Has anyone looked into attachment theory when implementing FDS principles? If so, what was your style? Have you moved towards a Secure style? Have you worked on it?

I did a therapy session recently and my therapist had me take the assessment. I'm shocked to say I got Fearful Avoidant. I thought for a long time I was just Anxious-Preoccupied but now that I think about it, it makes more sense. It's like I want intimacy and approval with men and (as a young and spry PickMeisha) went WAY over the top with it, effectively having no standards or requirements as long as they wouldn't leave me. There is also an element to me, due to family trauma, that is very wounded and can be cold too and push them away. Evidently not cold enough to dump their asses when they treat me bad, even if they needed to go. I still had the PickMe in me to keep going and make excuses and keep them around for not even breadcrumbs, but dog kibbles. Dog kibbles. So I had always thought I had Anxious attachment for this very reason.

I found this to be insightful in understanding my personality. That you can be a variable of an avoidant and still be a PickMeisha. Up until then, I thought only Anxious-Preoccupied = 100% PickMeisha and I thought my occasional cold nature was me just standing up for myself or "punishing" in a way, which isn't right.