How can I change my mindset?

SBIII · 2018-03-21T20:46:14+00:00

I wouldn't get upset about it. Stop thinking about this emotionally like a woman and be rational about it. If you use logic - like a man should - there shouldn't be an issue.

And what could be more logical than maths.

OK, so the maths are this - I have to approximate here as I don't have all the details but I'd allow a plus or minus 10 percent on the figures:

She had 10 partners. Let's say she dated each one on an average of 3.5 months each. If they fucked her on the same ratio as you do, that's an average of 3.5 times per week. Lets assume that each sex session lasted 10 minutes. During each of those ten minutes, they thrusted their cock into her an average of 40 times. And, for arguments sake, let's say that their cocks were 6" long.

OK...

10 partners x 14 weeks each x 3.5 sex sessions per week x 10 minutes x 40 thrusts per minute x 6" of cock = 1,176,000.

When you look at it like that, it looks bad - that's over 1 million inches of cock. But if you convert it to miles, it's 18.561 miles.

So, she had less than 20 miles of other men's cock inside her before you got there.

See, nothing to get distressed about when you logic it out.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-03-24T11:16:11+00:00

There are no strange baby's in her belly and I'm assuming she is not fucking some dude on the side.

The only reason you could be bothered by your wifes sexual experience is if you insecure that one of the men before you fucked her better than you. Your dealing with your OWN insecurities.

Become a high value man and learn to fuck better. There will always be someone better looking, richer, has a bigger cock, etc. Stop comparing yourself to them and start comparing yourself to who you were yesterday. I read that somewhere.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-03-21T19:26:34+00:00

on my RP journey the past month

Slow your roll bro. I see rumbling in your post history about a gym, but have you touched iron yet?

I encouraged my wife to share more of her sexual experiences with me and to make a long story short; I am uncomfortable with what I heard.

Does no one vet their wife anymore? These are the questions you ask before you put a ring on it, not after.

It bothers me that my wife has had more partners than me and I want to not give a fuck.

That's a tough place to be in. I'd at least take some solace that nothing she did before is off the table now, but at your point in your red-pill journey, if you haven't already, you had best not ask that question.

You seem a half step from going full rambo here. I certainly would be. Take a step back, take a deep breath, and focus on your steps forward.

You need to lift and get yourself in great shape. Read "The Meditations" and focus on what is under your control. Your wife's history isn't under your control. Triage yourself, set yourself up with a MAP, and work it hard.

See you in OYS thread.

JoATMoN9 · 2018-03-21T21:32:46+00:00

What's the saying? Grant me the strength to deal with the things I can change, the serenity to accept the things I cant, and the wisdom to know the difference.

And I'm not even religious.

2ndal · 2018-03-21T19:25:36+00:00

RedPillCoach · 2018-03-21T20:14:52+00:00

First clear out all the firearms, knives, and sharp breakables from your home.

Second, read Saving the Best.

Third, don't let the Red Pill rage screw you up. I think it should be a rule that there should be no major life decisions while you are in the anger stage- including divorce, "cheat" etc.

Fourth, the fact she shared her sexual history with you usually means that she feels you are "Alpha" so congratulations.

Are you?

Trtntrenbrah · 2018-03-21T20:17:29+00:00

It bothers me that my wife has had more partners than me and I want to not give a fuck.

No one gives a shit but you, your wife certainly doesn’t.

There is no one keeping score here.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-03-21T20:22:55+00:00

You didn't know about her sexual history before you married her?

Dude, forget her past. You're married, kids? Is she a good wife and mother?

Sexual history isn’t the issue you should be looking at. The right questions are whether or not she’s fucking you on the regular, whether or not she treats you with respect and deference, and whether or not she stands by your side and supports you as you lead your family forward.

The fact that she fucked other guys/had 3-somes/sucked 2 guys off at the same time/ or fucked Chad on spring break in the foam party previously, doesn’t really matter if she’s a decent mother to your kids and treats you well today, both personally and sexually.

Your problem is much simpler: You have oneitis for your wife.

By marrying her, you gave her all of yourself, while you are only getting what was left of her after she had given herself to others.

You placed the idea of your wife on a pedestal. You failed to realize that even before she met you, and even before she’d ever had sex, your wife, the princess, was still just a woman. She wasn’t any more special, unique, or perfect than she is today. She was just another woman. Easily replaceable, and just as likely as any other woman to lie, cheat, leave, make shitty decisions, and so on, responsive to the right stimulus (the right stimulus most often including loser behavior from her jerk boyfriends).

Lift, Improve, Play the lead role in your own life, Best the best version of yourself possible. Do not act butthurt over this, it will only dry up that pussy.

ArticulateSavage · 2018-03-21T21:11:11+00:00

I encouraged my wife to share more of her sexual experiences with me and to make a long story short; I am uncomfortable with what I heard. It bothers me that my wife has had more partners than me and I want to not give a fuck.

What. the.fuck?

Dude, this is r/askmrp, you're looking for r/hotwives. Good luck.

You do realize that man's preference for virginal brides is an evolutionarily adapted mechanism to assure paternity. Don't you? That's why your wife's sexual past disgusts you. Your inadequacies are your own. Don't put that shit on her.

You have a lot of reading to do. Start with the Rational Male.

InChargeMan · 2018-03-22T02:25:44+00:00

Anyone have the link to the guy who found his prude wife in a porn video? OP should chew on that for a while.

Title	How can I change my mindset?
Author	yesbuthereswhy
Upvotes	6
Comments	46
Date	March 21, 2018 7:16 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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