What can men do to improve their physical attractiveness and not age like moldy cheese?

virginiadancer · 2020-05-28T02:33:57+00:00

Dating over 30 here. The vast majority of men my age I find both OLD and in the wild clearly don't care about themselves: Super out of shape, serious skin problems, can't dress themselves. Its pathetic. I'm pretty open minded when it comes to looks- I have dated all colors, ethnicities, body sizes, and heights (from 5'5 to 6'5) but I will not tolerate someone who cannot take care of themselves. Here's my advice:

Get fit, learn to cook healthy. Don't stress over body type (nobody cares about six packs at my age); focus on general well being.
Find a barber who is passionate about what they do. Whether you are rocking the bearded and bald look or full set of hair, this is essential.
For the love of God, get a dermatologist if you need one. If not, ask for some samples from a fashionable friend and see what works with your skin type. Also, sunscreen.
Find a friend that will help you with your wardrobe. I have two friends that check all my outfits before I buy them. Why men don't do the same is beyond me.
Dentistry.
Habit building so that 1-5 becomes a part of your daily routine. I generally spend an hour each day on self-care and I think this is pretty low maintenance. That said, I have a super active lifestyle so no need for a gym membership. Make sure you set realistic goals for yourself and understand that it takes time.

BackgroundTheory8 · 2020-05-28T02:29:07+00:00

Go to the primary care doctor every year. Address obvious health concerns quickly.
I work in healthcare and can definitely say that men (and women) who don't take care of their health age in dog years.

_ToeCrushinJoe · 2020-05-28T02:11:00+00:00

Weight is very important. I see so many men the I might be attracted to if there weren’t so chubby. Also skincare! Use some face moisturizer!

lickyblickyuhh · 2020-05-28T01:43:39+00:00

Visit the dentist regularly, take care of your skin and invest in skincare, exercise regularly, change bad habits in your diet, do anything you need to upkeep nice grooming habits.

Go to therapy if you need it. Set up a good support system, practice self care and take care of your mental health

ErikaNaumann · 2020-05-28T07:46:09+00:00

basic higyene (shower daily, brush your teeth, wipe your ass properly)
skincare! Moisturise and use sunscreen daily
hit the gym or any sport, regularly. Both for looks and health
learn to cook basic healthy meals
don't smoke, avoid drinking, no drugs
learn what sort of clothes fit you. And don't dress like a teenager when you are a grown man.
sleep enough hours every night

Doesn't matter if you are short or bald, if you don't age like a crusty scrote, you WILL be ahead of 90% of men when you hit your 30s.

keithmorrisonsvoice · 2020-05-28T01:22:15+00:00

Get their teeth fixed/straightened/whitened, watch their weight, wear good fitting clothes and wear a nice cologne. :)

I personally don’t care about baldness, their car or if they’re 6’1 or higher. Those are things that can’t be helped. I only date guys who are well groomed and take care of themselves.

jetpatch · 2020-05-28T12:16:04+00:00

Joan Collins is was saying that Paul Newman used to hold his face in a ice water every morning. It's funny because when actresses do stuff like this they are considered weird and insecure but all the time there's actors, considered to just be naturally good looking, doing the same thing.

With the ice he wasn't really fighting aging as such but puffiness, the kind of puffiness which comes from drinking or staying out or night. When I look through my OLD it's that same puffiness which is a real killer of male looks. The skin stretches out over time and seems to be almost hanging off their faces, the old hangdog look. It ages you 10 years and makes you look like you are dying of something nasty.

So either live clean or ice yourself.

throwmefaraway85 · 2020-05-28T05:15:50+00:00

Definitely a proper skincare routine, do some research at r/skincareaddiction and build a routine based on your needs. Also, a proper hair cut and style can do a lot for your appearance. Nice clothes will help as well (business casual is usually a good look for most situations).

It's also hugely important to take care of yourself inside as well, by eating good food, exercising, and avoiding bad habits like drinking and smoking. You can always tell when someone doesn't do these things by the way they look, they give off a certain vibe.

Good luck :)

LovelyLdnGal · 2020-05-28T08:55:22+00:00

Teeth, Hygiene, Skin, Giving AF about your health (go for a walk/run, eat vegetables etc.) - those are the easiest and most influential.

eru378 · 2020-05-31T11:35:38+00:00

Get a flattering haircut and maintain it

Ask for advice from your barber about something that suits your face and lifestyle, and get haircuts regularly at the recommended time interval (depending on the style this could be anywhere between 2-8 weeks). I regularly see men with hairdos that look like a once-nice cut that's been left too long before another cut. Sloppy and childish. Not only does it look aesthetically bad, it's also a very obvious sign that a man doesn't keep a regular grooming schedule and doesn't care to keep up a nice appearance. It doesn't matter what your individual style is, don't get lazy with it. Same goes for facial hair - you must groom it regularly to keep it looking nice, whether it's a full beard, stubble, moustache, etc. People can tell if you're putting in low or no effort and it looks gross. Beards are not a no-maintenance choice.

Take good care of your teeth

Brush morning and night, floss every night. See your dentist as regularly as they recommend and get your teeth cleaned there as needed. Fork out the money for straightening and whitening if you need it and can do so. Drink and eat less food that discolours and damages the teeth like coffee, tea, soft drink, etc. Drink lots of water and rinse out your mouth after meals. Not everyone is blessed with great-shaped teeth, but a lot can be done to look after them regardless of that. Bad teeth is a big turn-off. It's pretty basic: no one wants to kiss someone with an unappealing mouth. Teeth are both an aesthetic and health investment.

Look after your weight and nutrition

Read about food, learn how to read nutritional labels, understand what's in the food you eat, be aware of exactly what you're putting in your body. Eat at the recommended daily intake amount for your activity level: a person within a natural-looking weight range is generally most attractive. Eat less processed food, eat more vegetables and fruits. Drink less or zero alcohol.

Look after your fitness and posture

Be regularly physically active in whatever way you enjoy and will stick to. Stretch and practice yoga to improve your mobility, flexibility, and joint health and to understand better how your body works and where your problem areas might be. I cringe when I see big muscley guys at the gym with horrible posture and bad mobility. Think about setting your body up for long-term health not just short-term gains. Check out Yoga with Adriene on youtube for a very nice accessible introduction to yoga, she's amazing and her sessions are very effective.

Look after your skin

Use bar soap with moisturiser and use a face wash, not normal soap, on your face. Use moisturiser on your face, especially in dry weather, and use moisturiser on your hands and chapstick as needed. Also use sunscreen and wear a hat, especially if you're a tradie or doing any kind of outside work in the sun. Drink less/no alcohol, no drugs, no smoking. I know that might sound boring but these things age a person like crazy and your skin will really suffer. Make sure you are shaving with proper tools and technique to avoid rashes, cuts, and pimples. Change your towels, pillow cases, and sheets regularly to ensure you're not drying yourself with and sleeping in a build-up of your own oils and skin cells.

Dress purposefully and in flattering styles

Take the time to really think about how you enjoy looking and how you want to present yourself to the world. Read about clothes fit guidelines and about male fashion rules and guidelines. They may seem silly to you but fashion guidelines have often highly practical purposes, and until you really understand the rules you can't successfully break them. Go into shops to just wander and browse and talk to sales assistants - they are there to help you look good. Learn which colours flatter you and which styles and cuts flatter your body. All this stuff takes time and effort but it's really worth it to present yourself well, regardless of your style. Even if your most adventurous outfit is sneakers, jeans, and tshirt, you can ensure your t-shirt is a good colour, sturdy material, seams fitting on your shoulders right, your jeans are a flattering colour, hem sitting at the right length, fitted correctly around your middle, your shoes are clean, laces done neatly, etc. A watch is a very good look for a man and can do wonders in bringing an outfit together. Do your research, avoid fashion watches and go for a proper reputable brand, look after it well - and it doesn't need to be costly, a G-Shock can look as good as an exxy Swiss watch with the right outfit. Aim to look like you put your outfit together with a purpose, not like you just dragged random crap out of your wardrobe and couldn't care less how it looks. Badly-dressed is a big turn-off. I know you didn't exactly ask for fashion advice but it's certainly a core part of physical attractiveness.

These are the physical things that I notice most often about men that they frequently seem to not even try at or get very wrong. Hope it's helpful.

ny-lady · 2020-05-28T13:14:44+00:00

You want to start somewhere with some skin care try CeraVe. Use it day and at night. They have a line for both. Our skin rejuvenates as we sleep.

Wear sunblock, so many men dont.

NecessaryCook · 2020-05-29T05:55:58+00:00

I'd say these things are the most important

exercise
healthy diet
minimal smoking and drinking
attention paid to which styles look best on you
consistent hygiene and grooming
not being overstressed, it'll show on your face
not being a fuckboy, it'll show on your face
find a hairstyle that suits you, find a clothing style that suits you. I really dislike that standard chinos/business casual shirt combo a lot of guys do. It's just so basic. Some panache is nice, don't be afraid of that. There is a fine line though, because vanity and obsession with appearance are a turn off as well.
Teeth that aren't well taken care of still look bad even if you get them whitened. Consistent care and plaque removal is more important than the blinding bleach color a lot of LVM go for but have poor gum health.
I'll also add that I don't think the bodybuilder look is what the vast majority of women are into. It teeters into the territory of a guy being vain at a level of 9000, which is a turn-off.
Women have types too. There really is someone for everyone. Some women like short men, some like tall men, some like slim men, etc.
Smiling is important. The mysterious/moody/woe is me type is frankly exhausting as hell. There are lots of those out there who get off on acting pensive and intense and not enjoying life or appearing to be happy...something to consider.
Smelling good
Skincare!! Almost forgot to mention this. The men who age the best have a simple skincare routine and always wear sunscreen. Yeah, it may feel like a girl thing, but trust, it's great for long-term anti-aging benefits. The hardest part is being consistent about it.

I don't believe there is as much of a separation between the physical and non-physical as you may think. The unkempt person is often reflecting their lack of self-worth and self-care. Someone with greater self-efficacy will have that reflected in their face, their aura, their whole demeanor. Living a fulfilling life where you're helping other people or leaving the world a better place than you found it has a ripple effect in improving not only aspects of your life, but your physical appearance as well.

don't believe me? Look up Dr. Masaru Emoto's experiment. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvShgttIq7I

What's your perspective, OP, as someone who has done the 180 change? What worked for you?

modernmedusaa · 2020-06-01T03:26:03+00:00

Wear sunscreen...don't smoke. Eat well. Have an actual skincare regime.

GET IN THE GYM. Pickmieshas are lying....no women find 'beer bellies cute' unless they're desperate. Even if they lie...they will eventually dump you becos they are tired of your flab suffocating them.

Dress smart, fitted BUT PLAIN. This is always the safest option. I don't want to see men with whacky edgy style becos they think its cool hurrr durr. It turns the mass majority of women off.

Think well groomed...plain...but not gay.

NO JEANS WITH RIPS IN them. NO TIGHT/ BAGGY JEANS. NO CAPS....get a hair transplant if you have to. Men wearing caps all the time just says insecure.

No funky fucking neckbeard shit....I'm so tired of seeing attractive 6ft4 men with huge potential who have ruined themselves with some fuzzy out of control beards, tacky tattoos and awful immature edgy style. I instantly swipe left cos they ruined their potential. It looks dirty and immature. Time to grow up at some point and stop following trends you followed in your teens. No it isn't manly and attractive to look as rough/ weird as possible.

A mans style can put me off him in 0.2 seconds...I dress well and do not want to be seen with some guy that dresses like he's an overgrown teenager. Dress like a man if you actually want to attract quality women.

wolfthewoman · 2020-06-04T16:30:51+00:00

Wear sunscreen. Have a skincare routine (moisturize, use anti aging products such as tretinoin). Groom yourself (if you expect a woman with no body hair, please be prepared to shave or wax all of yours off as well). Work out. Dye your hair once you go grey. Dress nicely.

cupcakedreamz · 2020-06-24T12:52:48+00:00

As an Esthetician nearing 15+ years I agree with the other comments...WEAR YOUR SUNSCREEN! Take care of your skin NOW before it's too late. The skin around our eyes is 7x thinner and more prone to aging as we don't have oil glands there. A good eye cream. Same goes for your neck. No joke wear this DAILY rain or shine.

With online dating and my profession I definitely notice skin in men first. But the men that look the worst for their age I can always tell they got too much sun(damage, hyperpigmentation, age spots, collagen and elastin degrading), smoked, too much alcohol, dehydrated, do not eat healthy, not enough sleep. Their eye area always looks exceptionally bad. I'm not saying this is EVERY man just the ones I notice looking older than their age and less attractive than they can.

Eat healthy and drink enough water!

Title	What can men do to improve their physical attractiveness and not age like moldy cheese?
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