Hey guys! I have been these last few weeks contributing to AskTRP, trying to help and advice you in your concerns.
This time, although I have an answer in my head, I would like to know your opinion and it is quite important for me.
I've been in an LTR for quite some time, and this girl has been very good to me. He has invested a lot in the relationship, even more than I. Great talk, great support, great sex, great chemistry. I can assure you that she is interested and that the attraction is constant.
Last night, we were talking about us and our future, and she said she was so happy that she can imagine ourselves in the future, being a family. Anyway, that does not move my floor.
"Trust in what she does, not what she says"
But later, she told me that she talks with her ex bf. About college and their lives, etc. Her ex knows she is in a LTR with me and he is "happy" for us.
Let's make this clear now: Im not insecure of her love. Im sure she's attracted to me, and if she's not and she want to leave, I'm totally fine with that. I can move on, she's the one who will lose the most. But embracing that she talks to him, it's not the most pleasing thing in the world.
I love my ex GF too, and i will allways love her; There are people who made your life better at some point and you can always be thankful for that. But I do not even think about talking to exes. And now, my LTR talking to her ex, even though I do not feel insecure, maybe she has feelings for him yet.
So, the question is: Do you think this is a big red flag? I did not set any boundaries about not talking to exes but I thought it was obvious.
** EDIT 2**: Thank you guys, you've been so helpful. As a conclusion (wich i made with your help) I think that telling something about this to her is tricky, ending up as a needy person. If she want to talk to her ex, she will do it even if im bitchy about it, and that will make the things even worse because the attraction will be pushed down to me. I'll keep the frame and take this as a shit test. I'll look at her actions, and probably getting her into plate if a real deal happens from this.
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