I've recently been exploring deeper into the psychological roots of what makes someone a beta within an interpersonal relationship. What makes them cater, often to their own detriment, for that of another. An attempt, at its root, to have control by submission instead of by dominance that always backfires and instead enslaves. I've come to realize that the reason our society has turned for the worst for millions of men has nothing to do with more than the environment that our technological progress and societal structure has created for that exact thing.
Progress.
We have become as a society codependent by the mere fact that political correctness, social media, and common corporate structures have created an environment that demands a sacrifice of true self expression for the good of the collective.
Women have always been codependent. They're very nature demands it by the history of our species. Men on the other hand never faced this sort of dynamic before. At the end of the day we are all humans and humans will learn to cope and traverse our environment by the circumstances presented to us.
The advice on this subreddit is nothing more at it's root than how to overcome codependency. Most isn't bad. A lot of it is. If you really want to be a true red pill ninja. Go to therapy for codependency. I guarantee your mind will be blown. Read all about it. Conquer it. There's scientifically proven methods that effectively will squash it. Cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy are some.
We all have it to some degree. It's the society we live in. The thing is women respond to that 'Alpha' man not because he's some stoic badass. They respond to him because there isn't a competitor for the natural quality of codependence that is within themselves at their core. That is the truth. You're literally turning them off by the fact that you're playing the role they naturally occupy. You're not exuding masculinity by that basic fact.
The advice on here about game is ok and something you won't find from a therapist. But your frame. Your Alpha desires. You'll solve it twenty times faster getting help for a very real thing called codependency. Look it up. Don't read the first few lines you read on google and disregard. Really study it. You will identify. I guarantee.
TL;DR - You want something tangible with a real direction at overcoming your beta qualities. Get help for codependency. It's a real psychological thing and you probably have it.
EDIT: To Clarify - Sacrificing ones own self in any way at the attempted control of another to stay close in your domain is symptomatic of codependency. Everything about being beta is the attempt to control a girl by placation whether through conscious intent or an unconscious pattern. Placation at it's core is trying to control the perceived potential dissatisfaction of another.
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