Man-Child looking for ways to stop taking shit tests from wife so personally

vitrael2 · 2024-02-03T23:00:36+00:00

STFU

The_Red_Letters · 2024-02-03T23:24:25+00:00

This is much deeper than just “don’t be butthurt and unattractive to my wife.” That’s just you trying to game the system without addressing your issues. You can probably pull it off for a while, but you’ll always be a sad baby dressed up as a pickup artist.

Think about it. The reason your wife not being receptive to your touch burns you so bad is because all of your feelings about yourself are tied up in her opinion of you. “If she doesn’t want me, I must be bad.”

Changing how you act after that won’t do shit besides possibly fool her for a while. Although, think whatever you want about women, one thing is for certain: they are perceptive as hell. She’ll see through that shit. The conditions of evolution were such that a woman’s ability to see through a weak man’s bullshit were life and death.

So take a serious hard look at yourself. Why are you so dependant on your wife’s approval. Nine times out of ten it’s because you haven’t done shit to cultivate your own approval. This is the building blocks of your frame.

Imagine yourself in a state where your shit is truly handled. You’re in shape, your finances are squared away, you’re on your purpose, you know exactly where you’re going in life. Imagine yourself as that man, approaching your wife and she pulls away. You’d have no choice but to think, “damn, something must be up with her, to not want my attention.” And you’d walk away with a smile, or tease her. That’s natural outcome independence. That’s natural agree and amplify. Not some dancing monkey doing a show.

So for now, ignore the task of fooling your wife. You’ve got work to do and it has little to do with her reaction. Keep reading, actually own your shit, lift and start becoming an actual man.

razenha · 2024-02-04T02:28:17+00:00

That wasn't a shit test. Your wife just doesn't like you anymore. She dislikes you so much that your touch makes her physically recoil. That is something that happens organically, and one can't think about it or fake.

A husband coming behind her lady, hugging her, kissing her neck, while she is doing the dishes is such a marriage cliché. If your wife objected that you did that, you have big problems in your marriage.

wkndatbernardus · 2024-02-04T14:17:33+00:00

If you can't fool yourself into thinking you're legit, neither will you fool your wife.

Kevlar__Soul · 2024-02-04T00:33:39+00:00

Realized it’s yours unattractive behavior that causing her to shit test you. Why get mad at her for acting according to her nature and her filling the frame you provided.

Like a women getting butt hurt you don’t initiate sex after she’s gain 150lb. Naturally you’re not going to want to fuck a land whale.

As for what to focus on first. Master the basics STFU and lift. While you’re STFU start identifying shit test and working on passing or at least not failing. Then covert contract (NMMNG) and avoiding neediness and validation seeking behaviors.

nikfury69 · 2024-02-05T12:54:00+00:00

Perhaps a bit of cheese with the whine?

The best advice given was Shut The Fuck Up. She's tired of the crybaby. Your diatribe made me want to bitch slap you.

"She's literally..." who the fuck cares. As in, I fucking don't care to hear the "her" part ad nauseium.

And yeah. She'll think you're butthurt if you really do STFU, cause you are. So fuck it. Do it any way.

Find something else to do, somewhere else. Oh wait, that requires a mission. Till you figure that out, work on something around the house. Or park at Walmart and reread another book.

Nobody cares. STFU. Work harder.

redwall92 · 2024-02-05T13:40:06+00:00

with not being able to "turn on" attractive behaviors with their wife and kill their unattractive behaviors

The Konami Code is what you seek.

businessstravel · 2024-02-03T23:08:32+00:00

Wow...

A lot of words just to tell us you are butthurt.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2024-02-14T18:56:37+00:00

Add Way of the Superior Man by David Deida and 3% Man by Corey Wayne.

Paraphrasing: The 3% man is one of the 3 out of 100 (men) that a woman meets and is drawn to (him) because he understands who she is, and better yet understands who HE is.

Your problem is you derive so much of your identity from your wife's validation. You feel slighted b/c your wife didn't reciprocate your hug: She could be actually stessed over dishes, the kids aren't doing well at school, or maybe you're an unattractive bitch. Whatever the reason(s) you are taking responsiblity over a frame outside of your control (your wife's).

So wtf do you do? Read more including the aforementioned books and really establish your MAP. Next time your wife brushes you off, you should just laugh, not take it personally, and reprioritize your purpose as more important than your wife. If she wants to be a higher priority, she'll make it easy for you to make that decision.

Fuck godspeed, be an ubemensch.

Praexology · 2024-02-22T18:10:37+00:00

When she shit tests me I will immediately take it personally as a slight and either DEER or try to call her out for being hurtful/rude and try to establish what I thought was a boundary,

What do you think a boundary is?

mrpmyself · 2024-02-04T07:37:05+00:00

You’ve read NMMNG twice and still don’t realise you are the dog hovering around under the table for scraps?

Title	Man-Child looking for ways to stop taking shit tests from wife so personally
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Date	February 3, 2024 9:32 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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