25 / 6’1 / 88kg.

SBD - 220/135/250. All KG.

Together 6 years and 2 kids.

We had a wedding last night, at the commencement of our relationship I had made it abundantly clear that smoking is an absolute no go for me. Having family members die directly do to lung cancer from smoking.

Past few months she has been vaping again after not smoking since we got together ( pregnant ).

I told her it’s stupid to pick back up and she tells me she’s quit over the last month. I’ve told her if I found out that’s not the case this will be it for us.

So we get to her mates wedding and 30minutez in with her mother standing next to her she tells me; “ I bought a vape for tonight I’m going to smoke as I’m drinking “. I answer “ You can do as you please however, I will leave and you know very clearly that’s a complete deal breaker for me.”

This is awkward because she used her mother to try and soften me and not call her out but I said what I said and meant what I meant.

Later one a few hours and after a few drinks / speeches she proceeds to tell me she will go out and have a smoke with her friends. I asked if she remembered our conversation before and she said she’s drinking so she wants to smoke.

As I see her pick up her vape and try to hide herself having a few buffs, I proceed to walk out, she chases me and begs me to stay. I tell her she crossed my boundary I had set and that I would leave now.

Little did I know there was absolute no reception on most peoples phone out there, no Ubers or taxis come to this location. I’m stuck. I didn’t drive as I intended to drink and have a good time.

I ask her to call her dad as he was on call for picking most people up that night, we live nearby. She refuses and says you have to stay until we all leave, it’s 8pm at this point and the event finished at 11pm. I’m furious.

I pick up the house phone and she sees me do so and cokes and snatches it off me and tells her dad not to pick me up.

He obliges not wanting to cause conflict. I hadn’t organised anything as I thought I could Uber if needed or whatever.

I ask her if she would prefer me sit in the corner pissed off all night or call her dad, she said she’s not calling her dad. Fully comfortable with going to have a good time knowing how pissed off i am and that I intended to leave.

We don’t live close enough to walk otherwise I would have.

I ignore her and she ignores me until about 10pm I hitch a ride with someone else going home early.

This morning I packed up all my things and found a place to stay.

We live in her fathers rental so I can’t ask her to leave. She is 32. I’m 25.

At one point in the night I see her coming into the room where I was and getting a drink with a guy. Could be innocent but that didn’t fly with me after everything else that had happened.

Boundary enforced. Yes this is victim puke, yes I’m being a bitch, but I had a boundary and I had to honour it.

Please tell me if I went Rambo. I just really have a problem with smoking with people I care about. She knows the history.