Long time lurker. Shit has hit the fan. Been married for 3 years together for 7. We have a 2 year old girl and I have full custody of a 12 year old boy.

This is our 3 year anniversary weekend. I upgraded her wedding band, flowers and a card. She got me a card. Previously, Father’s day, a ) pack of non alcoholic beer and a card. Previously, my birthday, which is on Christmas, nothing. So I had resentment from that date and seeing that the efforts have not been reciprocated. I was discontent with the level of effort and it turned into a huge fight.

I am currently on house arrest. 2 weeks left of 6 months for a traffic accident. It’s complicated. I took the time to stop drinking, read and lift. I’ve improved a lot and it allows me to see all my wife’s selfish behavior and inability to give affection. Where I struggle is STFU. I have read NMMG, TWOTSM and similarly the Chris Candwell books.

Wife did not want to talk today. Wakes up this morning and tells me it’s over and she let her mom know. Tells me she’s taking the baby all day. I know I have patterns from my ex cheating that I sometimes want to blame my wife’s shitty behavior on a possible chad. I walk into the room and she comes back for her phone. I said oh you have something to hide to go tell your mother, stupid. She gets up in my face like she’s going to hit me with the phone. She proceeds to call her mom and tell her I called her mom stupid.

Her mom is telling her to call the police. I have saved pictures of my wife striking me in case she did. I told her mom go ahead your daughter is the one trying to attack me. Her mom calls me a liar and validates her daughters behavior.

I’ve been divorced. Hate to do it again. I see very little life left in this relationship. I have a house, 2 felonies, and full custody of my older kid. I need to proceed cautiously. Please advise. Is there hope for my marriage? What do I do with my MIL down the road?