WOTSM - Withholding Ejaculation?

HornsOfApathy · 2019-01-31T16:40:23+00:00

I've listened to it no less than 10x - those specific chapters. I'll give you my take.

Ejaculation is power. It's a pretty raw power, one that both sexes crave. However, it's about who's in control of that power. If you're fucking your woman hard and deep - watching her body move below you while she screams in extasy you're in control of your ejaculation.

I think of my wife as a siren. She naturally at times wants to control the ejaculation because she momentarily wants me to feel good. Allowing your woman to control that is signaling to her that she has raw ultimate power over you. Sure, she like it when you cum because it makes you and her feel good.

When you choose your own pleasure over hers, it signals to her: "Great, I'm happy he came. But he chose a momentary splurge of pleasure over my own pleasure. I have the power to drain him anytime I want. I am powerful over him." ..... this goes completely against dominance in the bedroom.

If you are in control of the ejaculation, you don't give her that power. You CHOOSE to ejaculate. Sometimes you don't.

Have you ever been with your woman and fucked her senseless then not cum in the same session? If you haven't try it sometime and watch her reaction. She might even beg you to cum for her. She may get back down to slobbing on your cock just to make you. Hold fast: "Not tonight, baby. Next time."

What do you think happens when you have that kind of control over the most primal natural instinct?

Strength, motherfucker.

BluepillProfessor · 2019-01-31T16:38:14+00:00

I don't think he actually recommends this for all men but presents it as an alternative. This technique is drawn from Tantric Sex methods developed in the far East thousands of years ago. The philosophy was that holding onto your essence (semen) increased your Yang Energy or some such.

The best application I have seen is for men with premature ejaculation. Once you learn to hold it in, you can keep going and going for as long as you want.

red-sfpplus · 2019-01-31T17:11:06+00:00

I have wore a male chastity cage two times.

Did not care for the first time. The second time was intense. You think being deprived an ejaculation is maddening try being deprived a hard on when your woman is purposefully trying to give you one.

Sex is power. Ejaculations is power. I have no problem every blue moon giving her that power. Makes her feel like a strong woman over a strong man. But you can only do it so often.

For her tying her hands and feet to the bed and using a wand on her clit and depriving her of an ejaculation is pretty amazing as well.

Bottom line is it really doesn’t matter what any of us have to say. Try it if you like it cool if not cool. You make your own sex decisions

light-----------dark · 2019-01-31T22:45:14+00:00

Not sure what WOTSM is, but I’ve been withholding ejaculation during sex for about 8 months now.

A few of the many benefits that I’ve experienced are:

Increased energy throughout the day.
Increased mental performance: memory recall, easily learning new language, critical thinking.
Sex lasts for hours (I’ve gone upwards of 3-4 hours straight at times).
Full body orgasms (shaking, vibrating, white light - this is distinct from climaxing/ejaculating)
Multiple orgasms for the woman, and heavy flow of secretions.
Deep bonding between both partners.

It’s a life changing experience, and I feel like a fucking god.

Mantak Chia’s book Taoist Secrets of Love: Harnessing the Male Sexual Energy goes in depth about this practice.

In short, our semen is our life force - we literally create life with it. If we aren’t creating life, there’s a strong argument to made that this life force can enhance our own life, experience and vitality when harnessed - it’s a bit esoteric, but those who dabble can benefit from it.

Lastly, from a psychological perspective, and this is speculation / theory from my own experience, this practice seems to demand respect from women. A woman can get semen from any guy she wants - there are hundreds of thousands that will give it up at any moment to get their jollies off. Additionally, it requires effort for a man to control ejaculation at his own discretion. . So for a woman to receive multiple mind-blowing orgasms while flowing like Niagara Falls, and for a man to command the entire experience without climaxing (but still benefit immensely), how can she not respect that?

Just a few thoughts. It’s not for everybody, but it’s very rewarding for the few that explore it.

Edit: it may be worth clarifying that the above is not the only way to demand respect from a woman, but it is one way. . Given that TRP is used for navigating sexual strategy, perhaps it’s a relevant way to be considered.

LeadingMyLife · 2019-01-31T19:15:47+00:00

I practice orgasm without ejaculation. It has taken a while for me to get the hang of it but it has had positive effects.

First it creates a type of scarcity effect for my wife that she loves. She doesn't know if I'm going to cum or not and that thrills her. She usually begs me for it or tries harder to push me over the edge.

Second, it creates a power over your base sexual function. This is a control that, for me, I enjoy trying to master.

Third, when I choose not to cum I retain my energy afterwards and when I choose to cum it is more rewarding for both of us. She knows she has to work for it and that is a lot of fun for both.

Overall, I choose when and where I cum and withholding per my desire has added to my enjoyment.

Ridabewa · 2019-01-31T16:33:36+00:00

I’m not married, but it definitely instills dread in some women. It’s put them on their back foot. Was I not sexy enough? He’s saving it for someone else? If a woman won’t blow me before sex, then after sex if I haven’t come, she’ll blow me! I don’t know why men won’t use this technique. Your orgasm is your trump card - use it!

maxofreddit · 2019-01-31T16:39:16+00:00

I think it has more to do with self control. Basically, if you can control THAT, then you probably have a pretty good base for controlling other parts of your life.

If I remember right, he’s also big on ducking long enough to give a cervical orgasm, which, from what I understand, is even more intense, but it takes a while for the lady to get there.

There’s some undertone there of “dependability” if I remember right as well. As in, can she depend on you to hold on long enough so she gets her jollies out, if you can’t, then she’s “too much” for you and it throws her perception of you off (you’re lower).

That’s me going off having read it years ago. I could be putting my own shit in there a bit. ;)

Don_Draper27 · 2019-01-31T18:10:44+00:00

You can learn to orgasm without ejaculation. I love it. It feels just as good as ejaculation, if not better at times. And, you don’t deflate and physically collapse after. You keep your energy, if not gain energy because you have pent up sexual energy.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-01-31T18:48:33+00:00

For me, it can feel better and give you an longer orgasm if you do not ejaculate.

Other than that, I personally have so much sex that it is difficult for me to ejaculate. Probably once every 3 times I get off. Recently it has been more. We go till I orgasm. Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't.

When she does, it's super hard if she hasn't for a few times, same with me. The longer you go, usually the better it feels when it does happen.

Countpudyoola · 2019-02-01T14:20:52+00:00

I think the Latin for this type of line of thought is

Autistico et retardo.

No thanks.

mabden · 2019-01-31T19:30:32+00:00

> I am still utterly confused about the chapter on withholding ejaculation during sex.

Purity of Essence

JTCX · 2019-01-31T16:39:44+00:00

Not sure what WOTSM is.

Manual Chia - The Multi Orgasmic Man.

Powerful book, and any men who want to explore that side of their sexuality, I'd recommend reading it.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-01-31T16:32:52+00:00

I agree, it’s retarded. Not into that.

When MCT wants to bust a nut he does so.

DJiamuzak · 2019-02-01T02:30:16+00:00

Late forties guys here. Every year we do a week sex vacation (planned by me). What younger guys don’t realize is that sex twice a day is draining. I only nut on the last day. 1. That way I’m rock hard leading up and spew a gallon after a week. 2. I have complete control over her orgasms. 3. Like another post said, I can last as long as it takes for her to be rubber legged. 4. She is so sexually charged she’ll do anything. 5. It’s discipline and mastery over your hind brain. 6. Women appreciate someone w self control. I overheard my wife tonight bragging to her friend on the phone that I stopped drinking.

All in all, I recommend you try it.

screechhater · 2019-02-01T22:49:44+00:00

Man, I love fucking my wife until she needs lube and then she is grinding on me doggystyle and she is squirting buckets, knowing in the back of my mind I can control myself for as long as I want.

Don't fucking power trip over this, just learn to control yourself

It’s a good idea to mix it up and let her know she does excite you, but you do need some things for you, to send you over the edge.

This past weekend, a very salient comment was made after a fuck fest when I decide to blow in about 12 minutes vs 1/2 hour or not, after some foreplay, planting the seed of needing some more “fun” vs me just inserting and fucking all the time, thanks to having to rush, thanks to kids

Imaginary_Historian · 2019-02-01T01:30:31+00:00

Why do we want power over women anyway? Isn't a big part of it so we can have our way with them sexually when we want? I don't see the point here of limiting my own enjoyment of sex as a way to get that power. And for what, so you can have more sex that you don't enjoy fully?

When I fuck a girl I am going to cum, end of story. She may or may not cum.

But I suppose if you get off from having more power than from actually getting off, then more power to you.

ManguZa · 2019-01-31T16:25:52+00:00

Dunno, seem useless to me.

jerrymcguiver · 2019-01-31T17:27:11+00:00

"Yeah baby cum for me!". Nah fuck that cum for yourself. Cuming for her is in her frame bro.

Title	WOTSM - Withholding Ejaculation?
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Date	January 31, 2019 4:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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