Have made considerable gains - though mostly in realizing my problems. My wife has walked all over me for a couple of years. I started with getting into great shape, best since being a wrestler in highschool - getting my wardrobe together, wearing nice cologne, having a sharp haircut, trying to participate in more social outings etc... The whole shebang. I feel like I have gone miles in work earning respect and accolades - largely due to the efforts to fix myself. I have stopped doing things that are wasteful of time and have increased my assets and cash flows.

Still, my wife is constantly disrespectful. She is just nasty on and off, like a very standard example of a bitchy wife. She is occasionally sweet and kind, but as soon as there are minor irritations she is nutso. Standard stuff - problem is now she is pregnant in her first trimester, so my hard stances and boundaries that were making gains are met with even wilder tantrums and fits, and my instinct is that the most important thing is to calm her down for the sake of the baby. This means calmly enduring her shitfits, and not really putting her in her place. I will not leave her while she is pregnant, so even making an ultimatum in my mind is useless. My cock has essentially put me in checkmate.

Am I screwed? Naturally, my course is to maintain improving physicality, keeping it rock solid at work, keeping working on social leadership and simply waiting out this pregnancy.