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[–]herewegoaga1n 144 points145 points146 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
This is the closest thing to a hug I've ever read.
Pick your bros up when they're down, people.
[–]pusangani 9 points10 points11 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Got stood up last night, waking up and reading this was perfect!
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Got stood up myself a couple weeks ago. The following week I fucked a random Korean chick off tindee. It gets better bro :)
[–]Suave_Terry 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My mom withheld all my chicken tindees cuz I didn't rack up enough GBPs. FML...
[–]aRedThought[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was at a bar one day and a girl I was fucking with at the time went and flirted with a bunch of guys in front of my face, and made out with one and gave him her number. I got mad about it too, left that night in a huff.
Did I stop? Hell no. I told myself I was enough, then my ugly scrawny ass went out the next day and fucked a 19 yo model that I met that night in the back of my car.
[–]pusangani 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeh, it's posts like these that help me get back on the horse
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Reminds me of Peter Sage's interviews on London Real:
"Our first memories of love in life are conditional and we think we arent enough and not worthy of love."
Awesome interviews I would suggest everyone watch them
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[–]SnarkyFella 11 points12 points13 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You just described me... I guess I know what I need to do.
[–]kfpswf 4 points4 points4 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm a fat ass right now. This would never fly with me.
[–]SocialJusticeWhiner 10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I have a friend who is fat, not handsome, dresses intentionally terrible, his girlfriend is a 9 (thats 20+ years younger than him) and he fucks hot bitches on the side. His game is tight as fuck and he would probably break the measurements on a dark triad test. Don't use being fat as an excuse.
[–]MuleJuiceMcQuaid 11 points12 points13 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I get what you're saying. Patrice O'Neal was massive, but his game was so tight that he still had high SMV. You don't inherently need to be ripped to get girls.
But this doesn't give anyone an excuse not to lift. If that funny mother fucker actually lifted, or did anything to stay at a healthy weight, he would still be alive today.
Lift for yourself, gentlemen. Not for women.
[–]sethninja13 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cultivate. Chicks and mass.
[+]DforDeadpool -7 points-6 points-5 points 10 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
his girlfriend is a 9 (thats 20+ years younger than him)
He's dating a 40-something year old? Is that "doing good"? Cmon
Edit: Oops, I read that as 20+ years older than him.
[–]aRedThought[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely. There's a balance between improving and knowing that you can have have success today.
[–]ChadThundercockII 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
OP, you removed the post. wtf
[–]aRedThought[S] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes I tried linking to my first post, found out it was against the rules and I didn't know. I messaged the mods.
[–]ChadThundercockII 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hope you sort it out. I went for a run and came back to find the post deleted.
[+]redditalias7 -9 points-8 points-7 points 10 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Why do you want to raise your competitions SMV?
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[+]redditalias7 -14 points-13 points-12 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
It doesn't matter. The question remains. If you sharpen up the SMV of one guy he might take one girl off the market and that reduces supply. I don't get it. It's like Coke giving Pepsi cost saving secrets. Why?
[–]TheCrimsonTablet 11 points12 points13 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What you're displaying here is what we call a "scarcity mentality"
[–]unassumingusername7 22 points23 points24 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Two reasons. The best posters here of course have abundance mentality. They could fuck a hundred different women this year if they wanted. They won't notice you poaching number 83. Additionally, pussy is a renewable resource. Just because you fuck some girl tonight doesn't mean I can't fuck her tomorrow. Every day more girls hop on the carousel.
Second, they would rather live in a world with slightly better masculine/feminine polarity. They don't like being surrounded by male losers and female cunts. They'd rather the men around them have some balls and sense and keep their women under control. They prefer the competition of men to the drama of being surrounded by boys.
They also may remember what it was like to be clueless, and have a little bit of empathy.
[–]Suave_Terry 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Spot on. Being clueless before, I'm forever indebted to all the great posts and advice on this sub.
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because men naturally want to build up the weak members of their tribe.
Your mindset seems to be thinking along the lines of scarcity. So what if a guy takes one girl off the market, there are millions more.
If anything, more men becoming RP aware is a good thing for society as a whole.
[–]tyger223 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
im going to assume that we dont all live in the same small suburban town in the desert so i think someone giving advice to people younger/less experienced/ confused/ not educated in the situation is kinda the point of this part of the internet... and to throw in a topical reference to something we should all know. we can't really "outshine the master" if we dont even know him in real life
edit: adding more
[–]RPFlame 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not wanting to share good info in hopes that your competition will never surpass you is a strategy for the weak.
What would the men in TRP who actively help people they won't ever meet become better think? Do you think that their move to extend their helping hand and share information is stupid of their behalf because I might surpass them?
How insecure, how blue.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s a valid thing to say but the point of this subreddit is to help your bros. In the unlikely event that this becomes so popular that every guy reads and improves, then all that has happened is the bar has been raised forcing us all to be better
[–]Razgriz16 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because we're good people who want to help others. Strength comes from a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity.
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[–]Kwantuum 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I guess we shouldn't talk about sexual strategy on an internet forum dedicated to sexual strategy. I like your thinking.
[–]MaxManus 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thats the whole fucking point of this subreddit.
[–]sarc0lupus 26 points27 points28 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I like the motivation here, but as TRP and the truth re-iterate, motivation is masturbation: it's discipline that wins in the end.
OP, you have good intentions, and you are correct in saying there's no need to memorise lines, and that the best game is an internalised and customised version of your congruent, original self that you enjoy.
But I do get the feeling that some people reading this will take it away as "Just be yourself" and continue believing the garbage our mothers, women and society have told us through the years.
True, you are enough: just convey to the women you want to fuck that you truly believe that. Be the best of yourself.
[–]Moon_chile 8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I read this a lot more as "Be the best version of yourself, but don't stress about it to the point of not doing anything."
[–]aRedThought[S] 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely. You are simultaneously enough but needing to go higher. Hard concept for guys to grasp.
[–]redditalias7 12 points13 points14 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's a test, and guys think they need to ace it when really they just need to not fail.
Nice line. This is pass/fail...you don't need to be head of the class.
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[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
If only Jesus had lifted in his life ... ^
[–]1dongpal 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
http://i.imgur.com/ap9sYQV.jpg
[–]1introvertp 8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was actually thinking about this just this morning. I've been in the game some time now and I still believe i have major work to do, but then I look and see girls who I've fucked/dated with just some regular dudes; pale, pot bellies, poorly groomed, etc.
I'm not judging these men, I don't know them, but you can't help but ask yourself is it worth it -- all of this we're doing.
Yesterday a girl said to me, "you seem to have me all figured out, I'm glad. I don't even have me figured out." And that stuck with me because the majority of people are just like that. What I'm trying to get at is; we've made this more complex than it should be in our efforts to better understand it and share the information with others. Thus we over think to the point were we can't act because the planets aren't perfectly aligned. Girls don't have their shit together as much as most of us in here do, a pick up can be sloppy to the point of total cringe and you can still get laid. Don't be mesmerized by their beauty they're in there heads more than you, they have jobs they hate, they're failing their business courses, they're self conscious in the mirror, they're self conscious of being on top, they stand in the club's like wall flowers waiting to get approached waiting for something to happen so they can post it the next day on social media, go up to them and say 'hi'.
[–]ApexScorpion 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree with you. Truth be told, every girl isn't attracted to a ripped dude. I think the point of the improvement process is that you can be more happy with yourself regardless of if a woman comes or goes. Improvement helps build confidence. A lot of men lack that self confidence. TRP is trying to fill that need which is fine with me.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"You are enough" is how to get past the shit test of "you have to prove yourself to me / you're not good enough for me".
Most men fail this by qualifying themselves or showing off from the get go... and women often bait them into doing it more. This gives women control and makes men unattractive.
You are enough and 2. Just have fun.
Logistics
Escalation
But that's it. Enough, fun, handle logistics (ie find out the options and plan accordingly), and escalate physically. That's more than enough right there.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I agree completely however I don't want to just be another notch on her belt. I lift to look like a god. I work on my personality to be as awe inspiring as a god. I don't want to gain entrance to her body or her mind. i want to leave such an impression on her that i will never be forgotten. I don't want to be a great man I want to be a god.
https://youtu.be/OwSpn4pmv9Q
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How exactly do you work on your personality?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You become more confident/arrogant. You own the conversation and the room but dont monopolize the conversation like an autist would. You become the most powerful presence in a gathering. You have the most interesting life experiences to talk about and pics to back it up. Im an arrogant douche but I can get away with it because I have the SMV to back it up.
[–]Moon_chile 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Post like this make me have faith in this subreddit. I tell guys all the time that I love this place, and I get weird looks. But it's for stuff like this. Posts that empower men to confident and happy don't really appear a lot of places on the internet, and this is one of them. Thanks OP.
[–]dmystery 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
This is especially true for minority ethnicity TRP guys who see their excess melanin as their biggest disadvantage; the kinda guys who when they see a cute girl have an internal dialogue of: "She would never go out with a chinese/nigerian/indian/korean guy"
That isn't a mindset of abundance and these would be the same guys who even if they were white would complain that they aren't tall/rich enough. Your race isn't the be all and end all of pick up. She won't go out with you because you're boring not because you're asian.
[–]Mach15 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No. Chinese guys, black guys are going to get lower quality girls than white full blooded men. Race is real.
Enough with the comfort. It makes me sick honestly.
[–]dmystery 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree to a certain extent but my point was about the race being an obstacle that stops them from approaching in the first place.
The majority of asian guys I know have a lot of other stuff going for them, women (generally speaking) don't want to look like a bitch and won't blow you off straight away, they will hear you out with a fake smile. Provided you got other stuff going for you, you can pique interest and close.
Whilst "race is real", it makes me sick seeing guys seeing it as the be all and end all of life. There are things you can change (money in the bank, body fat percentage, hobbies + interests) and focus on that rather than things you can't.
[–]i-wish-i-could-code0 points 10 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
They're not minorities in the grand scale. Whites are practically endangered if we're talking world population.
The reason there isn't an abundance mentality is because there ISN'T an abundance. I have never met a single non-white male who was perfectly fine with dating within his own race. Not once. Ever. When you have every single non-white male wanting to be with ONLY white women, there is no such thing as an abundance, as a white woman will practically always choose to be with a white male, and for good reason.
I get what you're saying though. Nothing should stop them from approaching. (But it better not be my girl)
Just a personal note, it makes me fucking sick seeing all these non-white men trying to get white girls. It's so incredibly pathetic how their entire world revolves around getting just enough SMV so that a white girl would just look at him. Have these men have no pride whatsoever in their own people? I understand that whites are more attractive by far, but still.
Not to mention, after traveling the world and seeing NOTHING but non-whites, I have come to appreciate the rarity and beauty of European people. Then of course I had the epiphany that white + non-white = non-white. And the very last thing I want is less white people. So I'm opposed to interracial dating in general for those two reasons.
[–]dmystery 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Hmmm, I prefer to turn the whole race hurdle issue on it's head. Asian guys go after white women because they've been rasied on western media that will obviously idolises white actresses. Asian guys want white Disney princesses because they were never exposed to the idea of their own race being "beautiful". Exotic and interesting? Yes. But beautiful? No.
White girls would be easier to game for Asian guys because of law bar that stereotypes set. The bar is set so low for Asian guys that all they need to do is be able to hold conversation for more that 5 minutes and do stuff other than play Video Games to pique interest. White women shit-test Asian guys differently than how they shit-test their own. When the majority of White dudes already go gym, drive nice cars, dress well and have good jobs but the majority of Asian guys don't, it's a lot easier to be different from the rest for Asian dudes by even doing one of those things.
Have these men have no pride whatsoever in their own people?
You gotta understand that black men don't want black women not because white chicks are hotter(they are though) but because black chicks treat black men like shit, they're entitled and aggressive and overall not very feminine. Feminism hit minorities the hardest, black America is completely fucked up by it, that's why single moms and runaway daddies are the norm.
[–]WolfofAnarchy 10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is this sub truly about being so desperate for women you base your entire behavior on them? Real TRP (some posts here) are about yourself, not giving a damn about anyone else, but this shit is like /r seduction on steroids. Acting a certain way for a woman's approval. Despicable.
[–]hyugafan 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This wasn't as constructive as could be, but it was motivating. Thanks for writing.
The difference lies in girl dynamic. I'd suggest to concentrate not on the muscle side but on overall intelligence. This will greatly improve the quality of girls around you e.g. at least you'd be better in sorting them out.
[–]3rdiguy 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks man this was a great post.
[–]PATRIOTZER0 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a real confidence booster. I've had that mentality too. Man, I need to get into shape. I'm not bad but I'm not confident in myself either. Problem is getting into shape never seems to happen. I'm an uncommitted committed mofo lol.
I know a guy who's slept with more women than anyone else I know. He's fat and he smokes but he's really forward and he just doesn't give a fuck. So much of it is just presenting women with the option. Of course if you want women to want to stick with you past a ONS you'll want to do more, but the point is that the OP is correct, you CAN get women in your current state. That shouldn't stop you from self improvement though. The better you are, the better woman you can get.
The hard fact is also that women decide if they let their pussy be fucked or not. WOMEN CONTROL WHETHER SEX HAPPENS OR NOT.
Most women will not have sex unless you get to know them first, or make some promises/tie some bonds with her. This is because 1) She doesnt want to be seen as a slut, 2) She doesnt want to get used like some trash. She wants some guarantees and fuck a guy who is actually going to support her in some way or other.
All this is really basic knowledge.
Of course there are also girls who just want to fuck. They are slut if they do it without dating you. Its a hard fact. You just have to find them, but understand that a girl who will fuck you on the first days of meeting you is probably not a very clean girl to begin with.
[–]fuk_offe 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why deleted..? Anyone havê archived post?
[–]aRedThought[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just posted it back up, got deleted for linking a thread in the original post.
[–]Polishrifle 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I deadlift four plates easy and they still don't come up and talk to me. You have to do the approaching.
[–]Mach15 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
lol, this is probably the biggest misunderstanding there is. Chicks don't like muscleheads. It is a negative in every relevant sense.
[–]Polishrifle 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm not even a muscle head. I'm a big guy, but I'm not jacked at all. I do have really large legs, but the rest of my body is proportionate.
I spent more time strength training the trying to make hypertrophy based gains.
[–]Dat_Chad 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
sounds like you need smaller plates.
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[–]Thaweed 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You are totally right, but i dont wonna bang 6s and 7s.
[–]RedEyesBlueShades 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Then you're not gonna bang all that much.
[–]Thaweed 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
id rather bang a couple of real hot ones and have some time for other stuff than a lot of mid tier girls.
[–]Lgr777 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude a 7 by definition is not that bad, is like, upper good
[–]DforDeadpool 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Now go to Youtube. Search for pickup. I'd say pick a random video but go for the balding ginger. Start watching. Now mute it, you don't need to hear that gamey beta approachbot shit. And just think, "Even if those betas get laid, that means I can get laid too, with less effort and more rewards". High SMV and status is the best form of game, but you don't need to be perfect as nobody probably will achieve perfection. Give no fucks, have fun, go for what you want.
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Isn't the balding ginger in Vegas? The slut capital where women gather to lower their standards? And I heard about him approaching 100-150 women a night to get the 3-4 clips they use. There aren't that many women even out on a Friday where I live.
Abundance mentality is great and all but when there are 30 women in the club, 10 of which are dancing with their boyfriends and another 10 are fat slobs, I'm not exactly cultivating any abundance around 30 guys hitting on 10 girls.
[–]DforDeadpool 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And I heard about him approaching 100-150 women a night to get the 3-4 clips they use.
Yeah, because it's Vegas, chicks go to Vegas to get fucked by literally anybody. Besides, I've heard that they hire prostitutes to make their crazy content, like kissing a girl right off the bat at a park during the day. Or they ask help from women they already know. Don't know if the balding ginger and his gang is pulling this shit, but it's not uncommon in the world of pickup artistry. Beta overlord Tom Torero got exposed because he hired a prostitute to kiss him in the first 30 seconds they meet. Sometimes I wonder, how can those people sleep, driving men away from the true knowledge and giving them false hopes and ideals.
Clubs suck in some cities. It's okay since there are plenty of places to meet women.
[–]throwaweight7 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Where does ambition come from?
[–]Jakei34 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even before you made this post, I tried something like this. I still think I need to raise my SMV to get whatever I want from females, but I had just recently turned a conversation with a girl at school into a sex one and literally looked her in the eyes and asked "Would you have sex with me?" (That wasn't my goal) but I was like wtf, why not. And the aenswer surprised me, which was yes. But still, that doesn't mean I shouldn't improve myself, because I'll get the same answer from HB9 ;)
[–]1PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The biggest mindfuck is when you are suddenly 'no longer enough' in the eyes of a girl. Some other guy is better and you get told you don't measure up. Then this guy hears the same shit one or two years later on.
Women have a list full of qualities they want in the guy their fucking- and they throw that list away when they start liking a guy. Then they pick that list back up when they lose attraction.
This is the mindfuck of women.
[–]DarkisKnight 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doing trumps planning, methodology or prep in just about everything. This holds true for business, learning new skills, and gaming women. You learn far more if you get out and try something than if you just sit at home preparing and planning. Before you know it that could end up being your whole life. Carpe Diem. Don't "think," "DO!"
[–]TrapDour 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These two suggestions definitely hold true in my world. I've always been a bit self conscious about my looks,but now and days I act like hot shit, and get treated as such. The ultimate realization is that nothing changed except my acceptance of myself and the resulting confidence that come with such a thing.
Remember that song with the chorus something along the lines of "girls just wanna have fun"? Well it's true as fuck. If you look like you're having fun then they want some of that fun,and in turn you. I know this because to this day, my most effective method for picking up randoms is to drawn them in on the dance floor. Once I get there attention there it's it's pretty much over. Physical escalation and conversation are a breeze.
[–]Mach15 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry, you can't have it both ways. Either women are status/attraction seeking hamsters, and only a few guys can fuck the hot ones, or they' not.
Stop acting like "everyone" can do it. No. Not everyone can do it. Only powerful men, with money, looks, big cocks, and character can.
Sometimes I feel like this forum is a fucking support group. Most of you will never fuck a hot chick.
In b4: "but I know a fat guy who fucks hot girls!".
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is bullshit. You are "enough" if you are in the top 20% in every category. If you go out attempting to get it before you are qualified, you will only endure more despair. Your post gives false hope. The only hope is to out compete 8/10 men in whatever context you are attempting to spit game in. Anything else is a pretty little lie. If I wanted those, I'd go to TwoX. Also, hugs are for women and faggots
[–]Lgr777 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People jump on their guns so quickly in this subreddit.
Instead of thinking that "This is bullshit" and completely dismiss it, why don't you think from other perspective? Your aptitude seems so close minded.
Your post gives false hope.
This posts does exactly the opposite, it tackles your confidence, people put more weight over the shoulder than they can often muster, and that only leads to failiure on the long run, sometimes people need to stop whiping their backs and both accept themselves and be happy with what they are and can become. Learn from ideas you dislike
Also, hugs are for women and faggots
You can go home with your macho man belt, beating your chest on the way.
[–]2insickness 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you go out attempting to get it before you are qualified, you will only endure more despair.
Before you're qualified? You think you are going to reach some magical level where all of a sudden hot women want you? This statement is just another form of approach anxiety, a reason to not overcome your fear of going out and actually talking with women.
[–]Areu4realm8 -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bluepill acceptance is like fat acceptance. it doesnt work irl buddy
[–]Lgr777 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So many people are missing the point today, its not about a pity fuck (whatever that means, if a woman is atracted to you and you both want to have sex, WTH), its about accepting who and what you are, which is the best way of GAINING confidence.
Also...
Step 1) Start a real lifting routine. When you have an extra 10lb muscle 1 year from now women WILL notice you.
This doesn't happen
Step 2) Learn to dress nice, learn to eat right, learn to socialize. Become an alpha in the eyes of men and then women will worship the ground you walk on.
Why do you act like and alpha to the eyes of men just to get atraction from women around you? It strikes me as really stupid. If I wanted to hold the atention or gather the interest of someone, I would just go and talk with them and let them know, hold a conversation, you know, like a normal person.
[–]leftenant_t0 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Last Friday, I went to a club for the first time because a famous DJ would be there. I did not care about picking up bitches and honestly I did not know what to do either. Because I had never experienced club scene before. I thought I would look totally weird and embarrass myself.
But as soon as beat dropped, I said "Fuck that, I am here to entertain myself, not anyone else." In fact, everybody was their own thing, not giving a shit about others. So I did my own thing too and realized I was right after random girls came and grinded their asses on my crotch.
[–]ReTToC 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same here. Went out to a club to enjoy an Anjunadeep set. Literally the only music that will get me to a club and literally was in my own world. The entire night I danced as if I was the only person in the club. I had at least 5 girls literally approach and start hitting on me. One of these girls was about a 9. I was literally mind fucked by the occurrence.
I started thinking about the whole dynamic of the entire night and I don't know if they were turned on by my energy/confidence/ my I don't give a fuck attitude or by the fact that someone could be enjoying themselves so much that they almost were angry about it and wanted to bring me down, IDK. Seems pretty logical to me considering the narcissistic, ego maniacs, attention whores most of these women are.
Interesting idea/concept to look into
[–]dicklord_airplane -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i need to tell myself this all the time because i get stuck on perfectionism. it holds you back.
for anyone else that deals with neurotic perfectionism and insecurity, what helps me snap out of it is to think about my female counterparts and how silly it seems to me. its an exercise in taking women off the pedestal: think about a pretty neurotic girl who freaks out and wants to stay home because her outfit, hair, or makeup isn't perfect; she thinks she's fat because shes not at a perfect 4% body fat; she thinks she's dumb even though she got a respectable degree and made a career with it. all of this causes her to sabotage relationships. silly, right? but i do the same neurotic, perfectionist bullshit if i don't keep a lid on it and focus on taking actions that put myself in stellar mood.
[–]Stythe -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's true, though obviously to varying degrees. Women are attracted to a strong personality. It's the quivelent of a fit body to a man. Obviously the better shape you're in, the more money you make and all that stuff sweetens the pot, but the attitude is one of the biggest things tou can have. Then just play the numbers game. You'll find something eventually.
Really, the reason to lift, work and improve is for you, not women. The women are a side effect that comes from the status and cofidence tou get from these things. They come because someone who puts their focus in these areas has self-respect and damn it, they need to break it!
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This, there is no need for philosophy guys!!
btw how do you approach most casually?
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