How to regain frame?

SBIII · 2019-04-25T09:33:54+00:00

I've read your post history. It's pathetic.

You lack leadership. You don't control the finances.

You lack leadership. That's why your wife stays at home and doesn't cook or clean while you go to work.

You lack ownership. That's why your house is a fucking pigsty.

You lack self control and discipline. That's why you are a fat cunt.

You lack leadership and self control. That's why your wife is also a fat cunt.

You are shit in bed. That's because you're a fat, lazy cunt.

You want to cuck your wife out to other men. That's because you are shit in bed and are a fat and lazy cunt.

Your wife has locks on her phone and PC. That's because she's hiding something.

Your wife is getting her feelz and tingles elsewhere. That's why she has locks on her phone and PC.

You don't know how to provide your wife with feelz and tingles. That's why your wife is getting her feelz and tingles elsewhere.

Your wife wants to be fucked by other men. That's because you don't know how to fuck her properly.

Your wife wants to be fucked by other men. That's because she doesn't want to fuck you.

Your wife doesn't want to fuck you. That's because you are unnatractive.

You are unnatractive. That's because you are a fat, lazy cunt who lacks leadership, ownership, self control and self discipline.

And how do you deal with all of this? Do you face up to the reality that this is all your own doing? Do you come up with a plan to get yourself out of the shithole of a life you've made for yourself? Do you fuck.. you decide to mask it all by smoking weed and fantasising about cucking your fat, lazy cunt of a wife out to other men to do shit to her that you can't be arsed to do.

Congratulations, you are a complete fucking loser.

Sidebar, lift, STFU and don't come back until you've posted in OYS.

Oh, and as for your question about regaining frame? You can only regain frame if you had it in the first place. You never had it. You don't even know what frame is.

egc6 · 2019-04-25T02:25:59+00:00

Don't be a bitch? You are going to think I'm kidding or being curt. I'm not. It's advice sort of like "Be Fun". It is different from person to person, but essentially... Stop being a bitch.

Like HB said, your post seems rushed. You mind is most likely all over the place. Chances are you are all in your feels and quickly posting to askMRP because you can't calm yourself down long enough to figure it out yourself. Classic bitch behavior, looking for others to change the way you feel. So, you know. Stop being a bitch.

Breaks in frame often come from not being secure in your decisions and having too much invested in someone's opinion. You made money and your floundering decision on what to do about it. Stop being a bitch.

Speaking of money. Men have their houses in order, finances included. You do not and are getting frustrated about it. My guess is that you got whiny about money and then blew up about something unrelated because you are scared to have that conversation/set limits. Stop being a bitch.

So I'm wondering how you guys suggest going about regaining your frame once/if you lose your shit at a crucial moment?

Now to answer your actual question. Acknowledge your mistake (TO YOURSELF ONLY) and hit that fucking reset button. Continue on as if nothing happened. Learn from it. What are you going to learn from this fuck up? Maybe that you are sensitive and not in control of your emotions. Specifically work on keeping control. Lay off the booze and any other drugs if you are finding it difficult to not be a bitchy drunk captain if you have issues with those too.

[deleted] · 2019-04-25T02:18:33+00:00

Have you tried counseling? I heard it does wonders for money problems. You just need to communicate your feelings with her. Faggot. Lift and read. Delete this before SBIII gets here.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-04-25T09:51:21+00:00

Same issue here yeah... it's because your a bitch. There is some good feedback in my oys from sbill about taking back control of the finances. Get on it.

Tip: Don't be a drunk Somali pirate storming the bridge making demands. You need your shit together. Play the long game but consistent action work.

hack3ge · 2019-04-25T14:00:31+00:00

I didn’t read your shitty faggot post because the title tells me everything I need to know.

You have no frame and you are a little bitch.

You need to lift, STFU and sidebar and maybe someday you will actually have frame.

red-sfpplus · 2019-04-25T14:13:33+00:00

If you have separate “money” account (fuck you for being a Brit anyway) then WTF do you care what she spends her money on anyway?

As long as she is putting up her 50% for shared bills - fuck off.

hystericalbonding · 2019-04-25T01:17:52+00:00

Are you drunk or high? Stop that, and it will be easier to regain your composure. It will also be easier to write a coherent post.

Read No More Mr Nice Guy, and When I Say No I Feel Guilty .

GoodWillFunky · 2019-04-25T17:38:22+00:00

Become your own mental point of origin. That’s where frame starts. Have your own life purpose and a mission. And what I’m going to tell you is going to sound harsh and selfish:

Stop giving a fuck about everything outside your own head, including your wife. Stoicism is about this, not letting the external affect your internal.

Start being humble and STFU. Kill that ego and STFU. Sidebar and STFU. Stop taking things personal because every time you’re called on your bullshit by the anons here is a poke on your ego and every time you jolt and get offended and throw shit like Gaylord, etc. That’s how you throw your frame out the window.

Do you realize what happens when your wife bitches at you and then you react and bitch back? Well her pussy dries like the Sahara because her man just lost his frame and got inside of hers.

Stop giving so many fucks for irrelevant shit and put the focus on yourself and your own growth as a person. That’s the only way to build a frame

Sidebar—————->

Faglord

screechhater · 2019-04-26T00:14:44+00:00

Long story short Get your shit together.

Start by lifting 3x week.

Read the sidebar.

Define a mission. Stick to it.

What do you want ?

Frame. Own the actions and vow not to skip again.

Learn AM/AA.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-04-26T00:51:11+00:00

You can't regain something you never had.

ReddJive · 2019-04-26T12:54:04+00:00

Maybe a year ago I decided to stop fucking around with my lifting and get a coach/trainer. In short time my lifts almost doubled. I wasn't a slouch when I started. I was pulling 400 pounds but now I am closing in on 800.

thing of it is you can be fucking strong, you can have the diet and supplements on point, but if your form, your attitude, and even emotional outlook are wrong? You aren't going to do shit. It all has to be working. It all has to be on point.

Deadlift and squats are as much an exercise in emotional control and frame as it is physical strength. You just can't walk up to the bar and pull that shit. Many times I have walked up for a warm up set. Bent down. Set myself, and nope. Not right. Then I walked away. we are talking some light weight here. You can wreck yourself on the light weights just as easily as the heavy ones.

I didn't cry. I didn't bitch, moan, throw a temper tantrum. Just walked. got my shit right and went back.

Frame is a lot like that. everything has to be right. you have to be right. Even still you can cock it all up. So what? If you do make is spectacular and make it look intentional.

The wife and I have different money accounts. She spends on shit I don't agree about

and? You don't think she is doing this on purpose? She knows it bugs you so she keeps doing it. Women are like children. Bottomline. This is a classic little girl spending her money because she wants to and knows it pisses off Dad.

You were told early on in the TRP journey to have a mission. Do you? if you do head that way. Leave her where she is. She will notice and when she does you can set her down and tell where this train is moving. She's on board or she isn't. really. It is that simple. All you new guys think is this about some deep level psychological manipulation. It isn't. It's simply you as a man saying, fuck this. I am moving this way. Come with me or not.

You may want your wife with you. Fair enough. She may keep up, she may not want to jump on board but your path does not end. Someone else will come along and want to be on that train.

SeamusAwl · 2019-04-26T19:51:43+00:00

Wow. Wasted my life reading this, your comments, and browsed your history.

You owe me and every man who read through the clusterfuck reddit posts of your life. You need to unfuck yourself first. Then decide if your wife brings value and if you should keep her. Right now, she isnt bringing any valie because you are a complete worthless cuck. Why should she bring value when she is only following your drunk lead. If your wife is being a fucking cunt, its because she is pissed at the bait and switch you pulled on her. She wasted all of her good years in a relationship with the worse version of a man imaginable.

I feel for your wife. Now do what I did 2.5 years ago (because my marriage was 10 times worse then yours) and unfuck yourself.

BostonBrakeJob · 2019-04-29T22:15:11+00:00

News flash, Rain Man....every fucking one of us here is human too. It may seem like it's all blowjobs and anal, but my money's on every last one of us losing our shit in some form or another, at some time or another.

So, how do you suppose we all "regain frame"? Accept the fact that "making mistakes" (read: bad decisions) is part of life. Nobody's perfect. Take your lessons, leave the rest, and move the fuck on.

Dialerstring · 2019-04-25T02:00:08+00:00

Other than the finances how is the relationship?

Southboundcrash · 2019-04-25T01:07:14+00:00

Can you bench, squat and deadlift over 1000lb together? If not delete your post.

johncillo · 2019-04-25T13:13:17+00:00

Please post to r/askmrp, you will have more chance with your marriage there, since the whole theme is to regain frame with your spouse.

Title	How to regain frame?
Author	wtf_ever_man
Upvotes	7
Comments	39
Date	April 25, 2019 12:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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