Why people date single mothers

ransay3277 · 2016-05-21T13:00:19+00:00

OP is correct. I have a very busy schedule so I plate several single moms. I never spend any money on them as they are just a booty call. They actually think I am going to see the light and take them and there offspring into my life. Like shooting fish in a barrel. It's just too easy.

bokehnikon · 2016-05-21T12:59:00+00:00

the single motherhood trap

This point needs to be elaborated on. It is a trap because their end game is to snare a male provider for their children from another man. In other words, YOU the hapless male with a good job gets to be the unlucky cuck.

The single mom uses sex as a gateway drug, and then slowly entangles you in her life. Eventually she "forgets" the birth control or if the male is inexperienced he "falls in love" with her and imagines she is "the one" despite her obvious bagggage.

Single mothers are problematic for many reasons. Despite the media portrayals, they are not selfless heroines. Only a small minority of single moms are single because their husband/baby daddy died prematurely. Single moms are single moms because they a) divorce raped a man or b) went for the "bad boys" who pumped and dumped them.

Drogba006 · 2016-05-21T15:39:13+00:00

I actually have a friend who has been dating a single mom for about a month without sex. I keep telling him he's a retard.

He's banged 40+ women and apparently "wants to try something different". This is after he was previously with a 34 year old with 3 kids.

He's says all they do is oral and he could easily go another month "waiting for her to be ready". It makes me laugh out loud because it's obvious he's lonely as fuck.

fasthandssam · 2016-05-21T13:34:53+00:00

Most men are thirsty for sex.

Davidkpa · 2016-05-21T15:10:45+00:00

I loved mining single mothers for so long. Little dirty sluts eager to please. Hoping i'd become their Daddy Warbucks. But in the end I'd just peace out and ghost them. They were just another used and worthless pussy once I'd had my fun with them for awhile. That's the measure to take. They had a chance to make good choices, they didn't, it's not your job to help them. They give away pussy without getting married first, they get what they deserve, simple as that.

Most single mothers get impregnated by worthless humps who do nothing for the kid and thus you have a little potential handgrenade on your hands if you let the woman bring the kid into the picture. The kid is messed up from abandonment and being raised a by a single parent who is often overwhelmed emotionally and financially.

Another thing to remember, and this happened to a friend of mine who finally dumped the cunt. You can swing in like a white knight. Give them a home, raise their child as your own, and create an environment of love and well-being and they'll eventually turn mean and spiteful. Being completely ungrateful and demanding more of your money, time, and acceptance of their worthless existence. While you bust ass to pay the bills and raise their bastard.

Single moms whose husbands died in wars, from cancer, or accidents may be worthy of considering as they once demonstrated an ounce of loyalty and goodness. But the unmarried ones are only good for fuck and chuck play.

e298f622X2 · 2016-05-21T13:47:10+00:00

I disagree. I think most men are so starved for pussy that a single mother holds almost zero Penalty points. They have almost no difference in attractiveness because they have a kid.

UndergroundRP · 2016-05-21T13:00:05+00:00

I think it just underscores how slim the pickings are.

gringoloco80 · 2016-05-21T15:49:01+00:00

Always keep in mind that there's a reason these bitches are single. Insufferable cunts.

squidracer · 2016-05-21T15:54:32+00:00

After you get to be a certain age good luck finding chicks that aren't single moms.. Specially in the bible belt

I_am_finally_awake · 2016-05-21T18:17:40+00:00

I'm embarrassed for being an idiot - for not divorcing faster, for falling for crap, for everything.

In a long, bad marriage that I'm working on leaving. Met a 40-something single mom with two kids. Quickly wound up in her bed for some amazing sex. It didn't take long for her to tell her kids about me, show them my picture, and for her to tell me that she loved me and imagined a life with me. Red flags like mad. But fucking like that was amazing and I wanted more. She enjoyed it, wanted to see me as much as possible, said that I made her pussy sore from a good fucking.

But things changed over a couple months. I wasn't leaving my wife fast enough for her. She got cold and weird and backed off on sex. Told me we couldn't anymore. She insisted we be friends though. Eventually, she started telling me about her other sexual adventures, even telling me about her getting fucked really good with a giant cock. And then it changed to me not being any good, not knowing what I was doing in bed. In her language, there were only two dick sizes - small and big. She not once referred to anyone she had been with as average/middle/medium.

I tried to call her out on some of her bullshit (like why was it necessary to tell me about the big dick she had?), and she insisted that I was a problem. She broke off all communication with me (I guess it makes her feel better that she was in control, lol).

I've finally taken the red pill and understand women a lot better. It all makes so much sense now. I don't feel that women are 100% evil and like this, but I do feel that the majority of women do exhibit at least some of the behaviors described in Red Pill theory to some extent.

OneRedYear · 2016-05-21T14:29:16+00:00

Once you reach a certiain age, it's nearly all single mothers. I tell them upfront, we can have fun but I'm not looking for anything serious. Either they believe me and fuck off, they don't believe me and think they can win, or they actually take my offer. The one's who try to win usually fail hard and it ends in tears and me saying "I told you what this was upfront."

Stythe · 2016-05-21T15:46:37+00:00

Single mothers are great for a slam and scram. They put out easily, have little to no LMR and by extension ASD and they go all out with sex on the first few dates. All you need to do is understand the bigger picture and be safe.

I think the best thing about them is that given their desperate state and personal issues, they often provide some of the best proof of TRP truths you can find. Within 2 or 3 dates (if not the first) you can spot lies and inconsistencies galore and learn to spot the subleties that younger, hotter women will use far more easily and with no stakes on the table. I've never had a bad time with a single mother. In fact, I always have a great time, but that's because I know I'm bailing at the first sign of drama. I even learned how far I can push. I told one she had so many red flags she could make a theatre curtain out of them, and it was true. She was also incredibly hot (former model) and the best sex ever. 3 dates was ALL I got out if that before she started distancing herself as I wasn't committing and she knew it, but it was great fun. Her Facebook was also the reason I know what the thousand cocky stare is. Truthfully I feel bad for her, but I stopped giving my attention to the problem. s of others after my crazy ex, so it's not my problem.

Hicksters · 2016-05-21T16:14:48+00:00

I knew this one slut with two kids a 2 floors down from me. Fit little thing, she fucked us all during my two year lease there. One of us creamed her so she wants us all tested haha good luck whore

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-05-21T17:04:26+00:00

So, we talking about single unwed mothers, divorced single mothers, or widows with children? I only ask, because in my book they're all too fucked up to be worth my time.

TheGatherHunter · 2016-05-21T14:06:11+00:00

Even back when I was bluer than a smurf, I knew better than to date a single mother. Why do men have such low self respect that they'll let themselves be used like that just for some sub-par sex in return?

ex_addict_bro · 2016-05-21T17:44:41+00:00

I moved away from ex wife about a month ago.

Tried to save marriage and family a few times too much.

I never regret my decision. Better contact with kids, better home (sugar free), better life. Less craziness.

I saw her on the street with another guy today. It felt really good. Like, my god, another man is now going to handle her craziness and I'll have her off my back. This is so good. It felt relaxed.

You know you had a problem in your relationship when you see her with another dude and all you feel is peace of mind.

Is she a shitty person?

Problems in my marriage started to appear when I sobered up, dressed up and started to be man of the house. I don't blame her - she chose fat, unavailable alcoholic for a father for her children, when that man was gone, she was gone as well. This is good. I also think this is good she exercises, takes care of herself, that she met that guy (I hope he's local and not LDR) - this makes her a bit more normal. Many women who leave a relationship with an addict get fat and asexual.

So I'd rather have an attractive person as an ex-wife. I hope she gets all her shit together. But... I do not judge her. She got her share of shitty childhood. Many of her current behavior are not her fault at all. She is in denial. I was in denial about many things in my life too.

It's not easy to be sober. I expected she will follow my way. She didn't. We parted our ways after 5 years of fights.

I feel lighter now.

I left her our flat, a car, I pay quite big alimony.

And I feel way, way, way better.

I knew her for 12 years.

Anybody wants to date that woman?

I don't. Once the stallion is out of staple... I could brag about percent of body fat of my current FWB, believe me. She's single. Not "single mom". Just single.

I had a chance to date about 3 or 4 single moms, all of them were ex partners of addicts. All those girls had issues. So I have a rule. No single moms. They're fucked up in the head.

And I'm not that hungry. And, basing on my body fat and cockiness, I will never be.

Thanks, TRP. Thanks, Lord_Fucker, this is a short note, but your timing was great. You made my day.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-05-21T23:00:45+00:00

If you screen and choose carefully, single mothers can make the best candidates for long-spinning, low-maintenance plates.

This usually means working single mothers who have their shit together and are committed to their children first. They screen for guys who don't WANT to get too deeply involved, but appreciate the security and comfort of one man to be intimate with sometimes, to keep that human need fulfilled.

The strong warnings are real though. If you don't have solid frame and relationship experience and street smarts, the wrong kind of single mom will eat you up!

freddymerckx · 2016-05-21T12:33:20+00:00

A truth such than none can argue

0n10n_ · 2016-05-21T14:45:33+00:00

Be careful. Prepare yourself accordingly.

Not a problem to a RP.I am fucking one single mom i sometimes feel bad being a bad human because i don't really care about her but as you say single mother sex is the free'est of them all.Plus i tell here to find a beta(better) person but she claims she 'loves' me.

scarletspider3 · 2016-05-21T16:58:02+00:00

Yeah it's true. It's just sad and frustrating when most of the chicks I know are single mom's. Where I'm from most high value men don't even have the option of anything else besides a pump and dump because most chicks are single moms.

RickJamesBeyach · 2016-05-21T19:31:56+00:00

One reason why guys date single mothers is they represent a large share of single women in their late 20s to 30s. If you are dating women in this age group, you have to sort through a lot of single mothers and fatties before you find an attractive single woman without kids.

You definitely have to be careful when dating single mothers. Their succubus-like qualities surpass every other group of women.

Vajesticles · 2016-05-21T19:46:50+00:00

The fact that she's a single mother is already a huge fucking red flag. Unless the father died while they were still together, her status as a single mother only points to shitty/idiotic past life choices. The younger they are the more fucked in the head they probably are.

They will ruin your life if you even slightly break frame and let them. Single moms should be kept as plates and nothing more.

These kind of women are damaged goods. You don't want to settle with something less.

MattyAnon · 2016-05-21T21:15:25+00:00

Single mothers want the same thing

Single mothers are basically like women hitting the wall - their self-perceived SMV is artificially inflated because of what they want rather than what they are.

2016-05-22T09:59:59+00:00

Before you date a single mum, consider this: Unless their kid's dad died of disease, war, or accident, there's a reason the single mum is single.

Royalartist · 2016-05-21T14:43:59+00:00

There is another group of single mothers and I understand it is a growing group. My daughter married a great guy in her early twenties with an n count of 2 or maybe 3. Married for fifteen years. I worked alongside him with cars and tree felling. Two kids and a good life. Suddenly he declares that he is gay, always has been but tried to suppress it. Can't hold it in any longer and wants to have a boyfriend. Whole family stunned. My daughter is divorcing him. Talking with friends this is getting more and more common and with the wives becoming lesbian too. An aside would be that she has been inundated with interested men. She is a catch and there are more and more of them out there.

Trucks_N_Chainsaws · 2016-05-21T19:47:26+00:00

I've had three mothers. Two were below my SMV but we'd known each other for a long time and they were "active participants" to say the least. They knew what the gig was. They didn't try to cuck me.
The other one. That bitch straight up told me she wanted a stay at home dad for her kids, whom I'd never met. Yeah ok. I used her to get through a dryspell and dumped her.

vagbutters · 2016-05-22T00:32:10+00:00

Most of the time I don't find single moms as attractive as younger women. I'm much happier plating a couple of young girls every month or two than going for an easy single mom who is more prone to latching on to you for resources (though that can be avoided if you're smart enough to do so)

asktrpquestion34 · 2016-05-22T04:22:12+00:00

I'd rather be celibate if the price for sex is putting up with their children. I'd rather pay someone at that point.

hailhailhailandkill · 2016-05-24T15:57:21+00:00

Easy lay. Principle of least effort.

Considering she's no longer youthful as well.

For them? Validation and provider seeking.

getRedPill · 2016-05-21T20:35:32+00:00

I personally know 2 single moms who are the hottest and very charm (1 was like that even before being a mom, the other one I only came to know her already a mom), both I could hit if I try. Can you hit and successfully escape or would you completely avoid?

2016-05-22T08:33:13+00:00

As long as you don't marry or get them pregnant.

Single moms > Non moms.

herewegoaga1n · 2016-05-22T13:23:09+00:00

What is poor life-choices, Alex?

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-05-23T12:05:48+00:00

Don't forget that the reason that made them single mothers in the first place.

HeadingRed · 2016-05-26T21:11:43+00:00

I've only had a few fuck buddies but the best two were single moms. One had moved back in with her mother so she would come over, sex, maybe food\round 2 of sex then leave before midnight.

The other one lived on her own and I would usually go over to her place as the baby daddy rarely got his kid. Again no "dates" she might have food, we have sex, I leave.

Neither lasted very long but was nice to have in my 20's. Both were willing to get fairly kinky and one let me do video\pix (35mm when you had to develop ).

The one that lived with her mom moved on to a guy much older who wanted to get serious\get married. The one who lived on her own moved on to another guy. It was the first time I never truly cared about a relationship being over.

Scizzler · 2016-05-21T13:13:00+00:00

Isn't this obvious to 99% of the people here?

crazyyn00b · 2016-05-21T14:30:58+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Za-pSj688NQ

BigmuscleChad · 2016-09-25T21:40:06+00:00

What about a 27 year old single mom with a 2 year old kid, that divorced her husband due to the hubby cheating? Baby daddy still wanted to stay married to her but cheated on her.. she left.

Also what about the classic example where older baby daddy tells a younger woman he's in process of divorcing his wife, and the younger woman believes him, has a kid with him and etc. but then the baby daddy changes his mind about divorcing the first wife, but still wants both the first and second wife? but the second one obviously doesn't want that and leaves him

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