Advice on getting sex drive back... practically turning asexual smh

319Skew · 2020-03-20T04:54:31+00:00

I'm not trolling but do you even want to fuck? I'm saying this because I have been there where I was having a dry spell. I'd get IOIs and would get numbers and dates but honestly didn't feel like fucking and would make stupid decisions or basic mistakes.

On meditation I discovered that I wasn't into it because I was not in my headspace. I was taking as something I should do instead of something I wanted to do.

Vofz · 2020-03-20T00:53:57+00:00

Even with all the lifting you're doing you could be testosterone-deficient. Only way to know is to get tested.

bearbludaddy · 2020-03-20T02:19:04+00:00

Hats off to you. This is the exact focus and mission first thinking that every TRP man should be striving for.

I've experienced what you're describing. It comes it ebbs and flows for me. And yes, you're right, it's because of you focus and determination that you've trained your mind and body to bend to your will- not the will or temptation of a hot girl, porn, etc,.

I now enjoy when I get in that zone because I am literally daring / taunting life to put a girl in my path that gets my attention. And usually it does. Women can smell it when we're in that zone, the longer you go the more you'll attract hotter women.

I would be surprised if you didn't have a BIG breakthrough in the next couple months. When it rains, it pours.

onlyanger · 2020-03-20T07:23:04+00:00

Dude it sounds like what you have is a fucking blessing, man. If you really want to have sex or even just masturbate, then go ahead and do that.. I don’t see what the actual problem is?

Tousen71 · 2020-03-20T03:41:33+00:00

29M and definitely feeling this. Dropped all my plates for an LTR, fast forward a month and I recently took blue chew just to prime. Not interested in masturbation. Couldn’t care less for porn. Been trying to keep an old plate in orbit for entertainment but more focused on my life and career than ever.

Considering an amended monk mode and seeing my LTR sparingly (1-2x a week) and just focusing on my mind, body, health, and purpose.

2020-03-20T04:01:17+00:00

Congratulations, you've gotten over the bug.

Now you can focus on other things.

Seriously. After my sex drive went down I had so much more attention to give to other things. Women are still a part of my life, but not the main focus any more. It's liberating.

Literally nothing is to be gained from fucking a lot when you really think about it. You get much more from working on a hobby, reading, or studying.

How old are you? Mine slowed down around 30.

Bluedog5x5 · 2020-03-20T00:52:18+00:00

Do yoga it’s helps sex drive..

My penis has also developed much larger blood vessels and thick, rich, lustrous skin tone. Although factors other than yoga such as my healthy diet, Himalayan pink salt and regular sleep habits play a major role, breathing development really made my cock bigger. My organ is plumper, fuller and weightier now. My dick looks fat, heavy and pendulous. My dick actually swings now!

My new big swinging dick makes me feel rich and powerful. My new cock makes me feel good. Plus I look really great at Palm Springs gay nude resorts and pool parties where I get lots of attention from big masculine men.

LLL3peat · 2020-03-20T03:48:51+00:00

Sounds like you aren’t eating enough as well as you need rest and saturated fat. Do a reefed for 3-4 days (300-400 calories over maintenance) and see what happens. You won’t magically gain weight but the 300-400 calorie increase might give you more energy in the gym which will make your lifts stronger and faster.

Other thing which makes me think is how much caffeine are you drinking ? Possibility are over stimulated and this effect happens when you do an EC stack.

Rest, eat a little more, cut the caffeine for a couple days, evaluate. Make sure your fats are at least 65g to ensure it’s hot your fat intake.

kenseikye · 2020-03-20T03:42:39+00:00

I don’t think you’re low T when you’re so focused on your goals women naturally become almost trivial, I can say for myself that I’m almost in the same boat as you except I practise semen retention and have made a conscious effort to remain mostly celibate these past two years, women take time and money frankly I find it tiresome, I rather just let encounters happen naturally than chasing or using dating apps, I’ve improved my life in ways that wouldn’t of been possible had I fucked around more, you may not agree with me but it is a sacrifice you should seriously consider because you may just need a shift in perspective to solve this.

warthundersfw · 2020-03-20T07:39:02+00:00

Im on the same boat, I’m a regular above average dude though. I’m philosophically lazy, have everything I need or want. I can separate my mind from what I want and make myself not want it. I was in Cancun and the night before I fucked a girl that looked like Alita battle angel but without fucked up eyes. Definitely my type. But the next day o was morose, while the rest partied I took some time by the beach in darkness and realized that I didn’t want anything. It made me feel kinda dead for the first time ever. I told a friend that who wondered where I was. Well I was stating facts and told him I don’t think I want anything anymore. And he said, you know you have my number, call anytime you want. Well I just about lost it. I walked away and composed myself after 10 seconds. I also don’t care for bitches anymore. I can’t look at them and want to know them or feel any sort of connection anymore. My mind is so separated, don’t even feel human anymore.

Sketch123456 · 2020-03-20T13:03:28+00:00

I've been lifting on and off for 10 years.

I'm 27 for reference.

Got tested and my test levels came back at high 600's.

Im definitely not low T. But I experienced what you're experiencing. It's probably that you aren't as focused on women. Your goals are pushing your mind into a direction that is not around women or getting laid.

Me personally, my day to day job and life puts me out of contact with women. And I think over time that has had an effect on my overall sex drive. Not seeing a woman around that I would want to fuck or could fantasize about, has definitely lowered my sex drive.

Anyways I hope you can figure it out.

DiskKiller2 · 2020-03-20T10:17:31+00:00

Have your blood work done. When I work out really hard and/or don’t sleep enough, I seem to have a lower sex drive. A daily dose of Vitamin D and Brazil nuts* may help boost your testosterone somewhat.

*) this according to Tim Ferriss, who isn’t a doctor but “a human guinea pig”. Don’t eat too many, the selenium can be harmful in high doses. You can also overdose on Vitamin D so do google around a bit.

EvelynnSpoiler · 2020-03-20T11:12:45+00:00

Cistanche; tongkat ali (5 days on 2 days off); boron (10mg); zinc; magnesium; vitamin d (20,000IU); creatine; lots of saturated fats (avoid plant based diets); check for any deficiencie; 5g pine pollen twice a day; ashwagandha (cycle on and off).

Avoid fast food; alcohol; soy; endocrine disruptors (i.e. plastics; soy; lignans in flax seeds; tap water).

Lift heavy 4 days a week and start doing HIIT 3-4 days a week. Research shows that around 4 sets of 6-11 second sprints with (30-60 seconds rest) sends T levels shooting upwards. Finish every show you have with 30-60 seconds under the coldest temperature it has.

Try the Mr Happy Stack for a month when you begin (Google is your friend) if you're feeling down or depressed, as this also lowers T as well as chronic stress)

Bonus: shine a 650-840nm LED of red light on your chest and testicles for 20 mins a day.

Good luck

rnsbrum · 2020-03-20T13:06:13+00:00

T E S T O S T E R O N E

creamynebula · 2020-03-20T13:06:48+00:00

You say that you want to get laid and that you have no sex drive, I think they are mutually exclusive statements.

warburgio · 2020-03-20T13:41:11+00:00

Check ur blood work, hormones might be out of sync- cortisol, testosterone, estrogen, vitamin d etc.

bilabrin · 2020-03-20T14:49:30+00:00

In my experience the following things increase my libido:

*8-9 hrs of sleep per day.

*Squats, deadlifts, leg press.

*Eating carbohydrates, especially bread.

*Taking BCAA's (also this lifts my mood)

*No fap for over 8 days.

*Regular cardio, walking/biking/elliptical/spin etc...

*Feeling clean, having a clean house and a settled mind.

*Talking to beautiful girls.

All this may help your libido but I see a potentially deeper issue. Your post suggests that you may hang your self-worth/happiness on getting laid. It could be beneficial to reflect on why this is so important to you and if this drive makes sense in the context of your larger goals.

wyota · 2020-03-20T15:21:56+00:00

Apart from the main, obvious stuff, keep your cortisol low. Like mental stress, too much physical stress spikes it, so either have frequent rest period or train at lower intensity everyday. Training until failure is just effective at the margins and is more likely to wear you and kill testosterone in even the medium term. This is the most overlooked mistake possibly.

Get a LOT more than 20 minutes a day of sun if your skin is even light brown. Things like cold showers, fasting, sleeping during ideal and consistent hours while the sun is down, and sauna and some supplements will help.

WayThrownAway3 · 2020-03-20T15:55:02+00:00

Heavy ass to floor squats, and intermittent sprinting (running at high speed then sprinting at full speed for as long as you can, then back to running) is the standard to bring up your testosterone and sex drive.

Long cardio sessions will definitely bring your mind and body together which will help with your mental srx drive as well as increasing your erection strength and libido overall.

You can do steroid cycles which will make you into a fuck machine and you'll be thinking about sex nonstop. (but this is a lifestyle you have to be willing to adapt and commit to and really learn 100% and spend hours of studying before even getting into it.)

Yohimbine HCL will increase sex drive. (usually you have to take it for about a week to see effects).

Vitamin D and Zinc are incredibly important for testosterone production and libido, and the zinc will give you INSANE LOADS.

Ginko Biloba and Ginseng may also help, especially the Ginko.

You need to test your testosterone and free testosterone levels. It's an easy and cheap test that any doctor can quickly order for you.

You can also try doing intermitent NOFAP which in itself make your body want to find a partner and increase your libido highly.

zboo1h · 2020-03-20T18:24:50+00:00

Believe it or not sometimes there are more important things than wet, stinky holes.

And sometimes, you want to be 100% yourself, and not play the little games it requires to explore those stinky holes. Sometimes even despite yourself, you still get access to those stinky holes. And then sometimes, you fuck it up on purpose just to see the look on the face of the owner of those stinky holes.

breakdatass · 2020-03-20T01:14:36+00:00

Just take some time off from fucking.

sektor447 · 2020-03-20T03:44:18+00:00

get a gf with high goals too, u get laid and get to love.

goofballgorilla · 2020-03-20T03:52:14+00:00

What are your porn habits like?

life036 · 2020-03-20T10:25:55+00:00

Careful with that nofap shit; studies consistently show that cleaning out your pipes regularly significantly reduces your risk for prostate cancer.

redvelvet_oreo · 2020-03-20T03:49:53+00:00

Just because you lift weights dosent mean your T levels are high. You should get them checked along with many other things you can find on the testosterone sub.

Are you eating enough? Are you over training? Are you sleeping enough?

For me I had an issue where my Vitamin D levels would be low normal and drop slightly below. Doctors thought nothing of it. I started taking Vitamin D 5000 UI twice a day for a week and my sex drive was insane. Clearly there was an issue there.

Im not saying this is your problem but you need blood work and you need to do research. People will advocate for TRT if you have multiple low T values but that is a band aid if your not finding the root cause of your problem

ilovewi · 2020-03-20T03:29:42+00:00

You sound pretty neurotic. Even doing the bare minimum for sex get old time to time.

aDrunkenWhaler · 2020-03-20T02:49:14+00:00

Your testosterone is definitely low. Go do some tests.
You need to decide if you want to sacrifice time in order to have sex, or continue to focus on your goals. If the first, you need to make a plan and stick to it, even if you don't feel like it.
Kegels & jelquing help a lot with having hard-ons. So do blowjobs and sticking a finger in a girl's ass. Put time into it if you want to make it work.

Title	Advice on getting sex drive back... practically turning asexual smh
Author	dxbfmby
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Date	March 20, 2020 12:50 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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