use to you, demotivates you in doing it. But hte more you see the connections, it helps. From eating right to how that affects dancing. How one less pound is one less for your legs to push when you jump and one less your fingers have to support when you break. From how dancing affects sex, how sex affects your interactions with people. How talking to people and understanding them, leads to better understanding of how learning and problem solving concepts. To just changing the way you think and working on your state of mind, can affect all of these things. The more you see how they make your life and world a whole lot better and you get to apply them, its motivating.

Accepting what you want i think is one of the best motivations you can have.

Being around people who push you and seeing people who have achieved what you want, it helps too. Being around those who give up and allow themselves to just rot, its like rust it can kill your motivation. But sometimes though, it can also be motivating - you get to see how well you really have improved compared to these people. Its just how you approach things, coz often you can take one thing as a demotivation or turn it around and let it motivate you. I remember running into a breakdancer once, he floored me so bad I really felt embarrassed in front everybody - I can take it as "Im such a fuckin loser and I suck so bad, Ill never dance again" or "wow, I wanna be just like that one day".

Sorry no coffee yet lol. Ill be getting a lot more busy for while, just thought id leave it here - Im really glad I ran into this place, it really changed me in a good way and at the right moment. I really love myself now a whole lot better and feel so motivated than I ever have. So... thanks I guess.

R00bear · 2015-01-09T16:59:20+00:00

Although not a reason I recommend to anyone: I do it all out of spite for the ones who keep putting me down and trying to keep me there.

TheGoldenCaulk · 2015-01-09T17:16:46+00:00

I'm motivated by my past failures. The person I was was a lazy, pathetic idiot. I've spent the better part of this last year analyzing who he was and how I can fix all of my problems. Of course, I don't blame him. He couldn't have known better. But I do now, and so far I've done a lot to right the wrongs.

I'm lifting with friends, reading more, playing video games less, and just trying to be more social than I was in the past. It's tough seeing all of the success that others are having right now, but in a lot of ways they motivate me as much as my failures do.

ConcealingFate · 2015-01-09T17:21:46+00:00

Honestly, it simply is because there are parts of my life where I am not 100% happy with so I work towards improving that.

ChildOfTheLostTribes · 2015-01-09T22:10:40+00:00

Being 26, it's sex, sex, and sex. Means getting a better job via getting a better education and self-study. Exercise is a given-- I still wanna play football. And move from this city. Not city for a young, single and childfree man. It's crunch time.

GayLubeOil · 2015-01-10T05:37:29+00:00

Ok ill bite. If you are a white heterosexual male the entire progessive complex of queers blue pills and apologists want you to fail. They hate you because they aint you. Are you buff? Then people hate you. Cute girlfriend? Haters are hating? High income? People hate you because they are jelly.

Fuck the haters. Improve yourself to spite them. They want you to lose. So now you have no choice but to win.

Holden_Frame · 2015-01-10T10:15:21+00:00

It's kind of hilarious that in a forum dedicated to "sexual strategy" I'm the first person to admit my biggest motivation: New Pussy.

Now, is it good to be motivated by that? No way. But I'm not going to lie so I can somehow feel like a more noble person.

I'd love to say I don't give a shit about the prospect of fucking hot girls, but that ain't the truth.

Fortunately - the pursuit of that happens to overlap with pursuits that have a more profound purpose (making art, lifting, reading, etc)

ReadingHard · 2015-01-10T14:39:51+00:00

I don't really have motivation, it's a spiral of emotions for me. Instead I say a mantra- I found on the internet, and it really resonated with me. I close my eyes and tell myself, "I am a 80 year old man. I'm near my end of my life. I am regretting all the things I didn't do in life. That time in-present ordeal- and I didn't do it. All those moments in life, where I didn't act because I was afraid" Once I start believing this, I end with, "I wish I was younger again". Open my eyes and do it. It's my kill switch. I got my first kiss because of this, it was terrifying, but Hey. No Regrats.

DolorousRedd · 2015-01-09T20:24:01+00:00

I don't have any idea what I want to do with my life. I have no direction. I was told this was a problem, but as a man, what I do with my life does not matter. Disposability can be your greatest freedom or your greatest sorrow. You get to choose.

That's not to say I don't have goals. However, they're all related to improving my life and myself. There is no "I am going to be an x" or "I am going to spend my life doing y". I am not the same as I was yesterday nor will I be the same tomorrow. Opportunities come and priorities change.

I want to get my law degree. That's the most tangible long term goal I have at the moment, about five years. What keeps me ticking? An old friend turning 21 tonight. Continuing to explore Classical literature. Becoming stronger when I'm back in the gym on Monday. Satisfying my desires while maintaining the hard work required to do so.

conclusion_centric · 2015-01-09T20:41:17+00:00

It is imperative that I become obscenely rich and powerful so that I have the leverage to get a fucking robot into space for 'science', except it will actually do nothing except redirect the orbit of Apophis so that it annihilates this gay earth in 2029.

Besides that, if I'm stuck here then I mind as well be stuck fantastically. What I really enjoy is process, I'm happiest when making things. It excites me to imagine what I may be able to pull off, and I have to stay alive if I'm to find out what happens. We're all going to lose sentience at some point anyway, what's the rush?

Title	What motivates you?
Author	8shark8
Upvotes	37
Comments	52
Date	January 9, 2015 3:14 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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