How do you punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt?

fix-the-man · 2022-08-07T13:36:43+00:00

How do I not seem butthurt when really I'm very butthurt?

Step_Aside_Butch · 2022-08-07T16:29:48+00:00

You might want to rethink your plan to try to LTR a 24 y/o party girl.

resolutions316 · 2022-08-07T13:51:19+00:00

You don’t “punish” bad behavior.

You simply live your cool, interesting life. I don’t know, maybe do something fun? Fuck someone else? Read the great works of English literature?

Boundaries are for YOU, not her. Boundaries dictate YOUR behavior, not hers.

You’re butthurt because you’re boring and you depend on a 24 year old woman for all your happy feelings. Fix that.

osirise · 2022-08-07T14:00:17+00:00

Don't be so available to her. She owns your time and knows that if she cancels you'll be ready to hang out with her at a moments notice.

Make plans to do cool shit on your own. Meet more women. She has to fight for your time.

BobbyPeru · 2022-08-07T19:42:03+00:00

Step 1: don’t be butthurt

Why would you want to get in an LTR at your age… better yet, at her age.

Get to work on the sidebar, lift, stfu

mabden · 2022-08-07T13:51:13+00:00

Soft next for a few days. Be busy.. Then reset.

agsuy · 2022-08-07T15:41:23+00:00

Wrong mindset.

You shouldn't be butthurt. You shouldn't give a fuck.

If u do it's your fucking issue and you need to read the sidebar and work on yourself.

bussiinesstravel · 2022-08-07T19:24:37+00:00

Hey (23M) with a (24F) who was showing super high interest. She text me everyday and cooks for me. She is a great person and I plan on getting into a LTR with her until recently.

This is more of a TRP issue; rather, than an MRP one...

At your age, I doubt this is an "LTR", if anything, some girl you are dating. Anyway, there is no such thing as "punishing" your woman. You come off as weak & butthurt. How much of the sidebar have you gone through?

BostonBrakeJob · 2022-08-08T15:38:22+00:00

Have a 4some with her SIL, mom, and MIL.

Custard_Pie_NR5 · 2022-08-07T17:50:22+00:00

If you are butthurt then be in a position of not being butthurt. Go do something else. Make plans for yourself. She needs to know that she will “miss out” on you for flaking. That means you actually have to be an interesting man with options. I could do absolutely nothing and be happy. Not having plans make me happy. I’m doing stuff all the time. It’s nice to get a break from everyone sometimes. A girl texts me drunk to come out, I like the message and not bother. Why? Because I don’t chase booty. The booty can arrive drunk to my door step and fall on my dick. I learned it the hard way from years of chasing. Now that IDGAF, women keep throwing themselves at me. Why? I don’t know, and I don’t care. The universe provides to those who aren’t thirsty, I guess

DeplorableRay · 2022-08-07T17:47:36+00:00

You become so valuable that your time and attention actually mean something.

alejandrosalamandro · 2022-08-08T11:23:07+00:00

There is nothing about her that should warrant you being sad.

You are young. Move on with other options immediately and don’t think about her.

Get with other women.

Your age make you prone to oneitis.

Make yourself valuable, chase excellence and so forth and realize she is replaceable.

Remington-Holmes · 2022-08-08T13:23:00+00:00

You're young, so get your shit together before opening yourself to the possibility of a LTR. You’ll be less pissed off if you invest your time in yourself and prioritise yourself and build your options. Put yourself into a position of strength, having options, rather than weakness where you're trying to manipulate others to meet your needs. Girls would typically prefer to work to keep the interest of a guy that's in demand, rather than have the attention handed to them by a guy that other girls don't want.

sicrm · 2022-08-08T23:21:46+00:00

She told me prior to the weekend that her sister in law was coming down to hang out. Then said she wasn’t so I planned something for Saturday. It was a all day thing and I had 3 reservations. Later that Friday she said her SIL was now coming and she couldn’t hang Saturday but she will be gone by Sunday so we can hang out Sunday.

“I made other plans”.

the end.

there’s no way you should allow anyone to jerk you around like she did afterwards. you avoid that by not accepting her conciliation offer.

capn_barnacles · 2022-08-10T22:07:10+00:00

Not being into you isn't bad behavior.

czj10 · 2022-08-16T09:17:31+00:00

Give her the cold shoulder for a week. Meanwhile, go out and meet some women. (Even better if you post it on social media, hinting but not explicitly showing that you're around women) Whether or not you end up banging them, she'll notice. If she doesn't, she's not that into you.

Title	How do you punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt?
Author	Middle_Path_4710
Upvotes	19
Comments	33
Date	August 7, 2022 1:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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