I started lifting 5-6 days a week after I discovered my wife became obsessed with another guy about 5 months ago. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started making myself better both physically and emotionally. I found you guys and been reading for a while. The physical part seems to be easier than the emotional part, but I'm becoming a better version of myself everyday (which is what's important).

I feel great about my progress over the past 5 months, but I feel like I still have a long way to go. I'd like to set more aggressive goals for myself. Visualizing goals seems to help me make shit into a reality.

Based on my progress so far, what do you guys think a realistic goal would be for January 1st, 2020? Also, at what weights do you know when you truly arrived?

I don't know what my max's are because I've injured myself in the past trying to max out. So I stick to 3 sets of 8-10 reps and use that as my only indicator. Thanks in advance.

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5 month progress (Feb 2019 - July 2019)

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Deadlift (3 sets of 8 reps) Before 135 lbs -> After 275 lbs

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Bench Press (3 sets of 10 reps) Before 105 lbs => After 205 lbs

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Squats (ass to ground 3 sets of 10 reps) Before 115 lbs => After 225 lbs

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Edit: I do other compound exercises and 20 minutes running on treadmill a day (5.5 mph).

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Other Info:

Age: 46

Height: 6’0

Weight: Before 195 lbs => After 197 lbs

Body Fat: Before 25% => After 16%

Arms: Before 14.5 inches => After 16.5 inches

Legs: Before 22.5 inches => After 24 inches

Waist: Before 40 inches => After 35 inches

Calves: Before 14.5 inches => After 16.0 inches

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BTW - wife notices my progress and is getting nervous. We have sex everyday (sometimes twice a day). She initiates 50% of the time. She often comments on how hot I look and seems anxious about me continuing to improve myself. Over the past few weeks my abs have popped out. I love it.