"A Real Man does This and That..." + Financial Problems

UEMcGill · 2017-11-01T11:48:20+00:00

You've been warned. Text is for logistics.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-10-31T17:00:06+00:00

Hey mother fucker if you had put in the work you would have known text is for logistics only.

Read the sidebar and lurk for a bit before you come on with a failure right out of the gate.

Otherwise GTFO.

Westernhagen · 2017-10-31T18:09:22+00:00

Sex is non-existent, e.g. starfish sex, which may result from the fact, that we live in a very small flat (60sq), sleeping with our daughter in the same bed and having my mother-in-law sleeping in the living-room, because she stays till April.

Jesus, what a nightmare. How did that daughter even get conceived?

Does the MIL nag and hound you as well?

I am only interested in improving my career,

Yes that way after wife divorces you, and you get a better job, you can fall into exactly the same patterns of dysfunctional behavior with your next wife, and then you can come in here and complain about how wife #2 holds you in complete contempt.

Persaeus · 2017-10-31T17:23:48+00:00

so you have money troubles, and your solution is to order out rather than order your wife to bring you dinner at work . . . which she was clearly prepared to do

your text exchange was disgusting. texting is for logistics and when your advanced getting nudes.

as to your question. read NMMNG, WISNIFG again because you clearly missed the central messages. read "the 16 commandents of poon" and "The Book of Pook" and TRM (1st one)

mrpthrowa · 2017-10-31T17:21:55+00:00

Never phased by arguments or shitty behavior. I don't bitch.

wtf is this then

Too bad that you're so extremely negative and not able to understand, that firstly I am sick, secondly I haven't eaten all day and thirdly that there is a minimum order value I have to place

_degenerate_ · 2017-10-31T17:38:21+00:00

You haven't applied a single principle from the sidebar books you claim you've read.

Your recount of your actions is a perfect example of what not to do.

You are frameless, not stoic, you are triggered by shitty behavior, and you bitch.

Edit:. And the DB situation has nothing to do with living arrangements. She doesn't want to fuck you because you are not attractive to her.

mrpthrowa · 2017-10-31T18:07:31+00:00

Now to address your post... You are reading everything literally here, very typical of a rambo. you need to get acquainted with subtext and women speak.

wife messages me, if she should bring me food

Her: I have just thought about you, I want to please you with something, can I?

and I decline

You: I don't care that you want to do for me. I'm sorting myself out. I am not acknowledging your act of submission and service for me.

Wooww, and we aren't eating anything here?
You only think about yourself
A REAL man orders delivery also for his wife and for his child, even when he is not present
He calls the delivery and orders and makes it a surprise, like they do with flowers

This is her saying: How is it that I am thinking of you, but you are not thinking of the family?

She as a point. OYS extends to your children (including her).

What's in the plate there? Send me a pic

her: I screwed up a little. Please, I still want your attention. Flirt with me please.

You are going to eat that much?

Her: please flirt with me.

What You should have said: "Yes, and once I'm done I'll come gobble you too".

I wanted to eat with you, but I am still at the office. Next time I am there I'll order food. Also I'll keep your suggestion in mind.

You: I am a retard, I engage in arguments over text.

You have never ordered casserole or salad for us
Very good
I am so disappointed in you
Really condescending to us
:sadface: Emojy
:cryface: Emojy

Her: Pleaaaase I want your attention.

This is actually a good thing. She still looks up to you for attention. Keep up your behaviour and she will instead go complain to some orbiter or Chad about you.

Too bad that you're so extremely negative and not able to understand, that firstly I am sick, secondly I haven't eaten all day and thirdly that there is a minimum order value I have to place

You: I am a giant whine ass bitch.

Rian_Stone · 2017-11-01T15:31:46+00:00

Have you ever told her to go fuck herself?

SorcererKing · 2017-10-31T17:00:45+00:00

You are totally in her frame. You accept her shitty behavior, and agree that her bitchy assessment of you is accurate. Why would you do that? What do you think? No, YOU. I can almost hear her voice in your head right now.

What to read next? The preamble to the weekly "Own Your Shit" thread on MRP. YOU are the judge of YOU, and YOU need to set the standards of what a "real man" is. Hint: so long as you delegate that to her and feel guilty when you don't meet her standards, it ain't you.

creating_my_life · 2017-10-31T17:27:58+00:00

Age, height, weight, and squat please.

Progress_Set · 2017-10-31T17:56:05+00:00

I find it telling how you went strait to, "What should I read next" instead of "what should I do next."

Bucko, you can have all the knowledge in the world and it dont mean shit if it just sits in that small brain of yours gathering dust.

My suggestion, dont read anything else until you've intergrated what you've already learned into your actions. This means you 'act out these principles' before you've had a chance to think about what you want to do. Knowing is shit, action is paramount.

dandar4600 · 2017-10-31T18:55:03+00:00

Re-read no more mr nice guy. Really, the way you behave should not be happening after you read it. Then read THE BEST OF RATIONAL MALE – YEAR ONE. Finally adopt a mindset that YOU are the prize and she is lucky to have YOU.

Stop explaining your behavior. The I've been working all day, am sick etc was completely not necessary. After you sent a pic of the food you should have stopped responding to her texts. She didn't deserve your response after behaving like that.

Also you are providing. You are working, you rented another apartment and are renovating it just so her mom could stay with her. You are working your ass off and are taking steps to make more money, so stop accepting her "real man would" bullshit. Real man would not take shit from his wife. You two are adults, you are equals she isn't your mommy. But given that she's been shoveling so much shit on you that we can barely see you, maybe she is right. Maybe you aren't a real man after all.

red-sfpplus · 2017-10-31T21:46:16+00:00

The next book you should read is Dave Ramseys Total Money Makeover. Budget for everything. Stop living above your means.

Get your finances in order.

Tell your wife she can order her own fucking takeout if your still at work.

straius · 2017-11-01T01:43:52+00:00

She doesn't fuck you because through your actions, you communicate that you don't believe you're worthy.

Your texting shows that you don't believe it was ok to do what you needed to do for yourself.

You then paint yourself as the victim in your last two txts. Why would she want to fuck a man who can be victimized from her texting alone? There's nothing sexy in that.

Get it our of your head that you are stoic. You are not stoic. You have not internalized what it means to be stoic. You highlight your discomfort which puts you in a child like communication mode and then you expound on your feelings of victim-hood, another emotional puke. This is the opposite of being stoic.

You bent to every one of her emotional manipulations. You didn't have to, but you chose to. Did bending to those manipulations feel like something you should have done for yourself? If there's one lesson you should have taken away from WISNIFG, it's stopping to ask yourself what you want to do before responding or committing to something. This should be easy over txt since you can take as much time as you like, but you are still bending to your fears of upsetting her instead of doing what is right for you.

No amount of reading is going to help you take care of your needs and desires if you don't first embrace the discomfort doing so causes you. Without taking that step, you will never taste the positive reinforcement cycle of small successes.

Next time ignore the manipulations and txt tantrum and when you get home tell her she's not in control of her emotions and you won't engage in that anymore. Set a boundary and then you have to stick to it. Until you get your DEERing and engaging in fights over txt under control, you ought to follow the logistics rule strict.

InChargeMan · 2017-11-01T14:36:59+00:00

that firstly I am sick, secondly I haven't eaten all day and thirdly that there is a minimum order value I have to place

I .... I can't even ..... I can't even process how much of a faggy whiny bitch you are. Jesus fucking Christ, it's like you made it your mission to be the most unattractive male among all 3+ billion on this planet.

I am stoic. Calm. Never phased by arguments or shitty behavior. I don't bitch. I try to solve my problems by myself.

I beg to differ.

that we live in a very small flat (60sq), sleeping with our daughter in the same bed

Having read about Beta-Bux I feel a bit exploited, because she only ever is nice to me, when I spend money on her or the child. And this niceness lasts only a couple of hours. Then it's bitch mode again.

Wow, you are even a shit poor example of Beta Bux. Maybe you should be classified as Beta-Buck? Bux implies more than one.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-11-01T16:51:19+00:00

my financial issues are destroying my frame

Only because your wife continues to poke and poke and poke at this soft spot.

You have two options- make it NOT a soft spot by either fixing it or learning to not care when your wife digs at you, or go to war to force your wife to stop this version of Shit Test. If you choose the latter course, be prepared for the Battle of the Somme but why not.

"Over the top you ape, do you want to live forever."

Title	"A Real Man does This and That..." + Financial Problems
Author	throwaway8495730
Upvotes	3
Comments	42
Date	October 31, 2017 4:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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