3rd day on the red pill

Gadsden1776 · 2015-07-22T21:00:34+00:00

Hunger is a spice for any meal. When you look back a year from now, it will have been a necessary part of the single greatest event of your life.

Whisper · 2015-07-22T22:29:26+00:00

And today, after ignoring my oneitis for just three days, I just want to text her. Not that she would even reply, but i am dying to get scraps from her table.

She is gone from your life. You will never be with her. You need to accept that now. Nothing I can teach you will undo the way she already thinks of you.

She thinks you are a loser. She holds you in contempt. This is will not change. This will not ever change. You could become dictator-for-life of the solar system, with a harem of a thousand gorgeous women, and an army of billions of fanatical worshippers, and she would just think you are "really good at faking it".

She doesn't love you. She doesn't even like you. You will never get anything worth having from her. What you are hungry for is forever beyond your reach. Reach for something else.

Archwinger · 2015-07-22T21:51:34+00:00

Older, dumber people than you figured this shit out much later in life and turned out happier for it.

You can't unlearn this. It's done. There's no going back to being ignorant.

Right now, you're probably angry. Frustrated. This is the fork in the road.

You'll either say fuck it, and devote yourself to a life of beer, porn, video games, and doing as little work as possible to get enough of a paycheck to keep your habits going.

Or you'll say fuck it and devote yourself to a life pursuing physical fitness, professional success, acquiring useful skills and interesting hobbies, and developing the social aptitude to chat up anyone, anywhere, and have a great time with whatever's going on.

One foot ahead of the other. Lift heavy shit, focus on excelling at work. Forget all about women. That'll come later.

AFPJ · 2015-07-22T21:28:34+00:00

I'm asking for is advice. How do you handle that transition from one state to the other?

Unless you were already fairly RP to begin with, you don't. Right now you're a bitch. Bitches can't handle the truth nor do they want to; you're a bitch not because you can't be a man but because you've been coddled, lied to and you've never had to be a man before: that necessity, that opportunity, hasn't arisen - our society generally makes sure of it.

You let yourself break back down into primordial ooze, a tadpole, at which point you have material worth sculpting.

vandaalen · 2015-07-22T21:16:57+00:00

Did you already start lifting or a full contact martial art? If the answer is "No": There you go.

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-07-22T21:13:47+00:00

Changing your mentality is one of the hardest things to do. It certainly can be done, but if you want too much at the same time you'll be disappointed and eventually give up.

Small steps, reasonable goals, clear priorities. For example: merely limit social media and video games at first so you can focus more on ignoring your oneitus. Keep a diary to track your progress and setbacks, be honest with yourself and evaluate.

Modified_Hackware · 2015-07-22T22:18:04+00:00

Don't give what you want the most, for what you want now.

Interversity · 2015-07-22T22:25:10+00:00

I found the best way to handle it to be getting really fucking pumped about the new mindset and how much you can improve. If you can see it as the best thing that ever happened to you, you'll find the strength to continue.

Merwebb · 2015-07-22T23:50:50+00:00

Take it easy, you already started the path to your own freedom, and thats way more than you used to have.

Open your mind and accept your flaws, work towards a better you

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-07-22T23:56:43+00:00

So, go out and talk to a different girl. Any girl. Doesn't matter who, just approach and talk to her.

You will discover that the things that made your unicorn so special aren't that unique, or special, or worthy of your everlasting praise.

thefisherman1961 · 2015-07-23T00:21:21+00:00

How do you handle that transition from one state to the other?

You can't expect immediate results. Right now you're still in the Denial Phase. It's going to take you some time to fully accept it. The only thing you can do to speed up the process is lift and keep reading /r/theredpill.

thor_away92 · 2015-07-23T01:44:13+00:00

I feel like I am fighting myself.

You are, keep going. . . .

I'm asking for advice

One thing that is commonly overlooked on TRP is habit breaking. "Hold frame, be a man, blah blah." Okay the reality of all of this is that, your vices (social media, coffee, video games) are a major speed bump and can be difficult to break. Shift your focus on yourself instead of women for now. . .

The reason I am bringing up the habit breaking and its difficulty is this; These are habits that have had years to develop and WILL NOT be easy to break free from. You have stated that you quit all your vices cold turkey and feel exhausted. This is why it's so draining, your normal you has came to a halt and is being reprogrammed. Hence the whole "fighting myself". . . . TRP is a lot like lifting and fighting. Take it easy, take it slow, and learn technique before you go balls to the walls. Otherwise if you don't you're gonna hurt something and be out the game even longer. . TLDR: Take it easy, little steps are okay. And the whole unplugging process won't be so god damn painful. (Progress is progress. Fuck anyone's opposing opinion on that matter)

Also ignore the periods I'm gonna learn how to paragraph break now.

Frdl · 2015-07-23T01:49:37+00:00

I'm 26 and I've been in the anger phase since October.

sodainthewatercup6 · 2015-07-23T02:23:14+00:00

I'm over 18 months in... You have to make the decision to stick with it every single day. Enjoy.

TRP7203 · 2015-07-23T03:48:27+00:00

Become disgusted with yourself, hate yourself. That's what I did. It wasn't just that I wanted to change, I HAD to.

redpilldude · 2015-07-23T04:05:35+00:00

How do you handle that transition from one state to the other?

You need to lift, get ripped, lose weight, and learn game. That will take time. In the meantime, you need to get over your oneitis. You need to realize that women are all the same; there is nothing special about the chick that you were dating.

The best way to get over your oneitis is by going balls-deep in another pussy. Get a FWB or spin plates. Even if you can't get HB9s, you can still get your rocks off with 4s and 5s, for now. After you improve your SMV, you can start gaming HB8s and 9s.

NidStyles · 2015-07-23T05:28:52+00:00

Have you started lifting yet?

fuccboi9000 · 2015-07-23T05:39:22+00:00

at least you weren't bluepilled til death.

[deleted] · 2015-07-23T06:42:37+00:00

it gets much easier once it's all Cemented in your brain. The lifting, the diet, the removal of instant gratification, the realization of all the bullshit society feeds you, the extroverted activities. All of it becomes fun once it's part of who you are.

And you can still enjoy girls one at a time of that is your thing. I am seeing 5 or 6 now but all but one is on back burner (once every other week). Totally falling in love with this one and it's a ton of fun. But at the end of the day, I keep my frame and I know she's AWALT. That's why I have the backups. You can still enjoy the sensation and emotion even though the veil has been lifted.

Anomagnus · 2015-07-23T07:34:57+00:00

Thanks for all the solid advice guys. A lot of you asked about lifting, and i went back to the gym owner who I am pretty friendly with, and we agreed I was just going through the motions. He's gonna put me under the wing of one of the other gym members who I know is a monster, and we're gonna work on doing things differently.

I'm also switching out the kickboxing for something else, maybe mma. I need to change things.

As for everything else, including the oneitis, and holding my self together, all solid advice. I'm determined to make this work. I dont want to have wasted any more of my 30s. Thanks everyone.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-07-23T13:49:44+00:00

Use the frustration to fuel your lifting. You are lifting right?

intelcorei5 · 2015-07-23T16:35:31+00:00

Monk mode isn't easy. It's not required. Changing your mentality is required.

Changing yourself overnight is hard for the brain. Especially if you're going cold turkey on several things. Building new habits takes time and concentration.

I'm not trying to talk you out of monk mode. I'm making you aware: you chose a difficult path. It's worth it, and it gets easier.

dogs-not-cats · 2015-07-23T11:41:54+00:00

Life is a one way street, there's no u-turn and there's no going back to re-do things. The good news is you are still above the ground and not old, and you have become enlightened.

You want advice? OK: Don't be mean to yourself. The past is over, you cant change it. It's in the rear view mirror.

Take it slow. 3 days is a start, but this is going to a marathon, not a sprint. It's going to take years, not days.

Continue to read the side bar. Then read it again.

Get in shape. Lift. Eat right.

Dress better.

Lurk in here. A lot.

Observe the red pill in everyday life. Now that you know about it, it's everywhere, you will see it in your friends, co-workers, TV shows, movies, advertisements, random people's comments, etc etc.

Dont talk about the red pill to people outside these subs

Dont go to other subs and raise shit.

Put yourself first. Dont be selfish but do make yourself your #1 priority

CptJackSwallows · 2015-07-22T22:12:39+00:00

get tinder, text game random girls. it will keep you occupied and can help with calibration

Title	3rd day on the red pill
Author	Anomagnus
Upvotes	21
Comments	33
Date	July 22, 2015 8:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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