Gentlemen,

I have come to the realisation that as per the title i DEER like a motherfucker for no reason. I have put it down to the bluepill desire to make others feel ok (TM) about things, at some times when there is not even a reason too. We normally talk about DEERing AS A RESPONSE to shit test or other comments / criticism from the wife. DEERing is a very submissive behaviour (this may have been covered but i have not seen it).

I have consciously been counteracting my desire to voluntarily DEER to make someone else feel good. Fairly obviously this is via STFU, and then at times a bit of awkward silence. But either way it is definitely a more alpha way of doing things. The trying to make someone else feel good is very submissive. I am curious about your perspective on this desire to make others feel good (TM) about a situation, and the correction of this behaviour by giving LESS FUCKS.

A (really fucking basic) example of this:

Good friend damages something of mine, maybe smashes a pair of sunglasses by accident or something

Voluntary DEER Response: "It's ok, i needed a new pair anyway"

Anyway, thought this might be of interest as my recent lack of voluntary deering has been an interesting change to some outcomes. It often leads to an explanation or even deering from the other person, putting them in the submissive position

EDIT - - TLDR: I've stopped justifying / excusing others behaviour for them (bluepill submissive) and found it very beneficial

EDIT 2 - I'm aware this is straight from nmmng in principle, I just missed the all-round application