When friend's become an issue

cholomite · 2016-12-13T15:31:09+00:00

Unless the guy was a really good friend of mine, I'd spare my girl the drama of having to hang out with another girl she is having beef with. I'm cool with most of my gf's friends husbands, but if she was mad at that friend for whatever reason I'd skip the drama and invite someone else or just keep it low key. But hey, if you really like the guy than go for it.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-12-13T16:42:23+00:00

Why not tell your wife to unfuck shit with her friend?

Lead her to mending the issue & do that before the party.

If my wife got in a fight with my best friend's wife we'd say fuck em' & go do our own thing. If we wanted to do shit together, we'd force them to see the retarded shit they're fighting over and for them to get over it.

When push comes to shove though, I'm behind my wife fuck the haters.

If they cannot be together, then the couple can't come over until my friend unfucks his girl or my wife lets the grudge go.

Do shit as a bromance without the chicks.

Pinelero · 2016-12-13T15:59:57+00:00

You invite them over, as he is your friend. The wife/her money issues can be resolved in the long-term; this is not a emotional issue like an affair or something.

The two ladies don't have to talk to each other and can hang out in separate parts of the house if they want.

SampsonBrass · 2016-12-13T16:05:55+00:00

Why do you want to invite them?

Scurvemuch · 2016-12-13T16:07:46+00:00

just to clear up : you are not primarily friends with either the girl in question or the dude right?

If not, why are you thinking about inviting them? That shit is for HER to decide. I invite MY friends because I want to see them.

If Jack's wife Jill and my wife have some issues : I am inviting my friend Jack. If he brings his wife, I will be polite and talk to my friend Jack. No one ever said my Friends WIFE and my WIFE have any reason to chat other than to be purely socially polite.

bogeyd6 · 2016-12-13T16:42:49+00:00

In all fairness to you, this is a classic problem of "giving a fuck when it ain't your turn to give a fuck". My issue with this would be respecting your wife's issues and problems, but not making them your own. In social settings with regards to manners you would not invite two people who are in a rough patch to a small gathering. That would be more reserved for a large event. My advice would be to go with your inner beta because it apparently knows right from wrong. Should you go with the inner alpha their contention would be palatable and the other couple will only serve to be uncomfortable. Last thoughts, they are women. They will probably be best friends again by the time you see this comment.

fuckingfocusgodamnit · 2016-12-13T17:02:14+00:00

I'd tell her that I wanted to respect her feelings on the matter, but that I would like to see our friends. I'd also say that I think that in the spirit of Christmas/holiday time it could be a good opportunity to establish that while the beef may not be resolved yet, the friendship is ultimately more important than the beef, and that gestures like this often have symbolic value that can lead to a resolution (assuming that this is true/relevant in this case, of course; I'm flying blind here regarding the beef specifics). At the same time make sure she knows I recognize that the holidays should be as enjoyable & stress free as possible, so I won't push further on how she feels. Then I'd ask her to think about how she felt on the matter and follow up with her that evening.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-12-13T20:44:21+00:00

You have two issues. My wife is upset. I react to her emotions. My friend is my friend and I want him around.

Make time with your friend. If your wife becomes an unruly cunt, then deal. Bitch politics generally resolves itself.

MRedScoundrel · 2016-12-13T18:34:10+00:00

Do whatever is the most net fun for you.

If you are mad at yourself for caring too much about your wife's beef as you make this decision, you can address that after.

470_2_700_nm · 2016-12-13T15:49:22+00:00

Bring this other woman over and try to isolate her along with your wife for a threesome. Get one to put your balls in their mouth and the other your dick.

You'll tell yourself later handling the drama was worth it - you owned it mother fucker!

Seriously, just decide what you want to do and do it. Weigh it out, I have no idea of the proportions at play in this social dynamic, only you do.

Title	When friend's become an issue
Author	drty_pr
Upvotes	2
Comments	28
Date	December 13, 2016 3:23 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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