Current Description: I’m 27 and have a submissive, friendly, loving, 22yo gf who lives in my house. We’re both college graduates, and both make above six figures, with me making more than her (I hooked her up with a great job after she graduated). She’s great- she cooks nearly every meal we have, does the laundry, makes the bed, does our shopping, and follows my lead inside the house and out. She puts out whenever I want, initiates sometimes, and is into everything that I am. She believes in traditional gender roles, and she even adopted my religion. We’re in agreement on her quitting her job and becoming a full time homemaker once we have kids, and both want as many kids as possible.

Personality-wise, she is the best girl I’ve met. More stable than many of my guy friends, she takes criticism extremely well, and she has few to none of the normal annoying girl traits (she doesn’t really whine, she takes responsibility / accountability whenever she’s wrong, she apologizes, she doesn’t give me shit tests, and she doesn’t start unnecessary fights).

The Issues: For me, feelings of attraction and love have been much slower than in other relationships. She isn’t blonde, she has curly hair, and she used to be fat (hence the great personality), so her skin has stretch marks and isn’t as firm as I’m used to on girls. She was overweight when we met so I didn’t take her seriously, but she’s lost almost 100lbs in total and is down to ~135lbs (5’8”), and her looks have significantly improved. It’s now to a point where she looks great in dresses and dyes her hair (hair is very important to me), but it’s still imperfect. She is pretty, but I’ve been with more attractive girls and I could do better physically (though I don’t think it’s likely I could find a girl with a better personality).

At the beginning of the LTR I set a mental limit of 1 year to decide whether this would work (and start having kids) or whether to move on. I want children and a large family, so I don’t want to wait until my mid 30’s to start, and don’t want to spend time in a LTR unless it will work. My deadline is rapidly approaching, and I’m uncertain.

The Questions: - Nobody will be perfect, so at what point do I give up trying to “find better” and settle with what I have? - If looks are going to fade with pregnancy and age anyway, is it stupid of me to be so focused on her looks now? - Did any of you in successful marriages actually feel like your wife was the be-all end-all when you proposed? - Have any of you had similar feelings, and how did you navigate this?

Stats: I’m an attractive 6’0”, 180lbs, toned. No fap / no porn for 4+ years

Tl;dr: I (M27) have a live-in 1yr LTR (F22). I’m struggling with deciding on whether to start having kids with her or trying to “upgrade” to find better.